He is very respectful, but I want an outsiders point of view. Do you think he is just in it for sex? Do you think that he could possibly really want to be with her? Would you look at him as a pervert if you saw them out together? I just need some honest advice please. THANKS!!!!! If your just going to be rude plz dont bother responding.
2006-08-17 09:40:33 · 49 answers · asked by kelly b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is always a tough call because it is really dependent upon the people involved. There are guys that would be serious about a girl that much younger and there are guys that are just in it for the sex and the ego boost. This girl needs to be cautious and not jump into this relationship. She also needs to think about what it will mean for her to date someone so much older. She has just come of age to really go out and have fun and party and experience life, while he has already done all of that and is going to be more interested in settling down and his life is full of responsibilities. Is the girl ready to give up doing a lot of the things her friends will be doing just so she can be with him? These are all things to consider, the key is to be honest and make the best choices possible.
2006-08-17 09:49:22 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My answer would be the same if your genders were reversed. Age and love is and are a state of mind. What the rest of the world thinks is irrelevant as you cannot please the rest of the world anyway. Females mature faster than males and the age difference between 22 & 37 means that in real time you are close to the same mental level. If the two of you are happy and content then to hell with the rest of the world. Be happy, live long, and you have my best wishes and my blessing.
2006-08-17 09:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once dated a girl 20 years younger than me. I wasn't in it just for the sex. I had genuine feelings for her.
Some people might look him as a pervert, but so what? Some people are going to think you're wrong no matter what you do so why worry about it? Tell them to get over it or go away.
If you like the guy and he likes you that's all that should matter.
2006-08-17 09:48:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think he's a perv if I saw an older man almost 40 hanging out with a young girl in her twenties. It's just not right, ya know? My mom's living with a guy almost 10 years older than her, and that grosses me out. If a guy is almost 40, and still isn't married, I hate to say it, but most likely he's in it for the sex. I am not trying to be rude, but I'm sure there's a younger man out there for you! Try dating someone in their 20's at most, not someone less than a decade shy of being old enough to be your father!
2006-08-17 09:50:43 · answer #4 · answered by x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he finds appealing is that he'll have a trophy g/f that he can parade around and impress his older male friends with. They'll all high-five him and ask him stories and be envious.
Nothing against you cause I'm sure your beautiful and great but the only thing I want from a 22 yr old girl is will she baby sit my kids while I go out on the town.
2006-08-17 09:51:54 · answer #5 · answered by Tony 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is similar to beyonce and jay-z. to be truthful, i can't say yes or no. on one hand, it is good to be with someone mature and experienced. on the other hand, won't you feel like he's slowing you down?
let's flip it for a while. i may take an older woman, but not too much older. i was born in '82. a woman born before '79 is too old for me.
is he in it just for sex? again, if you don't know, then i won't. feel him out. better yet, talk with him, even give him a lie detector test(LOL). if there is real love, then go for it. keep him. doesn't matter what people say, as long as you two really love each other.
2006-08-17 09:53:19 · answer #6 · answered by realstyles2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 22 with a 37 year old but they sorry man lied about his age. And usually at that age they have kids and exes. Too much baggage.
2006-08-18 09:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by kellylovesduke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age isn't an issue unless YOU make it an issue. You will know if he just wants sex by the way he acts.
If he is what you want than I say go for it and ignore the age difference!
2006-08-17 09:46:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen girl am 20 and i know a man whos 36 but i cant call it dating cuz he call me at night or 6 in the morning......i love him so much and he say he love me too but i have to wait so he can make it offcial cuz he older than me and his family and friends wont acccpet that but i think all he wants from is sex
so if u gonna the same mistake as me....i have to tell u dont even think about it cuz u will get hurt...
2006-08-17 09:51:03 · answer #9 · answered by xsxsxsx36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it depends on if you are and him are on the same maturity level them you will be ok,but if he is having a midlife crisis then I would rethink the relationship. You are still young and you can still have fun.Look at everything as a whole no parts.Success is earned not given.
2006-08-17 09:47:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋