okay, so I recently got back together with an ex boyfriend, when we 1st were going out, 2 years ago, I was very mean to him i used to abusive him verbally. I also was doing drugs and drinking too much then, he was a very nice guy and i ended up dumping him
because i thought he was a pussy for ragging on me for all the drugs i did, i never realized how bad i hurt him untill he recently
told me.flash forward to today, i am clean and sober and we are back together. we are resolving old issues, and moving forward. this ishonestly the happiest i have ever been, and now, i am consumed with guilt and obsessed with the idea of that he's going to leave me i acually get anxiaty and mini attacks over this. i have end up making arguments with him over nothing and end up crying all the time over stupid stuff. he's told me over and over that he loves meand will never leave me, but i am CONSUMED by these thoughts.i also panic about fulfilling a self fullfilling profecy.
how can i get over this?
2006-08-17 05:10:36 · 9 answers · asked by Jenster*is*flipping*you*off 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From the way it sounds, it sounds like you have a very sincere boyfriend. Maybe if you two sit and talk about your feelings and his feelings, you can find peace in trusting that he's not going to leave you. It truly sounds to me that he loves you and cares for you.
You can't let your past rule your future. Understand, you're not the person you used to be. You've gotten help, and I'm very proud of you for that because most people don't get help. You deserve to live a happy life. Allow yourself to enjoy life being the person you are today.
Blessings To You & Yours
2006-08-17 05:22:30 · answer #1 · answered by Pastors Wife 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This really hits home for me. And I can help you. First off, hold onto this man. He will always be a very sensitive person due to his past. Although he no doubt sees this as an issue it makes him a more caring person due to being abandoned. The worst thing you can do is stay away. That's what caused these issues with his Mother. He will push you away time after time after time..but one day he will stop. When he has faith in the fact that you won't do to him what his Mother did. You see when you're own Mother doesn't want you, you feel like why would anyone else want me? This isn't true of course, but it's how you feel. So you push anyone that tries to get close to you away...just so that when they do give up on you and move on..you can say, see..just like Mum..I knew it...they all leave. Get him to see that not everyone walks away when pushed, or when the going gets tough. We all have past baggage, some is worse than others. But when you're own Mother wants nothing to do with you it cuts like a knife and you question why anyone would stick around. Just love this man, it will be worth it in the end. Good Luck
2016-03-27 06:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to value yourself. You think he'll leave you because you think you are not worth it. It's great that you have changed your decisions for good. You have apologized and asked for forgiveness. Know that EVERYONE makes mistakes and huge bad choices, some more obvious than others. Don't be too proud but don't loath in your mistakes. You are a new person today, and if anyone brings up the past to hurt you, then they are at fault. You've done what you can to repair things. Know how valuable you are as a person alone. Even if you guys do break up, it will hurt but you should be happy with who you are. And think about how you accomplished getting sober, that's not an easy thing to do, keep moving forward.
2006-08-17 05:21:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet he leaves you again as you still need to sort your emotions out now that you are off the gack and beginning to mature...
2006-08-17 05:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by nonyahbusiness 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds like you need to learn how to trust someone. first you have to trust yourself.
2006-08-17 05:21:00 · answer #5 · answered by Adam B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
like they say in NA one day at a time.
2006-08-17 05:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by IndyMM 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try and move on, or tell him how you feel, and why you did those things, sit him down and talk to him
2006-08-17 05:19:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Counseling. You have to fix yourself, first.
2006-08-17 05:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by pamspraises 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you need help,
2006-08-17 05:19:29 · answer #9 · answered by transplanted 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋