Why do girls get upset when a friend who really liked them ask them out or reviels feelings just after she broke up with the boyfriend who was in the way...
Pretty much as want to try and get with her before someone else does?
Seeing as girls have it so easy and get so many offers?
What are you supposed to do... Sit there and wait for her to get with someone else?
2006-08-17 06:24:50 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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Problem with being the crying shoulder is you get seen like a cartoon character ie a sexaul and dickless and the girl sees you as non human without feeling, without needs, without all that they feel and need...
Not even a brother as at least a brother could date other girls
2006-08-17 08:04:18 · update #1
I don't know but it pisses me off when guys do it too - I guess sometimes we get out of one relationship, and think damn get off back for a few days at least. Its just aggravating......
2006-08-17 06:30:21 · answer #1 · answered by VL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she did the breaking up than she is not ready to be in a relationship yet, (time wise depends on her). She also could be sparing you feelings and doesn't want to use you as a rebound.And somtimes girls feel like they are very vulnerable after a break up, so they become very defensive for a while to keep from geting hurt more. Girls have to work through the'r feeling unfortunatly. I do it too and it's not on purpose either. Most girls don't even realize they are doing it.
2006-08-17 06:35:30 · answer #2 · answered by spiffymo 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She isn't a McDonald's. No numbers to take nor is her heart a revolving door. In my experience you need to consider her feelings. She has emotional attachment to the last guy. So right off it's a bad idea to jump in as you might find her needing him again and leaving you. Best bet: console her and just be there for her. Be a friend. Let her know you're not just there for you. Let her see you put aside your own wants and put hers first. If she's worth it, she'll appreciate and reciprocate with Head of the Line privileges and considerations for you when her heart is ready for another try. Good luck.
2006-08-17 06:33:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
She may not have really resolved her feeling yet. It takes girls a bit longer to sort through the emotions - eventhough they may glad the breakup happened - there is still a short sorting and grieving process. To have someone come up right away just adds to the stress and emotional roller coaster. Also maybe she is afraid you are interested in her "rebound" and some guys take advantage of girls at this time!!?
2006-08-17 06:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by sarahbobarah 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just broke up with my b/f and one of his freinds made his feelings known for me. I did not get upset, but just told him it was WAY too soon. At least I know how he feels and I can address that when I am ready, but I still have to have some time to get over my ex. You did not do anything wrong, and she probably just needs time, but you were right to let her know how you feel. She knows now, and can deal with that however she would like when the time is right for her. Keep being her friend though, and be patient.
2006-08-17 06:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by OnE GiRL 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well her having your child isn't fair to you for her to leave without telling you.but perhaps she left because she doesn't think you can support her. Dreams are great but reality is what you need to focus on. Having a house together with your kids would be awesome but you have to have the funds it can't just be handed to you. You not having a car probably scares her because the man is suppose to be the one that takes care of the mother and child. But than on the other hand, I don't want to say it but maybe the baby isn't yours and she thinks that separating herself physically from you will help her emotionally! Best of luck and God bless!
2016-03-27 06:13:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my guess is the girls get upset because they think you're only after her because you think she'll say yes (since she's on the rebound.) But at the same time, they're probably confused about how they feel about you and don't want to hurt you if their feelings toward you change. But i don't know, feel sorry for your situation, brother. Hope that works out for you.
2006-08-17 06:31:14 · answer #7 · answered by someone in the world 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think that is a stinky attitude that you have it takes time for a girl to get over a break up she has finished with the love of her life and doesn't need some so called friend hitting on her. if you want to get noticed just be happy as a friend and if she thinks of you like that then it will happen but need to change attitude. women don't always have it easy.
2006-08-21 05:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by pussycatwinnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait awhile. Let her get her emotions straightened out. Be her crying shoulder and her sound board. Be the pal you were and help her out. Hope for good luck that no one else gets her. Wait a month. I think that's enough time.
Good luck to anyone experiencing this right now
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2006-08-17 07:33:25 · answer #9 · answered by joe19 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude... that makes her think that all along you were just pretending to be her friend but in reality were just waiting to get in her pants... women really hate that stuff... they like to believe that you liked her "as a person"...
the only thing you can do brother, is to chill, be her best friend for a while... let her see what a nice guy you are... and be very subtle when you show her that you "like" her... it's not gonna be easy, but it can be done... you might even have to let her go on a date or two and hope that nothing happens... she is hurt, she is tired of guys and needs some time to heal and be prepared for romance again... for now, telling her you like her is kinda like offering someone a really good steak when they are already nauseous... see what i mean...
good luck... and yes, patience and kindness towards her are your best friends for now...
2006-08-17 06:39:31 · answer #10 · answered by Another Addict 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to wait for her to find someone else but you have to look at it from her point of view...she just got out of a relationships..obviously her emotions are all over the place..the last thing she needs is a ton of guys asking her out. She feels like a peice of meat and a bunch of guys are just trying to jump all over her. Secondly she may still have feelings for her ex and want to work things out with him. More then likely she is just angry at guys all together and you may have just ruined a friendship by telling her how you feel.
2006-08-17 06:32:15 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋