My dad and I don't spend time together, we don't do anything together, he spends more time with his friends on poker games and on a computer game. My mother and brother don't get to spend time with him either, and we can't find an activity that we all enjoy. when we do get to spend time with him he ends up talking to his friends on his cellphone. My mother has tried talking to him about it and nothing works. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-17 05:11:28 · 8 answers · asked by ***ME***:) 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Set a day out of the week and make it family day this is a day that everyone in the household cancels all plans to be home, this time is for talking, playing games, movies, or a day out. A family that praise together stays together
2006-08-17 05:22:20 · answer #1 · answered by sweetpeachyp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The easiest way to get him to spend time with you is to try and do something that interests him (yes, it may be a little boring to you but if you really want to spend time with dear old dad you'll give it a shot). Arrange a family poker night, he seems to be into that. Make it competitive, instead of betting money try betting house chores. Hopefully, if he sees that the family is going out of the way to spend time doing things he enjoys he may realize that he's being a lazy father and husband. I tried this with my dad, I bought tickets to a blues concert, I got a picnic basket and filled it with sandwiches, snacks, 4 bottles of wine (all the necessities) we had ourselves a picnic at the concert, got drunk and had the best night ever! If the family night doesn't work out try planning something individually, that's what I had to do because my parents are divorced and my stepmom tends to get in the way, hence my father and I never spending any time together. I know it's a bummer to have to do things based on his likes and dislikes but if you put the effort in it will be recognized and rewarded (unless your dad is completely oblivious and a total douch-bag, which some dad's are). Good luck!
2006-08-17 12:43:14 · answer #2 · answered by sarahsmiles1222 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately it sounds like the issues may be stemming from him and your mom...not you and your brother. They may have problems that you are unaware of that they need to work out. Don't ever blame yourself for this situation. You didn't mention how old he is but he sounds like a man trying to regain his youth. Mid-life crisis maybe? You can try talking to him, but I really doubt that if something is going on, he is going to tell you about it. I hate to say it but this is probably one that only your parents can fix. Don't beat yourself up over it. You can't force him to spend time with you if he want to be immature. Are you involved in any activities? I say this not only because it's a way for your dad to be more involved in your life, but MOre so that you can take your mind off the situation and enjoy life. Good luck hun!
2006-08-17 12:24:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a note, or leave a message on his cell phone asking to spend some time with him. Good luck.
2006-08-21 11:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
send him a text message
pick a date and a place so that you can spend time with your dad
2006-08-17 15:36:43 · answer #5 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you talk to him. Tell him you want to spend time with him. See what he says...
2006-08-17 12:16:37 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you tell him you would like to spend time with him. Maybe go to dinner.
2006-08-17 12:19:00 · answer #7 · answered by SunshineSparkles1976 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its obvious who means the most to him have your mother give a altimatum and if he dont heed the warning then your better without him then tell him you wish your mother would dump his *** find another man. whom would care about his family
2006-08-17 12:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by duckierew 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋