Please tell me about your opinion here?? PLEASE??

Question

Okay, Hello ppl...^_^

Well, here is my question.........

I think I'm gonna have an arranged marriage, later, when I grow up.No NO, wait!! I'm not an Indian Tho!!

Anways, After my arranged marriage, I'm gonna go for the honeymoon. Some ppl say that "sex" happens during honeymoon. But, since I wont know much about my newly wed wife, I think I'm not gonna have sex or anything, but I wanna know her, I wanna be close to her, during the honeymoon.

So, ppl, specially girls, what do you think??
Will my wife like it, that I am only trying to be good close frends wit her, instead of taking a big step like sex???

And guys, do you think this is a good Idea??

Thank you LOTs ppl.....^_^
Yall ROCK!!

Answer 1

Here is a revolutionary piece of advice - she is going to be your partner in life so why not TALK TO HER ABOUT IT?

Answer 2

I think that it is very honorable of you to respect your wife, even before she is your wife. There is certainly more to life AND marriage than sex. Sex and intimacy is a very important part of marriage and God made it that way, but just as important as honesty, trust, loyalty and love.
The most important thing is communication. Maybe you can look up some things like effective communication and how to fight fair.
I think it is awesome (even if most of the world doesn't) that you want to know her and love her and have open lines of communication before jumping into the very emotional sexual part.
However, once you are married, you are married, and you shouldn't feel bad or guilty if you do have sex with her before knowing everything about her.
I think that if you are the up-standing guy that you seem to be, that you will be surprised at how soon the two of you are intimate.
One more thing- if you haven't had much sexual experience and are nervous about that, don't be. She may be in the same boat, and that's really what God's intentions were too, to wait for the marriage bed.
Again, I think it's wonderful of you to feel this way.

Hope I helped!

Answer 3

hi rock ,
there are many types of sex as there are many types of man.and women and what there idea of sex is. but you seem to know this already,. if women are vessels than man must fill fill the glass before enjoying the wine.
in today world for too many wrong reasons people get married , but always the first the attraction is based on how the couple see each other as a possible mate.if i rember right sex it,s a great thing so go for it , the first 'kiss' is always the hardest and most awkward but your marriage is much more. if a fire was built with twigs it will burn quick and bright but not to long as far as i can tell sex is a plus but a couple needs two logs one of understanding and to be of equal worth to each other

Answer 4

Im glad that some other person in the world doesnt want to rush into sex! I dont know about the arranged marriage thing. I dont like plans too much. But if the wife doesnt like waiting for sexc she might go off and do it with someone else....

Answer 5

I think it is weird that you want an arranged marriage, but then again people may think that is weird that some people don't want one. I think it's cool that you just want to get know your wife before you take a big step. She may feel a little relieved if you tell her that, it takes a lot pressure off her too. Good luck.

Answer 6

It must suck having your parents pick out your wife...if you feel uncomfortable you may speak to your parents and tell them how you feel about this situation...you can't force love...especially not knowing the person yet...According to your question, she may feel the same way about the honeymoon, she may not even want to have sex either...knowing that it will be your first time meeting one another...I would suggest you spek to your parents (or whoever is arranging the marriage) and tell them exactly how you feel...and never feel like you have to have sex because you have to feel ready.

Answer 7

I think it's admirable that you want to get to know her, to be friends with her before trying to bed her. That's really sweet.
It wasn't uncommon for a lot of marriages to be arranged and the people married, but never consummating for at least a year until they became friends. Would you be living with your wife? Or would you in be in separate places?
Perhaps you can talk to her ahead of time and just let her know how you feel so she doesn't get offended. But I know that if I was in that case, I would want to get to know my husband first.

Answer 8

Good idea. Having sex right away would be too weird. If it was me, I'd appreciate your consideration. If you wanted to sleep together right after we met practically I'd probably think of you as an inhumane sex fiend. Is this a hypothetical question? Cuz if it isn't, you have a strange life! Good luck!

Answer 9

Your new wife is probably thinking the same exact thoughts. Do not feel obligated to have sex right away. I would suggest you get to know each other better before having sex. Can't you get to know her PRIOR to getting married? Or, will you first lay eyes on her on the wedding day?

Answer 10

why don't you just wait and see how it all plays out when you two are alone. maybe your hormones will rage and you'll be all over each other. you never know. as far as you not consummating the marriage, it would be OK with me, i am a romantic. she may be really nervous anyway. it would probably be very comforting to her knowing that when she's ready, you'll be ready too. a guy that can control his hormones is a huge turn on! but don't use that as leverage. be a gentleman!!!!

Answer 11

This is a very complex question. And I don't think this is the answer you're looking for...but if you have to ask about how "sex" works, then you are too young to understand it anyway. Also, relationships that are meant to be need not be worried about. Calm down about this, grow up a little and relax about your future.