I dated a woman in Miami for 8 months. Alot of it was the most amazing time Ive ever had. Then I treated her terribly. Horribly. We broke up I dont know how many times. We hadn't spoken in months, even though I still lover her and realize I want to marry her. Now we are speaking and she has a boyfriend. She says she dosnt love him, but hes a better man than me, so shes happy.
Ive never known anyone to be in a hole as big as this one. I want her back!!!!!!!! Help!!!!!!!!
2006-08-17 07:30:40 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, I think everyone deserves a second chance and so do u. The fact she told u she didn't love her new b/f means something, doesn't it? Just tell her u love her, u realise your mistakes and u will never treat her like that. If you guys love each other, you should be able to overcome this situation. At the end of the day, we only have one life, why waste it with someone we don't love?
Good luck!!!
2006-08-17 07:58:34 · answer #1 · answered by essexgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, if you treated her badly she has every right to not be with you. I know this may seem harsh, but who is to say that you wont go treating her horribly once more?! I understand that what your going through is hard. And its terrible to lose someone you love. But if you truely love her. You will want her to be happy. Even if that means that she is happy without you. Go out there and find someone else. You were with her for 8 months. Who knows who you could have missed durring that time? Let yourself go your seperate ways and soon you too will find someone your happy with as well.
Best of luck
2006-08-17 14:41:17 · answer #2 · answered by Tay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sincere in what your saying, you may still have a chance to get her back. Just lay down all the macho crap and lay out how you really feel about her. If this is the lady you want in your life, she will be well worth the fight. Even if this guy is posing to be better than you, love ALWAYS conquers. Whatever you did bad to her, reassure her that, that is not your character and it won't EVER happen again.
2006-08-17 14:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by Tee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to earn her trust back. I good way to START would be to tell her what you just told us. Tell her she is the best thing that has ever happened to you and you know that you really messed up and that you hope someday she will find it in her heart to trust you enough to give you a second chance because you want to spend the rest of your life making it up to her. It will take some time to earn her trust back but it sounds like she is worth it. You may have to do some groveling. I only hope that if you do get her back you have learned to appreciate her.
She is obviously at least willing to listen to you. Good Luck!
2006-08-17 14:40:11 · answer #4 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be her friend. She needs to feel that you won't hurt her again. It seems as if she's still somewhat open to you. There was no reason for her to admit that she doesn't love her current boyfriend. But the fact that she still considers him her boyfriend and not a friend says that she does have some feelings for him, even if they aren't strong. U gotta respect that. Just be there for her and move on with your life until you find love or or your love (her) comes back to you.
2006-08-17 14:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will take more than chocolate, flower or material stuff to get her back.. It will take time, I think you still have some chance since she is still talking to you.. You need to change ( some people can't change, they just pretend to do so--that's not good) and be there as a friend first..do not bringing up that you wanna get back together since that is not fair to her..but be patient and be really nice..if she has any feeling left she will let you know..
2006-08-17 14:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her exactly how you feel, don't hold anything back, tell her you were a real jerk and jack a**, and you never intend on being horrible and terrible to her as long as you both shall live.... tell her you want to marry her, and then PULL the RING out of your pocket and give it to her. Do not attempt this without the ring.... words are words but words with actions says more then you could ever imagine........ produce what you say and if she loves you she will be yours, but you have got to stick to your promises, otherwise........ she will be gone.......... forever. blessed be........
2006-08-17 14:39:32 · answer #7 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first! tell her that you've regret all the things you've done and ask for forgiveness.. next, tell her how you feel about her.. then, tell her that you respect her having a bf.. but then you also feel like you have to do this now, because this is the only time you felt so strongly for her and realized what an i d i o t you were for making her feel that way.. show her that you've changed and that you only mean to make her the happiest woman alive.. i think this is enough... hehehehe
2006-08-17 14:41:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write her a letter....sounds old fashioned I know but a hearfelt letter on how you feel and how wrong you realize you are should help. Poor your heart out let her know all your thoughts. Tell her what you miss aout her, remind her of the good times, tell her you were a jerk and realize it now...grovel a bit...if she loves you at all her heart will melt and she'll be back....Good luck
2006-08-17 14:37:58 · answer #9 · answered by GirlNextDoor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's what you do. You know how when someone cheats, but they want to stay in the relationship? They have to do A LOT to get that person's trust back again. That's what you have to do. You hurt her and now you have to do whatever, and I mean whatever it takes, to get her back. It could take six months of grovelling, but whatever it takes to convince her that she should trust you, you do it. She will eventually trust you if you never fail her again. But be ready to follow through with whatever you do, don't screw with her mind again. Show that you're trustworthy and won't hurt her and you'll be home free (in about a year....)
2006-08-17 14:37:39 · answer #10 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋