ok so i met my husband at a club, and we have been married about four years now. but friday we are going to a club to meet up with this guy and his girl. i have not seen this guy since high school and i know he is crushing on me. He knows i am married and as not made a real move and he is with some one too. I am not into him and happily married. But is it wrong of me to want to see him and be friends again? should i tell my hubby that this guy used to have a crush on me?
2006-08-17 07:48:47 · 10 answers · asked by littleluvkitty 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would say you need to tell him, thats more open and honest and will build trust with your husband, just make sure he understands there are no feelings on your part, and as far as friends, there is nothing wrong w/ being friends as long as your friend understands it stops there, and you are happy.
2006-08-17 07:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by DJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what is your husband's nature .. if he is jealous kind then dont do it coz u dont want anything serious and its not worth it to make him feel jealous ..
if he is cool guy and trust u then go for it .. little flirting here and there is good for relationships .. u are going to feel new energy and will help your relationship with your husband .. just make sure that this friend u are planning to meet is not a big mouth .. u dont want him to be telling all kind of stupid stories ..
i know its kinda cruel .. but another thing u can do is to express love for your husband in front of your friend and show him that u both are happy .. sometimes u want to show your friends that u are real sweet person and it was their mistake that they didnt decide what they should have decided when they had an option .. i mean why didnt he take the next step in hs .. 'flirt with tease' ..
and no, u cant tell your husband that he had crush on you .. there are certain things that u have to keep as lifelong secrets .. they are not healthy and no point in digging them out ..
2006-08-17 15:01:06 · answer #2 · answered by outdoor2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling him is like opening a box filled with the unknown that will certainly spill out whether you want it to or not. Once opened, it cannot be undone. Is the guy with the crush married to his date? If not, what is he risking by taking her to meet you? What are you wanting? Do you know his real motive? Do you know yours? What are you willing to give up to go forward?
Think it out.
2006-08-17 15:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by aguynamedchuck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
baby girl, you need to be upfront with your husband. if he's okay for you to meet someone who had a crush on you. then he would be modern man. but i don't think so. you're taken now and there is no point from the meeting. this would only agrevate your husband and put a doubt in his mind. if you're happy with your husband, don't rock the boat.
2006-08-17 14:59:07 · answer #4 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what are you 19.didn't you know that it is ok to be friends with guys,as long as you don't sleep with them.if your husband trusts you,then he will think it is cute that this kid had a "crush" on you.he is the one you will be going home with so why not tell him what harm could it do.
2006-08-17 15:02:27 · answer #5 · answered by curtismarsch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him, secrets between husband and wife can cause damage to the relationship.
2006-08-17 14:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dint think something is wrong with it but you need to talk to you hubby and ask him for his advise in what u should do,tell him the whole situation.and if u go to the bar and something happens u dint want,you could always leave.good luck!!!
2006-08-17 15:01:11 · answer #7 · answered by masterblaster146 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OF COURSE YOU SHOULD!!!! you're married and i believe that you should not hide anything from you're husband. talk to him about it.
2006-08-17 15:03:19 · answer #8 · answered by keepongrowing@guy.constantly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, be honest with your husband
2006-08-17 14:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by jerdan95 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just don't make a habit out of it.
2006-08-17 14:54:46 · answer #10 · answered by Danny Tanner Owns You 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋