once again i am back to talk about my loser as$ boyfriend. im not sure what to do...he wont get a job, we have officially stopped having sex, i believe he is still lying to me, and having said this--he is a loser. he is stubborn and really has nothing to look forward to in life. after almost 2 years he still keeps secrets from me lies to me and treats me like a step child. and then when he wants some p*ssy or he needs help help with his "i ****** up myself and somebody has to fix it" life fakes being the best guy in the world...i am waaaaaaaaaay too young for this i am only 19 and so is he. does he have a mental problem or what??? i STILL after all this time do the things for this relationship i have to do and even he can't say i dont. what is the problem. i was fine with him and one day he woke up being a prick about his entire life. a loser basically. we have broken up before and dont live together. no kids either. how can i leave him??? im too tired of his $hit???
2006-08-17 06:31:41 · 36 answers · asked by danielle 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you now after one day of me being angry i started to argue with him about how things have to improve in our realtioship he get mad and i believe i stabbed him and he definately broke my risk im not that dumb enogh to believe we wont kill one another one day or another. ooh well its over plase those of you out there who understand say a prayer.
2006-08-18 11:58:41 · update #1
listen if you feel he is a f uck up leave his sorry ***..you must learn from your mistake.. i have in the past , that's why i have 3 kids, two ex husbands and about to get remarried again. have any questions, e mail me. if you live in new york,ill get u a real man with money.,.
2006-08-17 06:39:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not his mother. You are a young woman full of hope and future. Don't waste anymore time with this guy. If he needs help tell him to call his parents.
Use the 0-100 scale. If he is a loser more than 50% of the time then he is a loser the majority of the time and you can not fix him. If he is "the best guy in the world" more than 50% of the time then there is real hope for him.
2006-08-17 06:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sister Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From reading the first sentence in your question .. I'm not feeling the love in this relationship .. lol .. I think you need to break up with him and take some time out for yourself .. !
2 years and you're only 19 ... dang girl ... get out and enjoy life ... come on do you really want to be married to this guy .. sounds like you're more of his mommy then GF ... you deserve to be happy everyone does .. you're just choosing not to be right now.
I bet you once you break up with him and start taking care of yourself ... you'll feel 100% better about life in general ... he might love you to death and you might love him to death ... but that doesn't always mean you were meant for each other ... !
Stand up for yourself and don't let this guy run your life ... make yourself happy ... worry about what you want in the future ... make decisions that will benefit you individually .. not for you and your loser BF ... sounds like he's not going anywhere anytime soon in life ... so you better do something now ... before things get worse ... !
2006-08-17 06:44:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like any intelligent woman and I can see that your man is giving you the blues but he can't do anything that you don't allow him to do. If you were really tired of him you would not associate with him at all but you must still feel something cause you still do for him. I'm not saying that you are dumbfounded or anything but girlfriend........ wake up. you are giving him too much power and you need to let that go. he will continue to come back as long as he knows that he can get out of you what he want. Put that guy on lock down and throw away the key.
2006-08-17 06:42:40 · answer #4 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you say same question, new answers...
More like than not you got this answer ALOT from you last question...LEAVE, DO NOT PASS GO, DO NOT COLLECT $200.
JUST LEAVE, don't look back. You were smart by not having kids. This would have made it harder. You don't live with him, so what's the problem. Don't answer his calls, emails, text messages, IM. Maybe in some weird way you don't want to leave, because it sounds like it.
If you are tired as you say, you don't live with him, you don't have kids, I for one don't see a problem with just ignoring him. Now, if he is harassing you, you may want to get a restraining order, or get some type of protective order against him. Consult your local attorneys office.
Good luck.
2006-08-17 06:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by geminigirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you want all his sh*t cause you have been with him for 2 years. It is very easy to leave him, just tell him that you need a man and not a child to take care of. And if you didnt want all this stress why did you go back to him why you 2 broke up. You want stress and until you find the guts to leave for good, then he will continue to lie and be a worthless loser.
2006-08-17 06:38:53 · answer #6 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
remember, you are the director of your own life. Your the boss, if he is bringing you down and you don't want to be commited to him and especially of your not totally think he is the love of your life you have every right to get on with your life. Someday you will have a husband and children. YOU need to save your patience, tolerance for them. Just tell him that your relationship with ea hother will be returning to just strictly friends, until you can cheer up and feel good about life with him again, but that you can't promise anything.
2006-08-17 06:42:33 · answer #7 · answered by RACHAEL R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop calling, stop visiting him, cut off all contact with him. If it pleases your fancy, you could call him and tell him that you're sick of his **** and you're not putting up with it any longer and that you're leaving for good. Hun, you really need to get out of this situation. You need to find someone who will treat you right and will actually go somewhere in life. You don't wanna be living in a trailer park and living on welfare, do you? GET HIM OUT OF YOUR LIFE! Save yourself now, you can't save him no matter how much you'd like to.
2006-08-17 06:38:56 · answer #8 · answered by Lauren 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think there is something going on with you inside....i went through something similar but i was 15 he was 22 and it lasted for 7 yrs.....the only thing that i was blessed with was my daughter.....and I'm telling you from experience he was only a learning experience. some people are only meant to pass through your **** and move on but we make mistakes and keep them there longer. the next time something jumps off..just keep it moving. he may not be right for you...and like they say if it is really love and you take time apart and keep your distance it will come back stronger and better than before....im only 23 but men will make you grow up faster than you have to...and besides you should just have a ladies night out and chill....don't look for the next either just chill have fun enjoy you and he will pop up somewhere.
2006-08-17 06:43:05 · answer #9 · answered by SHAI 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seem like the more logical ? is why are you even talking about this and leave.its pretty obvious there is nothing there at least from your standpoint so just break it off if he has a problem with it get a restraining order if you have to but if its as bad as you make it seem im sure he knows it too and you can go your seperate ways
2006-08-17 06:39:56 · answer #10 · answered by rsheets24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him now! you are young and do not have to settle for less.
all that will happen is you will end up with a very low self esteem of your self, and never be happy. love does not hate, it respects, it listens, it admires, it gives. you have to decide who you are and what you want in live and find someone who has the same values and morals as you. sex is not love, it is a physical act of lust. making love is totally different. when you are with a man who truly loves you and shares the same out look of love & life you will be amazed of what you have missed out on. hope life works out better for you in the future. save yourself till the right one comes along, if it's for real...he will wait.
2006-08-17 06:43:46 · answer #11 · answered by d s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋