Out of the blue my boyfriend broke up with me because "i'm moody" even though my dada was in the hospital, work hasnt been great and my aunt just died. All of a sudden he thinks we delevoped a sis/bro relationship, though thats not true, you can tell. he just turned 21 and im his first relationship, but all he can tell me is i dont know yet. his single firned just came down from jersy and i know that had something to do with it because the night before we were at a party and had tons of fun. help me...
2006-08-17 05:41:33 · 19 answers · asked by novalee9 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey, take this advice. If a man breaks up with you, go. It's the worst thing in the entire world, but if he lets you go, go. And go have fun doing something else. The best revenge is living well. Remember, there's always a reason. A better guy might be right around the corner...
2006-08-17 05:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he says that you have changed, then ask him how you have changed. Try not to drag your other life problems into it right away. Listen to what he has to say and think about if the accusations are true or not. If they are true, then tell him that you realize that this is true and that if he is willing to give you another chance, you will be willing to change. If the accusations are false, then let him know that you don't understand the changes he says you have made. (This is where it might be ok to introduce the outside life problems such as your father's hospitalization etc.) Tell him you have obviously been under some pressure and what you need right now is emotional support, and that might be why he feels as if the relationship has evolved into a bother/sister bond. Tell him that you need him with you and that you would very much like him to stay. Explain to him that you still have deep romantic feelings towards him and that you are not ready to let this relationship go yet. If he still decides to walk away, then I would say that you have done everything you can possibly do to keep the relationship alive, and now you need to let him go. You can keep him in your heart for as long as you want, and who knows, he may realize that he has made a mistake, and come back for you. In the mean time, pray!
~God bless
2006-08-17 12:57:22 · answer #2 · answered by Girl 4 God 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't understand that there is alot of things going on in your life at this time, then let him leave. You need a man that understands that things happen that are out of your control. Thats part of life, if he really loved you then he would understand and stand by you, and perhaps help just by listening. But, he more worried about himself. You need someone that loves you and will stand by you as a man not a child, " Your not paying enough attention to him" screw off, your dads in the hospital he's a selfish Dicck head." GOOD BYE a$$hole!!!
2006-08-17 12:52:44 · answer #3 · answered by captianpr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on. There's 3 billion men in this world. I'm sure others won't think you're "moody" when you have things troubling you. Besides, it sounds like he's bored and moved on already. You sound way young and it's too early to be thinking the end of a relationship is the end of the world.
2006-08-17 12:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by jewan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
During life you get sad events, and tell him that alot of things just happened emotionally to you. Tell him that you would be there if these things happened to him, and that he should be there for you. But don't be talking about those things all the time, talk about other things too, and ask him that it's his turn to do the deciding.
2006-08-17 12:51:02 · answer #5 · answered by Summerbaby 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of those things happening are bound to make you sad. Of course your not going to be in the best of spirtis. But this just shows you that he is not going to be there for you when you need him most. If I were you I would look for someone else.
2006-08-17 12:48:32 · answer #6 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while if he can't be understanding during your stressfull times than he's not really worth it..
perhaps he's been meaning to end it for awhile and just used this as an excuse
i imagine you'll find a much better boy who will support you through diffucult times and stand by your side
2006-08-17 12:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go back to the person u were before. It seems to me that u are under a lot of presure so just try to relax.
2006-08-17 12:48:23 · answer #8 · answered by nick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds as if he has not been totally honest with you. If he wants to let go of you then let go of him. You deserve a whole lot better. Find someone that will be there for you when you need him. Believe me you will feel better...
2006-08-17 12:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by movu101779 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the boy is confused as most guys of that age are. do not push too hard, that will only drive him further away. if he is the "one", remember the old adage, if you love something, let it go, if it is meant to be, it will return. it works real for pets and people alike.
2006-08-17 12:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by Robert A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋