Last year I ended a relationship of 4yrs. We had a baby together and I have since moved on to another relationship that has me currently engaged . I have not ended speaking with my ex while in this new relationship and I'm starting to feel like I have feelings I can't explain for him, even though this new relationship is healther and parental approved. Let me not forget to mention that my pass relationship ended due to my ex's infadelity and temper. He says he's still in love with me but I haven't brought myself to return the expression. I love my new thing but I think im well over knee deep in this engagement to turn back and subject myself to the same old stuff I experienced with my ex. We have a child together and I would love nothing more then for my child to have an ideal situtation especially if I can provide that for my baby. I'm extrememly stress out, help.
2006-08-17 09:42:26 · 7 answers · asked by Kennedy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I'm not quite sure I understand your question. You want to know if you should reunite with your ex?
You already said that he has a temper, was unfaithful and that this relationship is healthy. So why would you want to go back to him??
I understand you have a child together, & I believe that you should stay on friendly terms with the father, for the child's sake. But really, who do you think can give this child (& you) what is needed; an angry infidel or someone that truly loves you?
2006-08-17 09:52:40 · answer #1 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a biological father in the household with a huge temper and loyalty problems is NOT an "ideal situation" for your baby! What are you thinking?!
I don't know if your new beau is any better, but I can say you DEFINITELY don't want that old one back in your life.
Please, seek counseling about these types of feelings. Your child is counting on you to make the right choices in a sane, well-thought-out way.
2006-08-17 16:36:10 · answer #2 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dun know why both of you separated. But if you wanted to reconciled with your ex bcoz for the sake of the children, I dun think the relation will work out well.
No doubt you want your kids have the best in their life but if both of you stay together for the sake of the children will result in more problems . It could be a bad influence for the child coz he/she may see both of you quarrelling over trivia matters. What you need to do now is to carry on with your life and move forward. Be brave and stay together with your kid
2006-08-17 18:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by Forgettable 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT go back to the ex and enjoy your new guy. Getting with someone for the sake of a child is BULL. If you find you are getting feelings for the ex you need to limit contact to him UNLESS it is regarding the child.
2006-08-17 10:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to step back and have some you time... honestly. You need to figure out what you want and what is best for your child. It sounds like you are in a good healthy relationship now and your ex is just envious and having some jealous tendencies
2006-08-17 10:00:07 · answer #5 · answered by jessica 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO - be smart enough to make the mistake only once. Your ex provided you with enough reason for you to leave once, don't put yourself in the path to let it happen again.
Furthermore, it sounds like you need to reexamine your current relationship too. If you are questioning it now, it's not going to get easier once you're married to him.
2006-08-17 09:55:51 · answer #6 · answered by albertan_homegrown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you think that he has feelings for you also cuz if he does than you two should just get back together
2006-08-17 09:49:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋