I am 27 and my boyfriend is 46, he also have 3 children from his previous marriage. I have a great carrer ahead of me, make anough money to support myself and good looking. I don't think he has a plans to marry me but I need to attend school for next 1 year and I need him cuz I have 6 yr. old son and I need smbd to help me in this regard. I really hate to stay in dead end relationship and it bothers me a lot to stay for another year or so. How do you think I can cope in the situation like this???
2006-08-17 06:48:40 · 23 answers · asked by Mistyfog 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One year isn't a long time to live on a reduced budget and hire a babysitter, but it is a long time to be stuck with a man you don't particularly care for who already has a connection with your son. If he is not the boy's father, its better to break off with him sooner than later, so that the breakup is easier on the child.
If he is your son's father, you can get child support, which should take care of the financial element.
Good luck!
2006-08-17 07:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by AmericanDreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl naw bcus he has 3 kids from his previous wife and he 46 yrs old. You need 2 find somebody about tha same age is you and be happy. He cant do anything for you and you child bcus he got 3 kids of his own 2 raise. Well I was just giving you some advice but you grown you can do want you want 2 do. Good luck!
2006-08-17 14:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I couldn't even get past the first sentence. Take it from a single mom raising two by myself. It can be done. You've already stated you make good enough money to support yourself. You shouldn't be looking for ways to cope with a dead end relationship. You should be looking for an apartment. Think about your son. Kids are way smarter than we give them credit for. Does he really need to see you so unhappy?
2006-08-17 13:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop the slug. using or being used by someone isno way to have a life. there are agencies, friends you trust or relatives that can help with your child while you are in school. also think this relationship is affecting your child. is this the kind of example your 6 year old needs to see modeled? you sound fairly level-headed, run as fast as you can. chalk it up to a bad experience and learn the pattern that allowed you to fall into this and avoid making the same mistake for yourself and your kiddo.
2006-08-17 13:59:21 · answer #4 · answered by Robert A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is almost TWICE your age! you have a career ahead of you and you are good looking. that should settle everything. Men much younger than that would definitely want to marry you. so didn't waste your time with him dump him and find a man who truly loves you and would want to spend the rest of his life with you. and for you 6 year old son you can hire a babysitter (thrust worthy one) or just get one of your friends of family members to help you take care of him until you find that Mr right.
or you can be naughty and date around to find the perfect guy, and when you do break up with the old guy =]
hope this helps
2006-08-17 14:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by julia k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you make enough money to support yourself, then leave him. also, ask a family member or a friend or look around for day care services if you need to take night classes.
it will be tough, but it's more important that you and your child be happy. don't let this man use you- if he isn't serious about the relationship, leave!
2006-08-17 13:58:58 · answer #6 · answered by miss advice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont stay because you need support leave if its a dead end relationship you can make it on you own it will be hard but dont rely on him because when he finds out the only reason your with him is because of that he may leave you before you leave him and then you will really have no where to go
2006-08-17 14:41:13 · answer #7 · answered by spicysaucylatina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a loan and put your son in a daycare, he is 6 he should be starting pre-school anyways... Why waste another year of your life for nothing
2006-08-17 13:58:43 · answer #8 · answered by V L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRY TO GET YOURSELF A JOB AS YOU ARE SCHOOLING. STILL HANG OUT WITH HIM TO SAVE MORE MONEY. AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE, SECRETLY. TELL HIM WHAT YOU THINK. IF YOU DISAPPROVE OF HIS ANSWER TELL HIM OF YOUR INTENTION. BE STRONG HEADED. IF THINGS DONT WORK OUT SEEK THE HELP OF AN ORGANISATION AND LEAVE HIM FOR A BRIGHTER FURE. HE IS TOO OLD AND WILL WASTE YOUR TIME. AND MAKE SURE YOU HAVE A CAREER BEFORE MARRIAGE FOR A BETTER LIVUNG
2006-08-17 13:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by MissyFlexsy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him, stay with him. If you're not happy then don't be with him. You can always find a babysitter to watch your son. His kids are his responsibilities and they should not hold you back. Don't use him! Tell him how you feel and go from there.
2006-08-17 14:04:54 · answer #10 · answered by mommy2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋