Thank God for the choice. There are a few things I do and CAN do from home or as an Independent Contractor (Licensed in Real Estate, Nail Technology, Certified Computer Trainer, etc.) but as for working a set schedule... I think I don't want to do that anymore. I LOVE my job and we can certainly use the money but both my husband and I think I should stay home but we're debating it because we don't know for sure. We have a 13 year old girl and I need to be here when she gets home too. We don't know many people as we've only relocated here last year. What do you suggest. Thanks!!!
(I'll ask a similar question in the Career section, too)
2006-08-17 05:32:39 · 11 answers · asked by Sleek 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you are going to make your own money at home instead of being totally dependent on your husband for financial means, I say go for it and be a full time mom to raising your kids.
Now, if your going to depend solely on your husband income and your not going to do anything to advance yourself, I say think long and hard at all the stay at home moms who were left and deserted with lack of education no decent work history and not able to have a decent income to take care of themselves.
Never place your well being in the hands of anyone. If your going to make your own money again, I say go for it and Good Luck.
2006-08-17 05:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by words from the heart 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Consider yourself fortunate that you have the choices you do! Not many people do.
I completely understand about not wanting to go back to work after you have your baby. I have a two month old and the only saving grace for me is that I work from home. It's a complete luxury and as long as you have the self-discipline, I would highly advise it. I do find that I have to adjust my work schedule around his for now but it's getting easier as he's getting older. Also, when you consider the cost of day care, it really come out in the wash. Not to mention the fact that I really don't want a stranger raising my child!
As far as what and when you should tell your employer... I'm sure they're already making arrangements to cover your maternity leave. However, you don't want to slam a door, especially id you enjoy your job! Even if you're out on maternity leave, I would still give your employer your two weeks notice. If you have to, offer to come in on a part time basis to assist in training your replacement. I know as an employer this is something I really appreciate! I know I can train anyone who comes into my business but I always appreciate it when one of my people steps up.
Good luck and congratulations!
2006-08-17 13:13:18 · answer #2 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you what is the right decision for your family. I resigned from my job at the end of my FMLA leave after we had my third daughter. It is a WHOLE different world staying home, but it was the right choice for us. You can always go back to work if it isn't working financially. We have, thankfully, been able to make it.
As for the logistics - most industries only require a two week notice. You should only give this notice two weeks before you are expected back - for several reasons. If you are being paid any type of short term disability (which you are entitled to from the time you have already spent on the job) this will cease upon termination of your employment. Also, your health insurance, potential COBRA coverage that you may need - all of these are tied to your employment and you want to carry this out as long as you can for the sake of your family. Also, this leaves you time in case you change your mind. I don't know the specifics of your job or your benefit structure with your current job - but remember that the company you work for is going to look out for their best interests, so you should not ever feel bad in looking after your own. I would not advise at all giving them 2-3 months notice - unless you work for a very small Mom and Pop type place. As long as you give a two week notice, you should be leaving on good terms. Just tell them that after staying home with your baby, you and your husband have decided that it is best for you to continue to do so.
We also recently relocated - there are so many ways to meet people - get involved with the PTA at your daughter's school, volunteer, and many places have a Mom's club for stay at home parents to get together with playgroups and field trips, etc.
Good luck! I think that this is one of the toughest decisions that families make.
2006-08-17 13:01:55 · answer #3 · answered by davis0375 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family comes 1st no matter what. I know you need the money but your family needs you too. There is so much going on in this world that we live in and you can't be too safe when it comes to your children especially with a 13 yr. old girl. People these day (most people) don't care who they hurt. I'm just saying that because our children are our lives and they need to know that we are there to protect them. I'm not saying to quit tomorrow cause you need to give a 2 wks notice but you just had a bad and you have a teenage daughter. Families First Always.
2006-08-17 12:42:15 · answer #4 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! If your budget will allow it it might be kind of freeing for your to stop working so much and spend your time with family. And when you're ready you can choose a path and work from home or wait until your littlest one is enrolled in school then work part time.
Feel blessed you have the option to not work. I'd give anything to spend the whole day with my daughter!
2006-08-17 12:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by camoprincess32 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
out of respect for your employer,give them at least 2 wks notice that you won't be returning.That will give them ample time to replace you.Tell them you appreciate all they've done but this is something you need to take care of.I really encourage you to go for it with self employment.My hubby does the same thing(he's working on getting his contractors license).The money may be pinched for a while but you'll get used to it(depending on where you live)Where I live(we just moved,too)the housing is cheaper but the utilities are crazy.Thank God for Discount stores!Good luck w/the new baby.
2006-08-17 12:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by L.T. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually employers will tell you when you need to tell them. When I went on leave, my boss told me that if i changed my mind and wanted to stay at home with my baby, to tell them at least 2 weeks before my return date so they could find someone else. But I would suggest letting them know as soon as you decide, becuase you won't leave a grudge at that company, just in case you want to return one day!
Just some advice, and enjoy mommyhood!
I wish I had that choice!
2006-08-17 12:39:43 · answer #7 · answered by kisme86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay at home as long as you can. tell your employer 2-3 months in advance so he can find a suitable person in your place or who knows he may offer some good opportunity to work from home.
2006-08-17 12:46:58 · answer #8 · answered by dharani p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell your boss now or as early as possible so that he has a heads up. Or maybe you can do a part time schedule if it's possible. Best of luck!
2006-08-17 12:39:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure you leave with good remarks so if you ever do decide to go back you will have a good reference. stay home as long as you can!!!
2006-08-17 12:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by mommy_dearest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋