2006-08-17 08:35:54 · 31 answers · asked by maniacgip74 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Cause nobody else is Mommy
2006-08-17 08:40:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kids are supposed to have a mom and dad who are together. If the mom and dad are not together, they fantasize that they will get together again. The new girlfriend makes that less likely to happen. Also, the new girlfriend is a sign dad is moving on, will maybe marry again and start a new family, and leave the kid feeling like leftovers. Also, maybe the new girlfriend is really a selfish woman who is competing with the kid on some level, and the kid can sense this even though daddy is too in love to see it. The ideal situation is for dad and mom to be together, and if they can't manage that, it is healthiest to the kid if they both concentrate on raising him/her instead of indulging themselves in new romantic relationships.
2006-08-17 08:44:36 · answer #2 · answered by z 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First its the love.No one can take the place of a mother.The love is always unique.Its also due to the fact that kids develop a insecure feeling about a father's new girl friend.They would want all the love of father only for themselves and will not like to share with any new women especially to a women who is to take their mother's place.May be there is a mental block regarding step mothers and so they resist. Relationship can be complicated issue.Kids being Kids may not understand the relation of father to his new girlfriend.They also see a potential enemy in the new girlfriend.So all these issues makes it hard for kids to adopt to a fathers new girfriend.
2006-08-17 08:48:36 · answer #3 · answered by rajan kumar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
b/c the ideal family is a father mother and kids all biological...Kids dont like the idea of a new person coming in taking that dream away or it could be that they feel the new partner is going to try and replace the mother or it could be that they feel she would be taking you away from them .... it could be many things ... different for each situation... Me i never went through that kind of thing b/c i never knew my father so i never cared who my mom was with but i guess if the kids lived with the parents while they were together then the outcome of how they feel could be different....
2006-08-17 08:44:37 · answer #4 · answered by kjo_4711 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They feel like the new gf is taking over as their mom, they love their mom and feel disloyal if they accept the new gf. They don't want another authority figure. A new gf means they get less attention from dad.
Don't introduce a gf unless it's serious, parading girls in and out of their lives will make them even more resentful! Good luck!
2006-08-17 08:42:10 · answer #5 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you the father or the girlfriend?? JUst curious.
They will always put their mom first, but they can tell if you like them or not. Usually it is from energy they get from the new gf.
2006-08-17 08:41:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its because ever since she was a little girl she was daddys princess. And now that there is a new women in his life she feels like all that will change. Like the new women is goin to start taking over and he wont have any time for her anymore.
2006-08-17 09:11:20 · answer #7 · answered by Abbi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I agree with everyone else there is one other BIG factor. They do not want to be moved out of first place in your lives and that is what they think or feel or sometimes see. You have to be VERY careful in adding a new woman to their lives (particularly if they are girls, because they see her replacing them). They want to make sure you will still love them.
2006-08-17 08:42:53 · answer #8 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most obvious reason is because it's not mommy. You can't replace mommy in a little kids head and some times even in older children's head. Just the nature of the beast.
2006-08-17 08:40:40 · answer #9 · answered by M D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be anything like worrying that this woman is trying to replace mom, or how to share their love with some other person? Or maybe that dad will focus more on new girlfriend and start ignoring his children?
2006-08-17 08:40:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in that position. My mom and dad divorced. BOTH are remarried! I love my stepdad but stepmom isn't so great. My stepdad lived with us since I was eight then married my mom when he thought the whole family was ready. My stepmom and dad didn't even talk about it in front of us!
2006-08-17 08:43:48 · answer #11 · answered by Time goes by 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋