sometimes when people try to help me I take it that they are Butting in. I a lot of times take waht people say too personal and too heart and being in ministry I do know that there are times when we all get offended and all feel overlooked and/or not appreicated. How can I admit this accept this and choose to be happy any way?
My father in law said in front of a group of people that he loved me but I have tried his patience more than once, I was very hurt being that his step son who is my husband and I try very hard and we care about people and dont expect anything from any body.
When people say mean and flippant things I want to be able to rise above it and speak the truth in love not stoop down to thier level?
Some people feel what we do is never enough and we should strectch and do more and my husbands ste4pdad is one of these people that feel this way.
2006-08-17 05:24:27 · 9 answers · asked by encourager4God 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Understood. Some friends and relatives have a quick reaction to helping others solve problems. They don't think about their feelings or all possible options, they just want to be heard right away to give you their solutions.
I also feel a but sensitive to others jumping in to save me when I don't need or want their help. It isn't pride or ego that is making me this protective, it is a lack of patience and compassion for the other person.
Our best bet is to keep silent and hear out the other person's words of wisdom for a moment. Leave a pause at the end, then ask if they think that this is the best solution for this problem. When you look someone in the eye and ask them this, they think it over and reconsider. When they think that they may have been to hasty to "jump in", they may apologize and retract their answer.
Please pray for patience and understanding of others. It will give us the strength that we need to be mature and wise in our choices, without hurting anyone's feelings. That is the best situation that we could possibly hope for, WIN-WIN!
Peace to you always
2006-08-17 05:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by joe_on_drums 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sort of sounds like you have some emotional issues hon. It sounds as though you may feel persecuted and you are beginning to understand that people may not mean to make you feel this way. Maybe you're thinking that you overreact when people say negative things about you. If that's true you might want to look into professional therappy to help you manage your anxiety. I expect if you're in ministry you'd probably rather be couselled by a priest but with what you're describing I believe you should absolutely try letting a doctor or other medical practicioner help you.
2006-08-17 13:21:03 · answer #2 · answered by W0LF 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To talk down to or about somebody is one of the most cowardly things we can do as people. It's the easiest way out of a problem, and by taking it, you do indeed stoop very low. Always have something nice or meaningful coming out of your mouth.
You are very right for resisting the urge to become angry with anybody. Although, don't feel the need to keep the conflict inside. If you want to bring it up to somebody, just keep a cool head and a kind heart.
2006-08-17 12:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by happyfarah88 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very important to remember that you only have control of yourself. You cannot do anything about what others do, say or feel, so it serves no purpose to internalize these things. Also a lot of problems arise from lack of or mis-communication, so if something someone said bothers you, talk to them and ask questions, because it may not have come out the way it was intended. In my opinion, you must excercise the power you have over your own feelings. Remember no one can hurt you, you allow yourself to feel hurt based on what someone has said or done.
2006-08-17 12:38:27 · answer #4 · answered by genuinepeach23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being honest may not be stooping down to their level. Be honest about how you feel, you need to some times. If the other person doesnt like your honesty about how YOU feel, too bad. Honesty is reality, anything else is a dream.
You are free to be honest about how something makes YOU feel. Keeping your mouth shut all the time, holding it in, is not helpfull for anyone. specially not you
2006-08-17 12:34:34 · answer #5 · answered by CJunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, Big deal, I love my kids but they try my patience several times daily. It is part of life. living together as humans. Does your father in law ever get on your nerves? (be honest) My parents are ministers, they have learned this the hard way. If you let it get to you you will drive people away, if you let slide right off you you'll be good to go.
good luck
2006-08-17 12:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by April N 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I prefer to stay out of other people's business unless they ask for help and expect them to mind their own damn business as well. If it gets too intrusive just say Butt Out!
2006-08-17 12:32:21 · answer #7 · answered by Kenny ♣ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be lyk dat, its natural for women, more than the men, hope u rectify ure problems by seing the mechanic who works in your local garage
2006-08-17 12:32:13 · answer #8 · answered by tariq k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
calm down, your too emotional, i can't understand what your trying to say.
be at peace with yourself first, give yourself a chance, do this for God first, second you, then, maybe you can serve then.
2006-08-17 12:35:10 · answer #9 · answered by toohevi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋