if not, where does the idea come from
2006-08-17 09:27:58 · 49 answers · asked by ellen s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nobody wants to baby their spouse... I think men are just a little offset by bitchy women, not necessarily independence.
2006-08-17 09:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by Spiked Coffee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having dated many women, I don't know the answer, I can only give you my opinion. There are a number of factors but what it boils down to is this.
Most women are NOT independent.
Therefore, most men have not dated an independent woman, and have only the insecure types to go by. This leads to confusion if/when you do finally find one that is capable of acting in such a manner. Dating an independent woman can and does feel threatening if you're not on the same level, and most people that have been involved in mutually dependent relationships cannot match this level of togetherness.
In my experience, dating an independent woman is awesome, because even if it ends, it will end on a good note. This is the way things go between two rational, adult individuals.
Hope that helps.
2006-08-17 09:36:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very true. men mistake independence with B I T C H. Independent women get treated like the plague...
men need to understand that when a woman has independence that means she doesn't have to depend on a man to get her through life. So we as independent women won't put up with you B U L L S H I T. We aren't evil we're just not gonna go along with everything they say. So we get called B I T C H E S. independence to me means I am a strong woman who can make her way in life. If a man chooses to be with me...then ....he's actually standing with me and doesn't expect me to be standing behind him.
2006-08-17 09:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the guy. Example, my brother in law wouldn't let his wife make too much money(never more than him), cause he's the man. I on the other hand married my wife because she's so independent. I'm a lazy person so I won't put up with a lame chick who can't take care of her own stuff. Just be home 4 or 5 nights a week so I can knock it out, and we're good. Besides that, clean the house, care for the kids, cook, and make some money on the side. She can basically leave me anytime and be fine on her own. Can't say the same about me.
2006-08-17 09:37:37 · answer #4 · answered by Mack L 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most men I have come across are. But trust me, there are those out there that are not. How do I know this, I have met a few. Taken, of course.
I like the idea of taking care of my own bills, finances etc. I know many people who do this nowadays. No fighting over the money, they say.
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2006-08-17 09:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by shewolf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they do well most of the men I have meet do they feel they like to be in control and when they meet a woman that is independent its not good for them because they cant control you
2006-08-17 09:34:38 · answer #6 · answered by lisam69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i think a lot of men do....they want to be in control....they can not stand for a woman to be independent...i know my first husband was very abusive and there was this lady that lived next door, raising her children on her own and working and he hated her...i didn't ...i thought i would really like to have my kids and be away from the likes of a abusive , mean , husband...and i have dated men that are the same way....you just have to watch out for the signs and then leave them, forget them....i live on my own now and it is so much better mentally and all to be away from a marriage like i had with him... just should of got away sooner....wasted 23 years trying to make it work.
2006-08-17 09:35:55 · answer #7 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I imagine to some men it might be threatening to them.
There are people out there that are either not accustomed to this, or are not confident in themselves.
I find it quite refreshing myself.
It is a good thing to have someone that does not need to depend on you all the time in a relationship.
2006-08-17 09:33:41 · answer #8 · answered by Biker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello ellen s,
I don't think that it's feeling threatened as much as simply ignored. Independent women like doing their independent things, and guys like their women doing them instead. I hope that this helps.
--Rick
2006-08-17 09:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by rickrudge 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If any man is halfway sane he will feel threatened by ANY WOMEN; but eventually he learns to live with it, and accepts his place in the pecking order as a donkey.
2006-08-17 09:33:37 · answer #10 · answered by acmeraven 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋