Why do some children disrespect their mom?

Question

Hi I have a question to ask and it's about why some children disrespect their mom for no reason and they think their mom is not answering their questions about things that aren't important.
Or maybe complaining about things they have not gotten by them or by some other things.

Answer 1

The fault isn't in the kids, the fault is in how the kids were raised. It isn't like one day they wake up and do this. Some where along the way they started doing it and no one stepped in and stopped their behavior. Now they believe that is acceptable behavior.

Answer 2

If you have this problem, I'm pretty sure your child is a male. Though this is quite uncommon in females(it sometimes happens during adolescence for them), it isn't completely non-existent.
Back to boys, it's worth considering Freud's views on this matter.
Sometimes the parent is to blame, at least partially, because no question is too trivial when you consider a child's insatiable curiosity. If you ignore a child's questions you're basically not showing them any respect, and in turn they will have no respect towards you. Personally I believe parents should be as open as possible with children, it makes for strong foundations in parent-child relationships.
Discipline should be enforced, but curiosity must be satisfied first and when moral values are handed down to the child like this they will become less prone to doing the wrong things. It's something that has to come from within the child. You can't, sadly, discipline someone to respect you..if you do it'll only be fear and hatred you are enforcing. Though you may expect better of your child, you must understand that he is not a little man, but a child.
And if this doesn't fit the bill, I suppose behaviour can be inherited. Though I am inclined to say only another sibling can enforce this(assuming other adults don't disrespect their mother) and it would seem you've gone wrong with that child.
However, learning to behave like a sibling is somewhat uncommon because siblings try to outdo each other. And if disrespecting behaviour is frowned upon a child will do the opposite.
We can't look at this issue in the way someone's grandparents would compare today's trends with the trends of their day(unfavourably I might add). In other words the child isn't the omen. He's a model only you have the power to hone into a good citizen someday, if that's not happening you would need to rethink your strategy.
Hope this helps!

Answer 3

Parents that have children who disrespect them are scared of their children. Kids are taught early that if ur parents do something 2u-----dial this number. Parents nowadays are afraid 2 discipline their kids-- in fear of these children service agencies. If parents teach the children from day 1 ----when they are old enough 2 understand right from wrong---That certain behavior is not tolerated in "My House"----they wouldn't have a problem. A child shouldn't disrespect a mom/dad with or without a reason. Depending on the age of the kid--if he/she is old enough to talk on the phone--go 2 parties---play video games----they are old enought to go out n get a lil' job and help pay for the things they are complaining about. There is no law stating u have 2 spend ur hard earned money to have ur kid kept up with the Jonses. A kid that have a roof over his/her head---food 2 eat---clean clothes ----and a loving mom/dad-----shouldn't complain about anything.

Answer 4

Because the mom allows that to happen. I have two grown children and two that I am still raising and they all 4 know not to talk to me that way or they will be picking themselves up out of the next room and well will have a new doorway.

There is no reason why a parent should ever let a child disrespect them.

Answer 5

ok, this is coming from the view of a 15 year old, just so you know now.
1. it could be that their mom doesn't respect them. child or not, everyone deserves to have respect. in my eyes, if you don't respect i am not going to respect you, and that's how it is at my house also.
2. rebelling. kids, especially teenagers, love to rebel. its what we do best.
3. it doesn't matter if the question is important or not, the mother should still answer it. it disrepectable if she doesn't. the child ask the mother b/c believe or not, they respect her and look and to her. the confide in her to answer what they need..answered
4. they may complain b/c they are spoiled and normally get what they want.
5. they may also complain for other reasons. for example, maybe they want that item really bad.

i don't know if i answered this right, lol...but i hope it helped in one way or another.

Answer 6

Children disrespect their parents for many reasons.

Children are small people and they have feelings to. You have to understand you should deal with them as you would any person. If you give your children options, and dont talk down to them, you will have a better relationship with them.

If you can build a relationship on giver or take, and respect, you will be more successful than if you built in with an iron fist and fear as the basis.

Answer 7

Some children just rebel against their mothers, others didn't get enough discipline. Parents need to stand firm and not give in to everything their child wants. Why when I was a boy if I didn't eat my supper or lunch, it'd be sitting there on the table cold and all of its contents undisturbed. I'd then have to sit there until I ate it all.

Answer 8

Unfortunately most children don't realize that their mom is the one who loves them the most, the one who will be there for them no matter what. Due to peer pressure they think it's cool to "dis" their mom's, but it's not. In this day and age of immediate gratification, people are getting so selfish, they will turn their backs on you in a second, but your mom never will. I wish children and teenagers would realize that their mom's are their only true best friend.

Answer 9

Some children disrespect their parents because their parents don't respect them. You have to give respect to receive it. Kids talk, act, and treat people like their parents do. maybe the parents should be asking themselves what they are doing to give their kids the impression that it's okay to treat people that way

Answer 10

All behavior is learned so apparently the child who disrespects a parent has heard this from others and is doing it because NO ONE IS DEMANDING that he/she speak respectfully to everyone. There is a problem with the parenting!