My family has a lot of money.
Me and my wife make decent money, and we don’t ask or borrow money from my family.
We are middle class and work our butts off for what we have.
My family have been real jerks to us, but I am afraid of making them upset because they might cut me out of the inheritance.
So I go along with all their family get togethers and take a lot of the guilt trips from my grandma, hoping one day I will be able to provide more for my family because of an inheiritance.
I know it sounds greedy of me, but my grandma is getting older and she has me in her will.
If I make the family mad, they might have her cut me out.
And I was going to use the inheritance money to pay for a private education and college for my future children.
If they cut me out I may not be able to give my children a good education because the schools are horrible where I live.
Am I bad person for feeling this way?
2006-08-17 08:54:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's good that you want the best for your family. You shouldn't worry about upsetting your family to the point of being cut out of the inheritance. Yes, it would be nice to know that money was coming your way, but you can't let your family walk all over you. Be proud of yourself and your job and this new family you have started. Stand up to those who are treating you poorly.
2006-08-17 09:03:56 · answer #1 · answered by agentm006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a dilema, but to me it is too high a price to pay for an inheritance you may or may not get. It is hell to live in fear and sacrificing your own integrity, morals and values is no way to have a life that you can be proud of. Also, think about what this behaviour is teaching your children about you and your values. Is that what you want. I would stop worrying about that money, let that fear go and be the kind of man your family will respect and admire. IF you do get tossed out of the will, there are always scholarships that your kids can get to go to college. Trust me, you will feel like a new person when you let this fear of loss and rejection go. : )
2006-08-17 09:11:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a bad person, but I wouldn't count on it. If you are afraid they'll cut you out, chances are they might. My husband's grandmother held her inheritance over everyone's heads. She was going to cut out an adopted child's inheritance,etc. All kinds of crazy stuff. She became ill suddenly and had to go to rehab in a nursing home type facility. On the day she was leaving the hospital she signed over power of attorney to her daughter, my husband's mother. She died that day and never made it to rehab. My husband never received a dime. You just don't know what will happen and don't change your life around on the chance that you'll get money. Be nice because you are nice and hopefully you'll get what is due you.
2006-08-17 09:05:37 · answer #3 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad person.
You need to count your blessings that you will have an inheritance down the road and that you have been provided for.
Grow up and enjoy them while they are here....It is their generosity that will enable you and your future children to have a better standard of living. If they knew how much you really didn't like spending time with them... that could drastically change your financial plans.
2006-08-17 09:20:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not. The only time you would be wrong is if your family started doing and saying unkind things to your wife and children and you did not defend them. We all have problems with our families and try to make the best of it.
2006-08-21 04:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋