I am a really SHy perrson in class i aswer questions but never talk to anyone is there some way to get over it

Question

i have this shyness problem where i'm scared to talk to my fellow classmates, thinking that they wouldnt help me out, or wouldnt want to talk to me, is there some kind of way to get over this problem?..BASICALLY im the quietiest person in my class. :(

Answer 1

Be yourself. Talk to the people around you. The more you talk to them the more and more easier it is going to be around them. Before you know it you all will be friends.

Answer 2

There is only one "cure" for shyness, and many are too shy to do it...so here is what I suggest. Volunteer to an organization that does great good, meets often, and does things that are good for the community. Do it today. When you go to the first meeting, have a tag on the front of your shirt that says, "I am a very shy person, please help me overcome this." You will be amazed at how many people will work to include you in conversation, get you to talk, get you involved. People know where you are coming from, for at times, we are all shy. Shyness is a dibilitating condition that will limit what you can do in your life. This is the best way to get through this. Other people will do it for you! I cannot suggest your being more outgoing, for that is what you want, but cannot do. IF you follow my suggestion, you will make friends, do good things, and suddenly realize that talking is not dangerous in any way. I wish you the very best of luck...my system really does work!

Answer 3

Well I remember my days of being shy in class years ago. I was shy only around females. They the guys were no problem. But, looking back, I think I could have gotten over it by just starting off saying, "Hi" everyday to them. And as the time go by, and you feel a little more comfortable, start talking about some movie or something you know about. I think you should do the same. It takes time and just be patient. The day will come when you will be the most talkative person there is in class...

Answer 4

Hi there!

You know, I had the same problem. And it was only last year (my last year of High School) that I got over it. One thing I found that helped was when working on a group project (which I hated!) I would invite my group members over to my house. Yes we would do the project, but we would talk, get to know eachother, sometimes we put a movie on after we did the work and just hung out. When people start to see how fun it is to be with you, they'll start including you in their movie and mall plans. Of course this doesn't always work. Try joining a club. It sounds really weird, but in class I was so shy and hardly talked to anyone, but I was sooo interested in theatre. I have always done shows, and I'm not shy at rehearsals or on the stage. Maybe join a club (for me it was drama clubs), maybe you like sports or books or something. Conversations always spring up between people who enjoy the same things. Just remember to be you! Don't loose your self in trying to appear more appealing to talk to for others.

Have fun and good luck!

Answer 5

Just remember, you're not the only one... especially in the beginning of the school year, everyone is anxious and not sure who they can trust.

Your best bet is just to be friendly to everyone. Smile a lot. Give compliments if you like something someone is wearing or how they did their hair. Get advice on a problem from a kid who seems to know the answers. Share M&Ms with the girl in class next to you. It may be hard at first, but once you get in the groove, you'll be talking to everyone. Just look friendly and act friendly. Unfortunately, people often think shy people are unfriendly, because we see you with your head down in a corner... it makes it look like its too much work to make friends with you, or else we're afraid you'll reject us too.

Good luck!!!

Answer 6

I was always the "quiet" one. And I hated it. I eventually got over it, I started talking to teachers, complimenting a shirt or whatever, which moved up being more comfortable in class, then I started talking to my group of friends a lot more, then I just talked more, became more outgoing. People see being shy/quiet as being stuck up (believe it or not), which is how I still come across to people when I first meet them (Im 22 now). As you get older, and realize that taking chances is better than doing nothing, and speaking your mind is better than being a follower, this quiet thing will pass.

Answer 7

Find someone that you like the personality of and just strike up a conversation about something about them-you like their shirt, they seem to understand a point in class better, do they like the new song on the radio-did they have fun this past weekend. Anything. Then find one other person that you like something about and talk to them, too. People love to talk about themselves, but be prepared to give up something about yourself as well. Try doing it once every two days, then pretty soon it will be second nature and before you know it, people will know you better. Make sure you aren't giving off a stand away from me vibe without even knowing it. If someone looks at you and smiles, smile back and say hi. Just practice.

Answer 8

I used to be one of the shyest people, I have found that the source of this anxiety was from issues of shame and insecurity heaped on me as a child. I have worked sooo hard to overcome these things and to see the reality of who I am, unique beautiful and O.K.Perhaps if you look inside yourself and identify some issues that leave you feeling bound up, then you may be able to achieve healing and freedom too!! You have to be brave to do this work and you may need to talk to someone you can trust, but there is a whole new world of freedom for you to be at ease in once you love yourself!!

Answer 9

The best thing is that, you have come out to talk about your problem. This is the first sign of overcoming you problem. Well. I understand you dont have language problem. But the easiest thing is to listen to others, even easier is to smile at others. This solves 50%of your problem. every individual has a space around him called private space. some people have more and some people have less private space. Those who have less private space do more talking. (e.g. People standing inside a lift do not talk much) Try this. Always shake hands with your friends every time you meet them. And try to be very close with them, keeping hands on their shoulder, Hand-in-hand with them will easeout your problem. always try to talk with humour. Avoid privacy.

Answer 10

Look my friend...you have to work your way out by being strong..
1st of all If you don't like those people it's ok but there must be at least one of them is good enough to like you and help u out..

ask your self...
so what if they didn't respond to me...

you have to expect that they will find it some how strange that you started to talk to them but soon they will understand and like you..

pick a good time to interrupt..like when you hear them talking about subject you knew about it.. ( TV show ) ...come in and interrupt with a smile..
or make direct ask for some of your friends...like..
suddenly ask them during the class for a pen ...with a smile..
after u break the ice...make them comfortable and show them your self...be your self...

finally be strong...if you didn't get a respond then they are sick persons...the wrong is from them..not you...so what ...they didn't answer me...am i dead...is it the end of the world...are they gonna make fun of me....if they did...then they are just making fun of their selves..

don't be sad...cheer up...you will have a friend sooner or later...

Answer 11

Has anyone tried talking to you? If so or if someone does try to talk to you, talk back. Ask them about themselves. People love talking about who they are.

If not then it's up to you to make the first move. There are always talkative people as well as helpful people. Just walk up to someone say Hi ask them how are you. You will get the hang of it after a little while and make some friends. Good luck.