I just started to talk to this guy online.. He is really cute and so far seems really sweet. Thing is I get quiet when it come to letting my heart care about someone. What questions should I ask so I can get to know him better? How do I let go of the fear of getting hurt?
2006-08-17 06:35:56 · 24 answers · asked by movu101779 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know his age, location and gender..
2006-08-17 06:41:24 · update #1
You should ask about his hobbies, common interests, and future goals. Treat all on line conversations like any other daily conversation. Just remember people can be whomever they want to be on the net (and that's not necessarily good).
2006-08-17 06:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by wifiguy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Request a video chat so you KNOW that's really what he looks like or still looks like. Do NOT give out your address or tel. number; a lot of sex offenders go online and find more victims that way. If you are underage, try to see if you can meet up with adults around, and not at his place or your place (do not go alone). You need to see if there is real chemistry between you in order to know that there is a real attraction, but you also need to be safe. Ask him the same questions at different times to see if you get the same answers, and if something doesn't jive, call him on it, and see what he says (timelines, jobs, friends, etc.). Online "relationships" are very tricky, and can be dangerous, esp. to underage people. Tell some other people about him, so they know where and who he is if something happens to you. Consider him more like a penpal for now.... .
2006-08-17 13:46:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful, make sure you are not taling to some old fart. Or a picture of him 10 years ago. Do you give out any personal information, he may try to ask indirect questions to get it like what school/church do you go to.
You can only get to know someone by talking to them face to face.
A person really can not express their personalities over email to well. Good luck and be carful.
2006-08-17 13:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by james c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, go slow with the online thing because distance creates a disadvantage in getting to know someone. Best to go real slow and let things take their own course. If you don't feel close right now maybe it is not time to be close or else your subc. may be telling you to stay away.
2006-08-17 13:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by The Grand Inquisitor 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask about his hobbies, likes, dislikes, family, etc. It isn't easy letting go of the fear. Just make sure you are comfortable before agreeing to meet. Keep things easy going until you are comfortable. Good luck!
2006-08-17 13:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get too attached to anyone online, first of all. They are only telling you what they want you to know. Most of the people I have met online are hiding something. Not everyone does that, I'm just saying for the most part.....it's like that. Let him tell you what he wants you to know. Don't tell him anything TOO personal. Keep your guard up for now.
2006-08-17 13:41:12 · answer #6 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Name, age, social security number. That will allow you to run a background check to see if he is a felon or has any outstanding PFAs against him.
If not, be sure to meet him in a public place. There are a lot of crazies out there.
2006-08-17 13:45:12 · answer #7 · answered by Robin A. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well u should definetly take ur time, there are a lotta a$$holes and creeps out there. so first and foremost be careful. but i think it takes a lot more time to get to know someone online..nothing beats a face to face conversation. as far as questions you should ask?....ask about his family, thats a good way of getting to know about someone.
2006-08-17 13:41:51 · answer #8 · answered by Smart Mark 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask what are his hobbies/interests. Just be yourself and be honest. Don't except too much, just let it be. And, be very very cautious, really, this is "online" and lots of posers out there, you'll never know.
2006-08-17 13:59:54 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn Treader 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most important question is are you or have you been in jail second question, are you married or involved with someone ? dont give out personal info., dont let him fool you into meeting him talk on the phone but you call him dont give your # and... *67 so he cant see yours on caller i.d. BE SAFE !
2006-08-17 13:44:41 · answer #10 · answered by transplanted 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋