I study japanese but feel discriminated and hated by japanese people. At first i thought nothing of it, but as i got to know more about the people and meet them, i feel they hate me. still i want to get better at speaking this language...but with this on the back of my mind sometimes i feel like sad and depressed and don't want to even study. how to over come this?
2006-08-17 05:33:56 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Languages
I'm not in japan i've never gone there, but i've met japanese people in america.. and chatted in voice chat too. Also i'm not outgoing american, i'm a very quiet person
2006-08-17 05:50:38 · update #1
Well, first I would think whether there is only a cultural misunderstanding..this can happen a lot when learning or living a different culture. I lived in Japan for a year and noticed many differences between Japan and U.S.
I was a little paranoid at first...then I just realized that Americans are much more outgoing and talkative. If you cannot get along with Japanese now maybe they are shy to meet you or perhaps you have a really outgoing image which can make ppl you meet there intimidated. You only feel they hate u which probably isn't the case...just stay optimistic and I am sure you will have better luck...nihon de gambatte ne;)
2006-08-17 05:48:40 · answer #1 · answered by Alcheme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what country you are from you will feel some discrimination from others. I lived in Japan for 20 years. I made some wonderful Japanese friends, and yet there were other Japanese people who were prejudiced.
The trick here is to make one or two good Japanese friends.
These are the people who will give you the desire to want to study.
Or, if you have your own reason for wanting to study.
I am wondering why you are in Japan. And what part.
When I lived in an older part of Japan I was sometimes the first westerner people had seen. Kids would hide behind their mother's backs and and say something like "Oh, it's a scary foreigner". So I just worked to make the child or adult at ease and make friends with them. This worked most of the time.
The more Japanese you learn the easier it will be to get along in Japan, but if you are unhappy in the country and can't make friends, maybe you should consider moving to a place where you would feel more comfortable and accepted.
The loneliness will eventually get to you. I watched it get to others and they eventually left.
Some Japanese don't want to know any foreigners. Others are happy to make friends with internationals. Write me in more detail and maybe I can give more specific advice.
But what is your purpose in being in Japan. That is very important.
2006-08-17 05:48:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, budyman5 aka trobop. I know they are the same person.
Anyway, you keep asking this kind of questions over and over. You posted before that you try to talk to Japanese girls, who come to the U.S. to learn English, on the bus or wherever you find them. Then you complained that those Japanese girls do not have interest in you and seem they do not want to be bothered. You also said that you talk to them in Japanese, but some of them ignore you. Japanese girls are mean, cold, unfriendly, racits, etc, etc.
First of all, it is uncommon to talk to people on the bus in Japan. The Japanese people do not take the public transportation to make friends but to travel. There is always the right time and the right place to alk to strangers. What you are doing makes the Japanese girls suspicious. I believe that American women will react to you the same way if you talk to them in inappropriate places and at inappropriate times.
You said that you are a 26-year-old Mexican American man, lack social kills, have no friends, are unattractive, are antisocial for years and are unemployed. I do not want to offend your feelings, but if you have difficulty in making friens with your own people, that is Americans, you will have the same problems with people in other countries. No matter what country they come from, people probably have the same impression of you. This is a universal fact.
The Japanese girls you have met do not hate you. They just do not have interest in you. Should they be attracted to you just because you have interest in the Japanese language and the girls? Absolutely Not. What you need to do is learn the social skills and make friends with your own people. This is the only way to overcome your problems with the Japanese girls and girls in any country.
2006-08-18 03:43:43 · answer #3 · answered by Nanako 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They will like you more if you show an effort to learn their ways (which they feel is best). The Japanese are very suspicious of outsiders, but if you make an honest effort to assimilate, they will accept you more.
And stop whining, they hate that.
2006-08-17 05:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by haha 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's common with Romanians and Poles trying to study Russian. You overcome it, eventually;absolute need being a factor. But it is a phenomenon positively recognized by psycholinguistics.
2006-08-17 05:41:54 · answer #5 · answered by Cristian Mocanu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no because if you feel they are hate and you see that is something is going to stop learning another language so that is exactly wrong
2006-08-17 05:46:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mody 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go to a country to become one of thier citisens then learn thier language or get out, idiot.
2006-08-17 05:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by kekeke 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋