ok this girl that im goodfriends with has liked me for a while and she recently went out wit some jerk from another town who dumped her after two weeks and has made her cry numerously, people told me she deserved better and i should go out with her, so i asked her out and i got an i dont know, wtf i dont understand it shes eventually tells me that she wants to see if her ex wants to go back out wit her and ill find out next week if not????
2006-08-17 07:19:37 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
thanks guys (and girls) keep them coming i just wanted to knowif it was me that was crazy
2006-08-17 07:26:37 · update #1
ok somebody jus said i waited, its not like that and i wasnt just being nice, we work together so she would get bothered a lot for her liking me and i explained to her awhile back that i didnt want to see her get that **** if we went out so she understood
2006-08-17 07:38:20 · update #2
Have mercy... I had something similar to this happen.
A guy put me on the line saying, "Give me two weeks." Then it was another, and another, and another. Just until he found someone else that he found to be, I don't know, loose. :)
It's not worth it. I wasted my time waiting for his sorry butt and he wasn't worth all that in the first place! It's like you're Woody and the other guy is Buzz off of Toy Story (I know, weird comparison on my part...). She only wants to play with you when she's done with Buzz.
Do yourself a favor and leave her behind early on. It'll end up the same, and if not... She'll go out with you for spite or as a 2nd choice. You don't want to be sloppy seconds, do you?
I hope that didn't sound awful, but I'm just saying that you should find someone who will treat you better. :)
2006-08-17 07:29:25 · answer #1 · answered by Slippers 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you only asked her because everyone told you to. You knew that she liked you and you never acted on it, she wasn't about to wait for you forever so she ended up with a jerk........... what makes you any less of a jerk? you asked her out because other people told you that she deserves better and that you should go out with her, if you had any intrest in the first place you would have asked her out before now and before some jerk hurt her and made her cry. She had developed feelings for this guy over the time that they dated, she doesn't mean any hard feelings with you, but she may think you are just being nice..... because you never showed her that you liked her as anything more then a friend before. If you really like this girl, hang in there, and you will get your chance........ but if you don't and you were just doing this to be NICE and because you were told you should........ then you never deserved a chance with her in the first place and you don't now, that makes you no better then the jerk she has feelings for that keeps making her cry. I hope you are sincere with her and that you really care and like her. If you don't, and you don't think she is worth getting your chance with, then leave her alone and move on........... blessed be.
2006-08-17 07:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by shy&gental 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See man here is the problem, you fell into the "friend" category with this girl. Does she always come to you with her problems? Do you always listen? Well there is nothing wrong with that but if you want to go to the next level you need to be sure that your willing to put your friendship on the line to be with this girl. Let her know you serious take her out, make the first move. Usually the person that is "the friend" is a shy person, I am one myself. I was best friends with my current girlfriend for 3 years before I finally grew a pair and asked her out. You did that, you asked her out. You can't wait for her to see what else is out there, make her wan't you, give her a reason to want you. Take her out, spend some cash, not sure of your age but if your younger and you have no cash well IDK walk to her house. Make an impression so that she feels she cant spend a day without you.
Suprises are always good a +
2006-08-17 07:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people can't recognize opportunity when they see it: you dhould have made your move sooner, now you have to give her space and time, and she should take you up on your offer but she needs apparently to get hurt some more....seriously, don't make any serious moves or even talk about it with your friends or her for a month, yes a month. Let her stew...because if you didn't notice, she really put you down by inferring that she would rather wait and see if the guy who "made her cry numerously" comes back as opposed to hooking up with you now. I would really change my mind on such a person after such a put down. Gosh, she is is saying, the rotton guy is better than you. Deal correctly.
2006-08-17 07:27:02 · answer #4 · answered by SuzieQ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Bud,
I do not know how you feel about this girl. You said good friends? Friendship is different from attraction, a girl knows that better than a man. You can be good friends, but if she is not attracted to you, too bad. Maybe you are not playing your cards right. if you really want this girl make her attracted to you not by babysitting her. A cry or so can make her a little better.
You must note that laws of attraction does not correlate with that of friendship. Girls need challenges, give her a dose of it; Mr. heartbreaker is a better canditate than Mr. good guy who babysit.
Another advice that may be useful; girls love funny guys. Sound a little funnier and u'll see your success with girls skyrocket.
Do the right things then this girl is all yours.
2006-08-17 07:47:48 · answer #5 · answered by unek2k4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that she likes you but, i maybe a different kind of like. Just think in her mind your a special friend that she can talk to when things get hard for her &she doesn't want to lose you if the relationship doesn't work. I believe you shouldn't upset yourself with small stuff, just be there for her as a friend when the Ex-Jerk hurts her again. One day she will wake up. Stay Strong
2006-08-17 07:36:19 · answer #6 · answered by truestorys 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kinda understand, kinda don't..first off, you should never ask a girl out after a bad breakup unless you know FOR SURE that she'll go out with you. second, SHE JUST GOT DUMPED!! it's not like she has no feelings for her ex...she wasn't the one who ended it
now this girl might have feelings for you too but maybe wait a while, be a friend first and then see what happens
hope this helped and sorry to be so harsh it's just that i've had this happen to me, from the girls point of view. anyways..=)
2006-08-17 07:26:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, don't sit around and wait. I know it's hard to get over a crush, but if she's still wanting to date her ex then she's pretty much not going to give up until he breaks off all contact with her, or moves to China. Face it dude, girls like assholes for some reason. Be her friend, but she will ultimately have to make the decision of whether she ends up with you or the loser. In the meantime, explore your options. Trust me, there are girls aplenty if you broaden your horizons.
2006-08-17 07:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by doggiestar44 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man that is a confused chick. Drop her and end the friend ship. Let her go back to her ex. They deserve each other. Being friends with her will only mess you up.
2006-08-17 07:24:32 · answer #9 · answered by T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am often confused as to what women see in men that makes them willing to overlook all the bad things they have suffered because of the one they love.
I'm kinda having the same problem. If I find out the answer, I'll contact you somehow k?
2006-08-17 07:28:19 · answer #10 · answered by Fred B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋