my dad is speeding to much$ and not coming home from work till 2 hr. im 9!!?

Question

my dad is speending to much $$ and not enough time w/ us ,at night i her them screming,yelling,and crying!! whats going on im only 9!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELP HELP HELP !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Talk to your mother about it. She needs to know that it's hurting you as well as her. She can probably do something, being that she wnats the best for the family. If things don't change soon, you should talk to another adult you trust who can get you out of this sticky situation. Maybe a guidance counsellor at school, or another teacher. Or a close friend's parent.

It might also just be an adult thing. Adults have problems that shouldn't worry or affect kids, but unfortunately, they do sometimes. Give them some time to work things out, and if things get really bad, then you should ask for help.

Answer 2

Angie, you most likely know what is going on sweety. Listen to your heart, and the answers you can't find there, try asking your mom about.
Moms and Dads are almost always good people.
Usually when they fight as much as you describe, one or the other of them is making a mistake.
Grown-ups re not mistake proof.
I think that the most important thing you need to understand, is that both of them love you very much, more than they love anything else in their lives.
Whatever it is that they are fighting about will be resolved by them in time.
Sometimes the answers to problems that moms and dads have are happy answers, sometimes they aren't.
I think it is important to let them know that you feel concerned and worried about the arguments you hear and that you need to know if things are o.k. or not.
They love you and will try to answer your questions as best they can.
Good luck and love to you and never forget that you are the most important person in their lives.

Answer 3

Little one, my arms are hugging you. Ask your mom if the two of you can talk(maybe over milk and cookies).....let her know that you hear the argueing and it is bothering you. If you can't do that maybe another adult (grandma,grandpa, favorite aunt or uncle) and they can talk to your folks.
Adults tend to argue alot when they don't agree and sometimes we forget that there are little ears listening.
When the noise level of the adults rise maybe you can turn up the volume on your stereo(or use headphones).
As for Dad not spending alot of time with you...does he have a set day off?? The only time my little girl gets any time with her daddy is on Sundays(he works long hours).
Hang in there sweetie...none of this is your fault and has nothing at all to do with you...just listen to your mom,give her lots of hugs..things will get better.

Answer 4

If you feel that you cannot talk to your parents, ask a school counselor. Sometimes marriage and family life gets tough, but if you can talk to someone about it, it might make it easier for you. I know you may feel that because you are only 9 years old that you can't do anything about it, but you need to talk to someone. Maybe an aunt or uncle??? Good Luck and I hope all works out ok.

Answer 5

He may or may not have a drug problem but their is definately something wrong. Get help from an outside source (like a school counselor, an adult that you trust) your mom may not be able to help you because she is suffering too. Your counselor should be able to help you know how to deal with it.
Pray to Heavenly Father for comfort and follow your heart.

Answer 6

Lots of things happen to married people. They are having private issues which should not be affecting you, but of course, you love them and you are unfortunately hearing it, so it is. You need to know that it is not about you at all. It is about their relationship. When they fight, try not to listen. When my parents used to argue, I'd take my little brother outside or turn on the music in my room and let him in. I'd cover his ears and have him cover mine like a little game (I remember this when I was 7; I'm 41 now). They need to work it out, and remember...whatever happens is NOT your fault. Good luck, hun.

Answer 7

You need to talk to another relative, a teacher or school counselor, or a church minister or pastor about getting help about what is happening with your family right now. None of these things are your fault and you don't have experience it without support of a good adult.

Answer 8

you poor child. maybe if you tell your parents (not while they are arguing) you want to talk to them and just tell them how you feel and let them know you are hurting it will help matters. let them know a family is suppose to be peacful and loving. hope things get better. when you hear the yelling do what ever you can to not listen, put on headphones, cover your ears, what ever you can. you don't need to listen honey. just ask GOD to make a change for the better.

Answer 9

sweetie you are only 9 years old and you should not have to deal with these adult problems.Why dont you try talking with your mom and let her know how u feel.Or maybe talk to your grandma or another relative.Sounds like your dad has a problem and your mom is upset that hes not at home where he needs to be.I hope you and family will be ok.

Answer 10

Sweetheart,

Mommies and daddies fight, I am sorry that you are seeing this. My husband and I fight and my little boys have expressed how that hate it. We are trying to do better.

Maybe you should tell your mom and dad that you can hear them and that you would like to know in your heart that everything is going to be OK.

$$$$ is a big fighter in many homes. Too many people fight about $$$$. You need to tell your mom and dad that their fights scare you and make you uncomfortable.