i am an sikh girl soon approaching the age to get married but all my friends who are non-sikhs think this is ridiculous and suggest that i should run away if i do i will bring immediate shame on my family
2006-08-17 07:56:13 · 14 answers · asked by townhouse 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I feel that you should have a choice in who are going to give your love to and your whole life. Don't listen to your friends in that respect but ask if they could just give you a little support.
2006-08-17 08:05:01 · answer #1 · answered by Osh Aka Oisinmagic 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
running away is not a solution. If you are not ready to get married (arranged or love) tell your parents. Most Sikh parents that I know will allow and encourage their daughters to keep studying or working until the daughters are ready for marriage. Also, if you come from a Sikh family I think I can reasonably assume that you know a lot of people that have had arranged marriages. So, you should know that arranged marriages are not some horrible torture technique and that your parents love you and will try to find the most suitable and compatible person for you. Your parents will set you up to succeed in life, they will try to find the best possible match for you. To me it sounds as if you are simply just not ready for marriage and if you are not ready then you should be honest with your parents and wait.
2006-08-17 16:16:42 · answer #2 · answered by Spreet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is your choice. If you feel that you should then go ahead and get married. If not then talk to your parents. I actually wish my parents had arranged a marriage for me. I picked a complete loser. Good luck to you.
2006-08-17 08:05:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there's a guy you love and you want to marry him and your parents are willing, you might as well . . . but if there isn't and your parents won't respect your wishes, you should run away . . . if your parents only view you as an object they can use to their benefit, not a fellow human being, they deserve all the shame your fleeing will bring them.
2006-08-17 08:08:44 · answer #4 · answered by Isis-sama 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have one life,and I'm not saying your,religion is wrong,but can you spend the rest of your life with Simone you may not learn to love,everyone needs there family,try and talk to your mum dad,whoever you feel would listen to you,just be happy& dont listen to your friends,they dont understand what damage they could be doing,by saying run away,how many of them would leave thier family behind. GOOD LUCK BE HAPPY X
2006-08-17 08:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by nikki w 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you believe in it? If you do, go ahead and get married. If you don't believe in arranged marriage, don't do it. But don't listen to your friends - they should support you for whatever religion you follow, not try to enforce their own beliefs on you. I hope you make the descision that YOU want to, and I wish you all the best!
2006-08-17 08:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by favershambles 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes it last longer than western style. 80% divorce in the west.
2006-08-17 23:53:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only u can decide this one ..
follow your heart and do what is right for u ... not your friends and not your family ... its your life .. live it how u choose !
2006-08-17 08:04:26 · answer #8 · answered by jizzumonkey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to convince your family that you can make your own choice.Try and compromise get their approval for who ever you choose.
2006-08-17 08:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by Petrol Head 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no be yourself don't go for it then you end up in divorce like evrybody else and it/s going be your life not somebody else life it/s 21 century shame it's human condition
2006-08-17 08:05:58 · answer #10 · answered by george p 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋