I'm 28, attractive, & have a masters degree. I have no problem getting dates, but they don't go much farther the 2nd or 3rd date. I know I have high expectations of the people that I date, but I just can't understand why it's so difficult to find Mr. Right. I don't want a Mr. Right Now! My friends have told me that my intelligence is very intimidating to men - especially living in Dallas, TX where they all want the trophy girlfriend with big breasts, blonde hair, and perfect body. Being single is tough!
2006-08-17 05:04:44 · 11 answers · asked by forensics_girl78 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
further clarification - I do not throw around my intelligence, but I do not hide it either. I want to be with someone that is my intellectual equal. I am a very positive person and while I have strong opinions, I don't force them on other people and am always willing to keep an open mind about others positions.
2006-08-17 05:33:23 · update #1
Not all men are like that! Just most of us. I love smart women and I made a discovery in college. All the hot chicks I was dating were hot, but you couldn't talk to them about anything because they were about as smart as a brick wall. So I started dating smart girls with opinions. Of course the problem with dating that type is that they can't understand why you won't change your mind and insult you when you don't agree with them. Why are they like that? Because they all think they are smarter than you. But don't worry there is a guy out there for you, chances are you already know him.
2006-08-17 05:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is true everywhere. Maybe it is simply because most men do not like the idea of being outsmarted by their girlfriends or wife for that matter. They want their girl to be submissive, and they think perhaps, they cannot do it with someone like you.
I have experiences though wherein intelligent girls are bobo in love, that is before they got their positions and degrees. And once they are on top, men tend to shy away.
2006-08-17 12:16:24 · answer #2 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you girlfriend, I have the same problem. I am thirty and educated and most men can't handle women making more money or being more educated. I suggest you don't talk about money or education in front of them for a while. Talk about what they like and what you do outside of work etc. Once they see there is more to you than education etc. they will love/like you for all the other reasons as well and hopefully not run. Then you can slowly talk about your education and your work and make sure to not mention how much money you make... No matter how long you date them, they like to feel like the main bread winner of the relationship etc. Let them think it, no harm in it.--good luck
2006-08-17 12:15:34 · answer #3 · answered by blonde0001-999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men want a woman that allows him to FEEL like a man. If you put your knowledge and intelligence in his face on the regular, you will run him off. That's not saying you have to act like a total bimbo. Just tone it down a bit and show them that there's more to you than your big brain.
2006-08-17 12:15:13 · answer #4 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most guys want the traditional stay at home cook and clean wife so there is no room for someone who is smatter than them in what they want. u make tem feel inferriour to u and that goes agiant what most guys belive. they will be ur friend because they want ur advice on some matters in their life but they dont want a relationship because they think u whould want to be the head of the house
2006-08-17 12:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by icedemon151 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you ever thought than you might be shopping for boys instead of men????men like bimbo blonds and big breasts for the night but normally stay with women that they can carry a conversation with.if you are having problems keeping a guy around,have you ever checked your attitude-perhaps you are not good company.no guy wants to be with a woman that he has to apologize for.
2006-08-17 12:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by wibad100 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should a bit stuck up and that might be the real reason that you can not establish a long term relationship with a guy.
2006-08-17 12:11:18 · answer #7 · answered by rilindy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont speak for all guys!!!!!!! Maybe the guys you meet are idiots!! Or maybe you flaunt your intelligence to much and they get tired of hearing it??????
2006-08-17 12:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by 800 bound 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes htey can be a bit stuck up, and snooty, but if they can balance the sarcasim and the confidence i wouldnt have a problem with it.
2006-08-17 15:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by ArchAngel Raziel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe to them, you're larger than life. with what you said, you're too good to be true. but then again, maybe the men you've dated don't want to cross over their comfort zones
2006-08-17 12:13:43 · answer #10 · answered by c3dr1c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋