My gf battles insecurities that stem from her upbringing, a bad past relationship, and weight issues. I think that she is beautiful, caring, and unselfish. I think that a lot of the conflicts that we go through are because she cannot see herself the way that I see her. What can I do to help her?
2006-08-17 06:56:38 · 20 answers · asked by grl_addict 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, tell her just what you wrote here. It's very sweet.
Another thing that works is to say nice things about her when others are present. (It's one thing to say something privately; it's more when it is said publicly.) You have to avoid making it seem artificial, but if an opportunity presents itself to say something good in front of others, take it.
Small gifts help: a single flower, an occasional card (even if you have to make it), and other simple gestures.
Think about things she likes to do and do them.
2006-08-17 07:07:43 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't give her meaningless compliments about herself ... just be honest .. your question alone is sweet enough to make her understand ... and love herself more ... !
Show her how much she means to you as a person ... show her appreciation for the little things she does ... tell her how much she makes you feel good about yourself and she makes you feel like a better person ... if you tell her she's making a difference in somebody Else's life and she doesn't even know it .. she'll be happy to know she's wanted .. and loved ... and needed .. make her feel like she's the best thing that ever happened to you ... and she will start to open up and feel more secure about herself and your relationship .. !
Hope this helps a little .. it's a hard one to answer .. !
2006-08-17 07:07:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is using you to play out her insecurities on. That is a relationship but more of a parasitic flavor and is unfair to you as the boyfriend.
Tell her to get over her drama, it brings nothing but negativity.
If she doesn't change or take you seriously when you say you are done carrying around her emotional baggage, then dump her. Life is too short to be in bad relationships.
2006-08-17 07:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by murkglider 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Encourage her. Tell her she is beautiful over and over....my boyfriend kept on telling me until I started to feel better about myself.
This really is an issue she will have to work through for herself; but be supportive and really listen to her whenever she talks about it...because the day she finds herself beautiful in only one other person's eyes, her self-esteem will start to improve.
2006-08-17 07:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by shortfrog 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apart from reassuring her over and over there's really not much you can do. She has to realize herself what a beautiful person she is. You could set her up with a therapist? That would help.
2006-08-17 07:04:10 · answer #5 · answered by Gabi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her some counselling to build her self image and confidence. Support her. I know it's tiring to reassure a person everyday, but she's gotta deal with her issues. You gotta put across nicely to her anything negative so she wont flip out!
2006-08-17 07:02:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Surround her with love and let her know what you truly feel. Sometimes actions speak louder than words but I think in this case use both to show her what you really feel about her and I think that will help her.
2006-08-17 07:01:40 · answer #7 · answered by ѕомєопєѕ▪ ваву ♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you purely would desire to straight away up hit her with it bro... "you're relatively captivating and you do no longer would desire to alter for all people". purely compliment her each and every time you notice her. tell her she seems captivating, captivating, warm etc etc... develop her self belief, and clarify to her that she isn't fat that throughout your eyes she's captivating! Reassurance is the foremost :) She'll drop some pounds whilst or if she desires to.
2016-10-02 05:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well all girls have insecurity especially about weight and looks. she might bee going up and down on her weight and feel that she is fat. maybe you should try to just spend time with her. and not be like isn't that alot of food even if your playing.
2006-08-17 07:04:17 · answer #9 · answered by ronne_funstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a loving boyfriend and be there for her when she needs you. Let her know how you feel about her. Make sure to never turn your back on her.
2006-08-17 07:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by movu101779 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋