I just found out that a relative of mine has cancer, and will die. I have not had a relative die since I was a child, and though I knew this day would one happen, I am feeling really lost and confused. Now as an adult, married with a child, I'm facing the fact that people around me will die. And I just want to know how to prepare? How should I feel? Please, no religious answers (i.e., God will lead you, etc). Real life answers only.
2006-08-17 07:48:14 · 14 answers · asked by AnswerMom 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i guess the best thing you can do is settle any business you can with the person (not financial business, life busines) and the best thing is to talk to that person how they feel about it as well as the other people inyour family.
My bf lost his brother 5 years ago, he was only 16 from, from cancer. To me it seems like there is a lot of unfinished business, for him, ie: i should have said this, I did this but never apologized....etc.
I do not recommend trying to deal with it on your own, i guess all you can do is just talk it out.
I very sorry to hear about that and best wishes to you and your family
2006-08-17 08:12:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well of course there are all of the stages of grief that you woll go through no matter how prepared you think you are. The most important thing is knowing who you are and where you are. I know you don't want religous ansers but what I mean is that you need to be comfortable with your belifs what ever they are. IF you believe that the soul will go to heaven then take comfort in that. Even if you don't believe in god and that when people die they die then take comfort in the fact that when a person who was sick and then they die that they are no longer in pain. I hope you can find your comfort zone in this time. While the person is still around ( don't bury them yet) you will need to talk with them and find out what that person beleives. If they believe in god but you don't then take comfort in the fact that they have gone to their better place.
2006-08-17 07:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by memorris900 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can really prepare for someones death no matter what you do when they die you will go through a lot of emotions. I would see what I could do for the person while they are alive, something maybe they want to do and it is in your power to be able to help them do it. Make them happy. That will help you when they do pass on. Good Luck
2006-08-17 07:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by Susie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest you spend as much time with your relative as possible. Just being near them will let them know how much you love them and care about them. I know you asked for no religious feedback but you do need to make sure the relative is saved so that they can go to heaven.
Good luck!
2006-08-17 07:55:39 · answer #4 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I does not matter what you do, you will never be "prepaired". My dad just died a month ago from lung cancer and they told him he had 6 months to a year. He lasted 3 months. I was with him through everything and Thought I was ready. When he died, bot I found out real quick that I was wrong. You can never be ready, EVER!, Oh I am sorry to hear about your family member.
2006-08-17 07:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a difficult situation especially if you are close to the person. Try to talk about your feelings to a trusted friend. There are bereavement groups that you can contact. You should be able to find them in your local papaer. Another possibility for information is to contact Hospice. They may be able to put you in contact with others who are going through the same thing you are. That way you won't feel so alone about it all.
2006-08-17 07:56:10 · answer #6 · answered by lynda_is 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just lost a close relative and you can never be prepared. You just go with the flow and life goes on as unbelievable as that sounds.
2006-08-17 07:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by Ricky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey there is no way to prepare just remember to try to be honest and helpful to the family member to bullsh*t them give them everything you can so you are not left standing there regretting not spending enough time, or saying something wrong it is the only way to let go
2006-08-17 07:54:52 · answer #8 · answered by barbie89032 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dying prepares you for no longer something. your finished life prepares you for dying. And in case you believe in an afterlife, as I do, you will understand that the form you lived your life will confirm whether heaven or hell is your trip spot. So sorry, whilst dying comes knocking at your door Zim, you will be arranged. all of it ends there.
2016-12-17 12:35:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not alone. Many other people have dealt with this. Be by (his/her) side 24/7 now that you know. Make these last moments for her one of the bests she has ever had in his/her life!!!! Good luck!
2006-08-17 07:55:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋