I have this issue and please I need your help to understand it.
I have a girlfriend that is really warm-hearted, and we're managing to end our relationship by marriage, I asked her, "would you ever do something to help someone that you love even if this thing will affect you or will make you feel uncomfortable? will you do it just to make the other person feel happy?" she said: no, I was surprized, cuz I know that she's really good and warm-hearted, and any good person will do things to ppl that he/she loves regardless of what will happen to them.
So what do you think the situation is?
2006-08-17 05:21:39 · 16 answers · asked by kharabish.blogspot.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To my my question clear, I don't mean that I want her to help me, but it was in general, and specially I was thinking when we have a child, I was asking her, will you stop woking to take care of our child, and she said no. but yet, I'm asking the question to you in general, help doesn't always mean that the person that you'll help is in trouble.
2006-08-17 05:34:15 · update #1
Your question is kind of vague but I do believe that i would do almost anything for someone that i love even if it meant sacrificing something personally.
She is probably being wary of her answer because she is unsure what you are speaking about and is is unwilling to make a promise she is not sure she can keep.
I think this is a plus rather than a negative. Just be a little more specific in asking the question like would you give up ??? (something she really likes to do) for your mom (me or someone else).
2006-08-17 05:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question doesn't make alot of sense. Try rewriting it. It is way to general. For example, did you ask her the question exactly as you posted it here. Or did you ask her with the detail of what it is you want her to do? If you are talking about sex, grow up and get a life. Whining your way into sex is one sure fire way to not get it and pressuring someone by using their good side is just plain wrong. For all we know you could have asked her to have sex with a dog or to help you kill someone. There are limits. Which one did you cross that caused her to say no?
2006-08-17 12:34:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure why your girlfriend said that, but if you are truly in love with and love someone you would do anything to insure their happiness at all costs! I would do anything to make my husband happy even if I knew that I would lose something in return! There is no question about it, when you love someone you do things such as that to show your love! I don't really know what to tell you except I would closely examine this relationship to see if it is true! Hope this helps! Good luck and God bless!
2006-08-17 12:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by iLoveDawnDawn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In a marriage, each person makes sacrifices for the other. The fact that your girlfriend is unwilling to do that would make me a bit worried. You were not very specific about what kind of sacrifices you would be asking of her, but it sounds like you need to talk some more about this before you make the decision to get married.
2006-08-17 12:34:32 · answer #4 · answered by Tiss 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think your thinking rationally. Unless were talking about a child or helpless person no one wants to put themselves out there on the line to help someone who probably isn't doing anything to help themselves. I'm sure yur girl is still a good person at heart but you always have to look out for SELF in this world and THEN others. It has nothing to do with love or what others think...its just the reality. Look at it like this...If you put your self OUT to save others....who is going to save you? You ALWAYS have to save yourself FIRST.
2006-08-17 12:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sure...I'll & i did it already.....in return i get nothing back.....if she or he is selfish...let it b...if they r taking advance of ur good feeling....let it be....do everything which u feel like to do 4 her....
love is 2 give even if we r not apart of their happiness....
they who r taking advance of ur feeling.....they will pretent as if she/he don know but they know t well by heart that u love her n ready 2 do anything 4 her/his hapiness.....
2006-08-17 12:51:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand how do you feel first i have to say that her answer is some how tough, you have to talk to her as fast as you can may be she has apoint you cannot understand, and believe me it is better to say that this way than lying to u this doesnot mean she is completely right for me my friends came before any other things even if i donot to themi think that is my duty against them to care for themmore than i do to me and if u want to know bring much suffering to me so please before taking a step talk to her.
2006-08-17 12:45:21 · answer #7 · answered by egyptian one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would depend on the circumstances. There are lines that I will not cross, and it depends on how important something is to the person that you love.
2006-08-17 12:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by kyeann 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
U should try asking her what she meant by that...maybe it wasn't an absolute no...maybe there are just certain things that she wouldn't bring herself to do...
2006-08-17 12:32:31 · answer #9 · answered by Brenda 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I sense an asymmetry here. I hate to say it, but I get the impression that you care for her more than she does for you.
2006-08-17 12:28:18 · answer #10 · answered by musiclover 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋