Im 25, and i dont want kids until im 30-33. is this ok?

Question

I just got married and i want to see how my marriage goes first. Also, Im just not quite ready. But everyone (my in laws, husband, parents, friends...) keeps bugging me saying im getting old and i may never have kids if idont hurry up now. is this right?

Also, im not done havin fun!!

THIS ADVICE JUST MADE ME FEEL NO LONGER ALONE AND 100% BETTER. tHANK YOU ALL SO MUCH.

Answer 1

I am 30 and I have been ready for a while, lol, but don't see it as happening for another 1-3 years.

Don't let anyone else pressure you... do it when you are ready! Children are a HUGE responsibility!

And on a more positive note, it seems to be the trend that people are waiting until they are in their 30s and 40s even to start having kids, at least from what friends with children say they have noticed.

And enjoy your "me" time while you can~!

Answer 2

30-33 isn't too late to have children. I had my last child at 31.
However, your eggs were with you when you were born, just not matured until puberty. This does pose a problem, the older you get, the more complications you'll have. Down syndrome is one that affects the babies of women over 35. Also, you may find it difficult to concieve after 30.

When you think you're ready to start concieving, purchase some ovulation kits and keep track you when you ovulate. This will help a great deal in the conception process. Also, don't get discouraged if you don't concieve right away. And don't get srtessed about anything will your trying to concieve. Stress upset the cycle, and causes miscarriages.

Your life, your decision, your baby, in your time! Good Luck!

Answer 3

You are absolutely right. Your maturity level between 25 and 30 will increase dramatically although your wanting to see how the marriage goes before children says 1. you are already quite mature and 2. you may have doubts about the marriage. My advice would be to wait. See how the marriage goes and above all else be sure you are ready to not only have a child but to bear the responsibility that comes with raising that child. Don't worry about getting too old. Many women have children into their 40's.

Answer 4

The worst in your relationship are your in-laws! In every marriage...they just don't leave you alone. But hear me out...You can have kids as late or as early as you want to. If you want to have kids at age 30-33, that's ok. You're not getting old. You're actually keeping yourself young. This doesn't mean you're going to get ugly after you have your first born.

You're the one having the kids, not your in-laws, not your parents, not your cousins, not your pets, and defenitly not your husband. You are. So you decide when it is best for you to have your child. If you want to see how your marriage works out between now and until you turn 30, that's good. This way, shall things not work out in your marriage, at least you're not left out with your children and having to file child support, family counseling, etc. You're still free. You divorce him, and end the story.

So you're doing a good thing, here. Children are beautiful, but believe me, if your marriage does not work out, although I hope it does, they will be the ones suffering, living with separated parents, it's a tough call. Don't listen to your in-laws, I'm telling you, they're the worst in a marriage. Just tell them that you will be the one having the child, not them, and that when you feel it is the right time to have the child, you will have him, until then...keep their mouths closed.

As for your husband, I don't know what he thinks of this. But same thing for him. If he wants to rush things to have a child...is not good. He must support you. He must understand that although you trust him, things can go wrong as well. So, just do what you must, go on with your life. Go to work, and save enough money to support your child when you are ready. His education, his necessities. I wish you the very best.

Answer 5

No. I feel the same way. My husband and I both want kids, but we are enjoying our time alone right now. We are going to wait a few years before we start preparing to have a family. No need to rush anything cause once you have kids, you have them for a long time. Which is fine, I will never want to get rid of my children, or "push them off" on anyone to get a away from them for a while, but we just know we aren't ready to give up our alone time yet.

Answer 6

Have kids when YOU want them and when YOU are ready for them and not a minute before. Look at how many celebrities are waiting to have kids in their late 30's and early 40's nowadays. There is no wrong answer, it's individual. Don't allow anyone to pressure you. Biologically, by the early 30's there is still plenty of time to have kids. Every woman is different though.

I assume that you discussed this with your husband prior to your marriage and that you both agreed. It is up to the two of you only. And even he cannot pressure you into having kids before YOU are ready.

Good luck!

Answer 7

agree with others, but what Freedom says is also true.

Another point to consider is your ethnicity. If you are from a developing tropical country, your mean survival age and fertility could be different from a developed, temperate zone country.

Also in case you require any assistance in conceiving, the necessary medical backing may be costly, or even substandard / not the latest.

Really depends on where you are... in some places the social customs and taboo may be too much to bear.

That ofcourse doesnt mean you shd have your baby now... it just means you need to consider all the points before you decide. Maybe 26.. maybe 28, 31... is correct for you

:-)

Answer 8

Just let the people know that you are not ready. Take it from experience, I got married and had children right away. I really wish I could have waited a while. Think long and hard about it. Once children come along you will have no time for yourself and husband.

Answer 9

At 25, you are not too old. Women can have children up until their 50's (and even older). It does get harder to conceive the older you get, generally after 35. The important thing is that you not have children until YOU are ready. If you do, you may wind up resenting them. You will know when the time is right. Grow up yourself, first. Wait a year or so- enjoy your life with your husband. Get to know each other first.

Answer 10

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