Well we are sisters but not really close because this has happend before.. I told her about her previous boyfriend hooking up with a girl I know and she didnt believe me... our relationship as sisters was almost ruined cause I was honest.. and the reason I caught him at the hotel was because McDonalds is right across the street and like I said I already had a bad feeling about him.. I want to tell her but I dont want her to be unhappy with me cause she already accuses me of always trying to put her a step behind me... When its not like that but sometimes she can be very naive and her being my sister I hate seeing her this way..
2006-08-17 08:02:19 · 17 answers · asked by sweetee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Those who dont know what Im talking about just go look at my previous question..
Thanks!
2006-08-17 08:02:53 · update #1
To be very blunt.. I read your previous posting and I want to say....
Are you CRAZY tell her.. i mean why wouldnt you??
Im married and if my husband ever cheated on me and someone had hardcore evidence.. they better tell me or else.. I'll be mad at them for not because I feel like I should know.. especially it being my sister...
what are you waiting for I want you to pick up your cell phone and text it to him & her.. ASAP
him because he'll know hes caught and thatd be the thrill.. her so she can be ticked when he arrives!!
Good Luck
2006-08-18 15:41:31 · answer #1 · answered by Giggagirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her, if anything she is and always will be your sister, so I am sure she should be forgiving. However, if you didn't tell her and she found out later, she might go blaming you for not telling her, and then it is possible you will feel guilty. No one ever wants to believe that they are being cheated on, love is definitely blind, but do the right thing and tell your sis, and if you have some good proof, bring that along as well...she will get over it!
2006-08-17 08:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by manderin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easier for some to blame the messenger instead of the message because they are naive and don't want to lose their relationship with such a guy.
I feel that you did the right thing but I think this time since you already know she would turn on you instead of turning on the guy who is disrespecting her, I say let her find out on her own because she will eventually discover just what type of guy she is truly with.
Some woman are naive to such disrespect and some know and is just plain stupid and willing to take such lack of respect to their relationship just to have a man in their life and what they truly have is nothing.
I know of woman who were naive and allowed their boyfriends to treat them any type of way who are now bitter and can't trust anyone because they chose to stay in unhealthy relationships only to pay for it emotionally and mentally later is all this worth it, I say no.
2006-08-17 08:18:33 · answer #3 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write her a note and tell her what you saw and that you think that your sister should marry a guy thats honest and not looking for the next catch. make sure you tell her too that your not making it up and that she now has a choice to follow her family or to marry someone that isn't being faithful... and keep it at that... you can even say in the note that you don't want to discuss this verbally. Im pretty sure that your sister will understand that you are looking out for her.
2006-08-17 08:10:53 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ღαмαиdα♥ღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her to come to work if you see him, or do some investigating to find out where they will be. In any case you need to provide her with proof, present it, then tell her you felt obligated to provide the information and that it is up to her what she wants to do with it. Don't add your personal comments (this will be the hard part), She won't be upset with you because there will be no personal agenda on your part (the "you just don't want me to be happy" thing)
2006-08-17 08:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by st pete rn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, tell her. She needs to know, even at the risk of ruining the relationship again. She would be much worse off to marry this jerk and find out then.
2006-08-17 08:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by Olive Green Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't do that for goodness sake. But what you could do is confront your future brother in law and let him know that you know what he up to. Give him a warning that if he doesn't mend his ways it give you no option but to tell your sister. That way he might realise that he been caught.
2006-08-17 08:10:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and do it with some evidence like a camera or camcorder, voice recorder if your close enough to the guy and be sure to get xtra batteries hope I helped
2006-08-17 08:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you "caught" him. Did you see him cheat? Don't jump the gun. He might have had family in town there. But I'd ask him... get a recorder... one of those small ones... record the conversation.... and if he confesses, probably one of those "oh, please don't tell. i'll never do it again" take the tape to her and tell her that you're only trying to help and let her hear the tape. Don't include any "I told you so"'s!
2006-08-17 08:10:12 · answer #9 · answered by rachael 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her even if it meant risking the relationship I have with her... I would never want her to enter into a marriage with someone who is unfaithful... My sister deserves better than that!
2006-08-17 08:10:05 · answer #10 · answered by annathespian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋