Do you think its tacky to ask your relatives for donations to help with the cost of having a very small wedding?
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Right now, we do not have alot of money. I have a job and my boyfriend owns his own business, but its relatively new. We want to get married in december and invite only immediate family and friends. Will they be able to help cover some of the cost of the ceremony?
2006-08-17 09:12:43 · 15 answers · asked by martini_40727 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
hey, i can't send you a reply, we got married last June 28, 2006 here in the philippines.. it was at fernwood gardens... you can look it up www.fernwoodgarden.com
about your question, oh, that's a no-no... you can try getting a good dealing out of the amount that you have alloted for your wedding... or use your connection, maybe a friend knows someone who can provide you services like photography, gowns and such... you should expect more than you invited because that really happens on weddings, you just can't avoid it... try to look for a venue where you can get married and at the same time hold the reception there... its much better to get packages, but make sure you have everything you need in it..
well, i hope this answers your question...
2006-08-19 16:14:36 · answer #1 · answered by kim B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rather than be "tacky" there are ways to go about this. But you have to decide whether you want them to help or buy you a gift, you won't get both. This is where your immediate family comes in. Mom can tell Autie that instead of buying that toaster she could buy the candles for the wedding.
There are many ways you can cut the cost of a wedding and still have a nice, intimate one full of wonderful memories. If you're going for a bash....you may hit a snag.
2006-08-17 16:27:04 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm afraid you can't ask for donations like that without looking tacky if you are lucky, greedy if you aren't. You are never supposed to mention gifts of any sort in regards to your wedding. It's even a no-no to put down where you are registered - that information should be passed along by word of mouth through family members.
Good luck with the wedding... check out the book "Bridal Bargains" for some money-saving ideas.
2006-08-17 16:28:05 · answer #3 · answered by Church Music Girl 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it is tacky. If you can't afford the wedding, get married in a different fashion. It's that easy. If you can't afford a Mercedes, don't buy one. If you can't afford a trip to Paris, don't go there.
If worse comes to worse, get married at the courthouse and then have a party in your home to celebrate. Order some nice food in (it doesn't have to be expensive, but should be more than a cold cut and veggie tray) and have a small reception/celebration. You can even spread the word that in lieu of gifts, each couple is requested to bring a bottle of wine for sharing.
2006-08-17 17:45:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is not right to ask guests for donations.
Regardless of what your budget is or the size of the wedding, the manners and etiquette are the same: It's the role of the HOSTS to pick up ALL expenses of hosting the event, and the role of the GUESTS to accept and partake of the hosts' generosity.
If you have a low wedding budget, you need to adjust your expectations accordingly.
Hoever, there is no shame in having a non-meal reception at a non-meal time of day (say, mid-afternoon or late night after dinner)-- a "cocoa and cookies" reception in the wintertime would be lovely, and affordable to host, too!
2006-08-17 23:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that would be very tacky. You do the best you can with what you have. It is not the size of the wedding but the feeling of the wedding.
2006-08-18 00:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by doicu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's tacky. Your parents can be asked without being tacky, beyond that...try
"How to have a Big Wedding on a Small Budget"
Just google it. It's a good resource!
2006-08-17 16:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by Kitten 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know its tacky - you don't have to ask us to know that!
If you want the whole wedding thing, wait until you can afford it without asking for donations from your guests.
If you just care about getting married - do the Vegas thing, its fun, cheap and easy! Or you can always just go to your local court house.
2006-08-17 16:57:22 · answer #8 · answered by thersa33 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It would be extremely rude. Only have the type of wedding which you can afford. Since you two are both working, enjoy a simple wedding which won't leave you broke. Remember it's only one day. But don't ask others for money!
2006-08-17 21:12:23 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES IT'S EXTREMELY TACKY!
Take a loan out and pay it back.... or just do something really really simple. Me and My FI are not doing christmas gift and birthday gifts to each other to help. Try saving so much per week and cut out other cost like don't go out to bars or movies, get rid of your cable, don't order fast food. You can cut out lots of stuff in your daily life to save for a wedding.
2006-08-17 16:18:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋