My sister is getting married in less than 2 weeks...
The other night I saw her husband leaving a rather expensive hotel... When he pulled off I went inside to see whether he had booked a room.. sure enough he had, but anywhoodle I waited in the parking lot and when he came back he had some blonde girl with him and they were cuddling and kissing.. i pulled out my camera phone and took a picture.. anyway still having faith in him.. thinking no hes not cheating I waited in the parking lot for 2 hours its around 2am when I left...
What should I do!!
I love my sister but she has this really bad habit of not listening to me when I tell her stuff about her boyfriends...
And she already thinks I just dont like him when its not that I just have this really bad vibe about him..
Give me guidance please!
All answers truly appreciated
2006-08-17 07:30:55 · 91 answers · asked by sweetee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to her husband-to-be first. Tell him you're aware of his actions and that you will not tolerate him using your sister like that. Then threaten to tell her if he doesn't do it first.
If your sister has never listened to you before, she's not likely to listen to you now. Hopefully the picture you took is clear enough for you to use as proof. Tell her that all you want is to look out for her well-being, and that you're not trying to frame her fiance just because you dislike him.
Bear in mind that this probably won't get you anywhere, but at least you'd know you did your best. Her husband will be her problem, not yours.
Good luck :)
2006-08-17 07:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Show the picture to your sister. If nothing else, she can confront him about booking the hotel room, and about the girl in the photograph. Better that she knows now, and calls off the wedding, than she finds out after two children and has to get a divorce.
Once you tell her (and show her!), its her choice to believe you or not, but at least you've done all you can do.
2006-08-17 07:41:11 · answer #2 · answered by AmericanDreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send her the picture, plus the name of the hotel, the date, and time you saw those two together.
All you can do is tell her. Then what she does is up to her. Let her know you love her. Say I am sorry to be the one to tell you. Then let it go. If she gets married, then that decision is up to her. This is a good time to involve other siblings and/or parents. Who knows your sister may know this other woman.
Tell her. Then support her decision. She is a grown woman.
Personally, if you were my sister, then I would thank you for being such a loving sis.
Good Luck!
2006-08-17 07:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard one .. it's your sister and you don't want to see her hurt .. but if you let him continue cheating on her she will be devastated down the road when she finds out he's been cheating the whole time .. not only that .. but you knew and didn't tell her.
I would show her the picture and tell her what happened .. if it was my sister and she saw my future husband wrapped around some blond I would for sure want to her to tell me .. even if it hurt ... at least I know who I can trust ... !
2006-08-17 07:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is getting married in less than 2 weeks, yet she already has a husband? And what were you doing stalking this man and waiting outside hotels and parking lots? And for a camera phone to capture a picture of them, you would have had to be right next to them so you would have been seen.
Sorry, I don't believe a word of your story.
2006-08-17 07:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
She's your sister and you love her right, well then you should tell her. If she chooses not to beleive you, then show her the picture. She is about to make one of the biggest choises in her life, and she needs to know. It's better to let her know now before it's to late. Some things can be very hard, but you have to do them. You want to be honest with her, and you should let her know that you care about her. Good luck, and l hope for the best for you and your sister.
2006-08-17 07:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by dreamer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man what hell are you waiting on it aint like your poken in her affairs its to late to think that way because you should of thought like that while you was on the steak out now you got the proof show it, but just before you do that tell him that you seened him at the hotel with another girl and if he want tell your sister then you will,but dont let him know you have the pictures!if he dont tell just show your sister the camera phone and the rest is history,however if she still accepts him then keep it to yourself and just act like it never happen,cause loves m/******,but dont change on your sister cause shes always going to be your sister with or without dude!
2006-08-17 07:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wouldn't you want your sister to tell you if you were in the situation? Besides you have the camera phone photo as proof. Hopefully she will listen before marrying him and having to find out he is a cheater once they have been married a while and have children.
Good luck!
2006-08-17 07:39:29 · answer #8 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister doesn't listen to you, it would be pointless to share what you know with her. I think it's commendable that you are trying to save her heartache but she will most likely turn on you if you do tell her. And her fiance will most likely find some way to cover up the cheating. If you are prepared for both of them to turn on you, then go ahead and show her the picture. I'm sorry but past experience has shown me that people only believe what they want to believe.
2006-08-17 07:39:10 · answer #9 · answered by Mother Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not she listens to you, you should tell her and show the picture. Better she finds out now before it's too late. Divorces can cost almost as much as the wedding. Be strong and do the right thing.
2006-08-17 07:37:41 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋