I always tend to go for those that are hurt or shy in someway.I basically tend to think that "wallflowers" are the most attractive. But it seems like everytime I start something with them, they end up with me being more of a freind rather than a boyfriend. And they always say that it's not my fault that it is theirs. Well if it's not my fault, then why does it keep happening?
2006-08-17 09:19:43 · 11 answers · asked by lonely_wolf 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Maybe you just haven't found the right "wallflower" yet. Just keep building friendships. Eventually you'll find the friendship that turns into something more.
There are lots of reasons why a woman decides she doesn't want to move beyond friendship with a guy, and it's likely that the girls you've met have different reasons. But it could be that you come on too strong or seem too anxious for a serious relationship. That can be a big "red flag" and cause a woman to step back.
So make sure that you work to develop a strong friendship before you ask for something more. It wouldn't hurt to have the girl asking you when things are going to get more serious.
2006-08-17 09:29:41 · answer #1 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are being to fast. are you jumping with both feet or one at a time? Are you controlling, possessive, abusive, bossy, assertive, What type of man are you? and these as you say wallflowers are you sure there not wildflowers You are not the only person it happens to. There are alot of people out there that feel the same way. They think they have something good and it's not and it's becoming more and more. Hope you find the one your looking for. If you need to talk you can e-mail me through this net work with your e-mail address
2006-08-17 16:52:58 · answer #2 · answered by kayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are funny that way. They want us but yet they don't want us.
They do want us to figure them out though.
They want to find someone out there who is a soulmate and who only wants them when they have had the "Meeting of Minds" experience first.
They want open communication, because this builds trust.
They want genuine friendship because this will last a lifetime.
They want to share all their values with us as well as ours with them too. Honesty, Trust, Sharing, Caring, Respect, Appreciation, A Sense of Humor, Unconditional Love are just some of the values they want and need. Both sexes do.
They want to be valued for their sense of Trust and their sense of People and they want us to respect that about them each and everyday. We have to show them everyday too.
They can be the wallflowers or the dogflowers. It really doesn't matter. Whatever turns us on. They have the final say, but we let them think that, don't we?
2006-08-17 16:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a natural instinct for a young male the be drawn to passive females. You never feel more like a man than with a passive female. Males protect, but when you show her your sensitive side, you lose your attractiveness. It's the animal they are attracted to and are excited and afraid.
They don't know this themselves.
You are young and it is enough to be drawn to beauty.
I was very old before I really understood what looks and traits I really loved in women.
Just learn from trial and error, experiment with many types and learn your feelings. I envy you. It's all in front of you.
2006-08-17 16:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nice to start a frienship with a woman first than move to romance. If these girls end up being just friends with you - than that is their loss not yours. You will find your dream girl out there! When you are not looking for her
2006-08-17 16:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well son you sometimes attract what you are, be a good friend ,nothing wrong with that, you got time for the right one to find you , keep being a good friend that what a good relationship start off as friends, gota be friends first, have a good life
2006-08-17 16:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by elizabeth_davis28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You find the women with low self image.. and it isn't your fault.
I find loser men then build them up then they dump out after words.. so now i a just gonna let life take me to where ever it goes.. never gonna give up being my self.
You will find the one.. and she is waiting somewhere for someone like you.
2006-08-17 16:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ibdreamin099 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the same thing with me i dont purposely pic the crazy girls but each girl i end up wanting to go out with is crazy and suicidal and im just a good friend nothing more
2006-08-17 16:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by not me but you 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps your screen tells story, you are a lonely geek not a wolf.
2006-08-17 16:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
change your name to psycho_magnet.lol
2006-08-17 16:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by crazy_pixie_dust 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋