2006-08-17 07:41:39 · 20 answers · asked by belle♥ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
if you have favorites, does it show? or do you think the other kid knows the other one is your favorite?
2006-08-17 07:51:15 · update #1
Honestly? Yes. I do favor one child over the other. Hard to admit though. Trying to overcome this, however.
2006-08-17 07:46:51 · answer #1 · answered by Hicktown girl66 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a parent of 4 (8, 14, 16, 18) and its not that you have favorites because I love my boys allll the same. The thing is you may get along or feel more connected to one over the others. I have a stronger connection with my 16 year old son but I spend more time with my 18 year old. I would die for any of them but thats how it is.
2006-08-17 07:48:36 · answer #2 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Favorite" is a really strong word. I hate to use it. I do find I have more in common with one than the other, especially now that I have a teen. But even that flips between the kids. I think I share some of my most hated characteristics with my kids fairly equally.
It's just important to acknowledge to yourself that you have more in common with one than the other. You can love them both because they are the unique people who are--well, them! But you can have an easier time getting through to or getting along with one kid. It's human nature.
I don't, however, treat my kids the same. I was a twin and resented exactly equal treatment. Sometimes I deserved extra consideration and sometimes she did. I treat them each as themselves and not in connection with the other. I avoid lables such as "she's the smart one and she's the kind one" and stuff like that. Labels put kids into a category that they often NEVER extricate themselves from. I try to focus on how they feel about their accomplishments and set-backs, not on how I feel or how theirs compare to their sibling's.
I have one child who is physically disabled so comparisons would never work anyway. One kid ran race and the other one was rooting for her, no regrets or tears about her own unability to do it. No labels, no competition just support for individual choices.
It's tough but I think life is only "fair" when we realize that equality is not fair.
2006-08-17 07:49:39 · answer #3 · answered by BeamMeUpMom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At this point I would say yes. My son is 5 1/2 and my twins are 2. I was able spend a lot of one on one time with my son and since I have always been in female dominated households, enjoyed having another guy to hang with.
Since my girls are twins it is hard to bond with them one on one and with all activity in my house it is hard to get to know anybody. I imagine once they all get older and my son is more independant, I will start to bond with my daughters more and they will all have a special place in my heart.
Once they are adults it can be anybodies game as to who I get along with more than the others.
2006-08-17 07:49:38 · answer #4 · answered by parkdad73 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I love all 3 of my kids the same. some of them have different needs, and because im a parent, and im going to help with those needs, it may seem at times that I do, but the fact is each child is different, one may be more loving, the other may be more independant. But i love all my kids to death.And my grandkids. lol
2006-08-17 07:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by theladylooking 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no favorites I treat both of my kids the same.
2006-08-17 07:48:52 · answer #6 · answered by James Dean 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but there is alot of mother that do i know that is not a good thing cause i've been through it with myy little sis but its okay as long as they don't see it cuz if you do your going top have it on your head for the rest of your life.
2006-08-17 07:51:24 · answer #7 · answered by Mermaid& Monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah i kinda do...My daughter is 17 and she is a hell raiser...always has been, diagnosed with ADHD at 7 years old..Man she's always been a live wire...My son on the other hand is 11..He's a cowboy, he's pretty quiet and does what he is told...Totally oposite!!!
2006-08-17 07:50:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do, but then again I only have 1.
2006-08-17 07:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would never want to admit this but yes i do....i love all my sons with all my heart....but i love the one that i had when i was married ....i guess it has something to do with guilt over having two children out of wedlock...lot has to do with i was raised so strict to and still i was not street smart and i got pregnant...but i do love all my sons... and would do all i can for either of them..i was in a abusive marriage and my oldest son helped me so much...it did not help him but i will never forget him trying to protect his mom....
2006-08-17 07:51:35 · answer #10 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋