A wishing well wedding means you ask for gifts of cash rather than presents...is this tacky?
2006-08-17 09:32:11 · 16 answers · asked by Kitten 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I have never heard of a wishing well wedding before, but i have heard of a wishing well being posted at the reception. The guests were not forced to put in money, but many did anyways with no problem.
I have heard of money dances, wall of dollars, carrying saches that the guests put money in (at that type of wedding there were no presents, just cash).
i think to specify that on an invitation is tacky though. It should be a guests choice on what they want to give to you for your wedding.
2006-08-17 09:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You can't put it in the invitation, it's not proper etiquette, and it's tacky. You have to have family and friends spread the word, but beware, you're still going to get gifts, so you might as well register somewhere so you at least get what you want. I just got married this past June and we spread the word that we wanted money, but we also registerd at Bed Bath & Beyond for those that really don't want to give money. We had our family and friends spread the word and if anyone seemed like they really, really didn't want to give money then they were told where we were registered. We had a guest list of 110, and we got a lot of money and just a few gifts, it worked out perfectly. But, if you don't register anywhere, you're going to get gifts that you don't want and can't be returned. It will work, I promise. We got way more money than I ever thought and it really came in handy. Just register for a few things. You could even throw in some expensive stuff you know nobody will buy, and then they'll have to give money. Good luck!
2006-08-17 09:44:30 · answer #2 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You invite people to your wedding because you want them to share the most important day of your life with them. A wedding isn't supposed to be a money/present grab fest.
The fact that asking for money or being specific about what gifts you will be happy to receive (gift registries) is growing in enormous popularity but that doesn't make it right. It's not only tacky to ask and expect anything from your guests other than the pleasure of their company..it's down right rude and the definition of vulgar.
If you want people to show up at your wedding, don't ask for cash or dictate what they should spend on you..be grateful for anything you are given and the fact they decided to show up.
If you are wanting this money to help cover the cost of your wedding..than cut down the showiness and be realistic about what you can and can't afford. The day should be about your wedding ceremony that's the important part..not the big after party.
2006-08-17 18:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by xanadu88 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No it's not tacky. I am getting married next year. We have lived together for serveral years and don't need toasters and things like that. I bought a gorgeous bird cage that we are going to decorate for the cards. I am not going to register for gifts so people get the idea. Wishing wells are always part of a wedding reception. It's only tacky if you tell people that you want gifts of cash rather than presents. I'm sure we'll get mostly cash but there is always someone that doesn't like to give cash because it is impersonal and buys and actual gift.
2006-08-17 10:04:03 · answer #4 · answered by dannigurl 1 · 2⤊ 3⤋
Yep, tacky. Like others have said, you don't even MENTION gifts of any kind on your wedding invitations. The best I can suggest is to pass the word around to family and friends, but I can tell you right now that there will be some people who will think you are greedy for requesting money.
2006-08-17 10:00:04 · answer #5 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT ASK FOR GIFTS OF CASH IN THE INVITATION. That is tacky. Having a wishing well at the reception where guests can stick their cards into is fine. It's tacky to come right out and say you only want cash.
What we did for our wedding is I didn't want a bridal shower so we didn't have one - I wasn't registered anywhere so everyone gave money. It worked out perfectly.
2006-08-17 09:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You never ASK for gifts or cash. Any mention of either on the invitation is EXTREMELY tacky. You pass the info by word of mouth & hope for the best.
2006-08-17 09:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think it's tacky to spell out for your guests exactly what gifts you want, whether that's by asking for cash or a very specific gift registry, but lots of people do it. Tacky reigns supreme.
2006-08-17 09:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by happygirl 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, asking for cash is tacky.
And a wishing well is not for cash, it's for small gifts and cards.
If your hard up on cash- tell your parents, close friends and bridesmaids that what you would rather have..... it's ok to tell close family and friends but not to publish the information.
I was a bridemaid and instead of gifts we all gave cash to the bride because we knew she need the money to help pay for deposits.
2006-08-17 10:09:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tacky's not the right word.
Maybe OFFENSIVE would be a more appropriate description.
It is RUDE to ask for gifts-- they are completely beside the point, and it's supposed to be quite a pleasant surprise to you that anyone wants to gift you with ANYTHING.
It is 10 times as rude to ask for money gifts specifically. People will remember for generations what a scumbag, moneygrubbing bride you were. Please, please don't do this. PLEASE.
2006-08-17 16:29:58 · answer #10 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋