I was sitting in a bar one night when a much younger woman standing on the other side of the bar bought me a beer out of the blue.What does this mean? How should I have reacted other than saying thank you and forgetting about it? I felt like such an idiot coz I had no clue as to how to reciprocate.Thanks.
2006-08-17 05:00:59 · 68 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It probrably means she wanted your company, or she fancied you, or she wanted to get into your trousers by getting you drunk! Go for it if it happens again.
2006-08-17 05:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In some third world countries; you drink the beer, you fall unconscious, you wake up without a kidney.
Otherwise, thanking her was a good start but the follow through was pretty much what your mind told you, "idiot". What you should NOT do is wallow in the moment until it sticks in your mind, though you've posted it on the world-wide-web so you are a little past that point. Here is the road to recovery ...
Get a bottle out of your fridge now (doesn't have to be beer).
Pretend that you've just had another beer sent to you by another much younger woman.
Picture in your mind what your favourite hero would do, then do it (Hint: If your hero whaps everybody in the bar then takes her out of bar caveman-style, then you need a more debonair hero, say James Bond, even though he's more likely to receive a vodka-martini and not a beer, but work with this and forget the discrepancy).
Make eye contact.
Smile in a non creepy way.
Move over to her without generating a growing sense of anxiety in the crowd. Don't trip over because you're too busy looking her over instead of looking at where you are going. She bought you the beer, she'll wait for you.
Introduce yourself. First name. Another smile. Shy "Thanks" is ok.
Use mouth and eyes for conversation. Alternate between guiding beer bottle to mouth and enjoying beer. Never let eyes wander below her chin, no matter how much you want to.
IMPORTANT: Be genuinely interested in her interests, not just her body. Believe or not, this actually is foreplay for a lot of women, and it is the type of foreplay that stretches over 3 dates.
When she is genuinely interested in you, have some ready answers for FAQs:
1) What do you do?
2) Where did you get such fancy clothes?
3) Would you like to go out to dinner sometime?
4) What aftershave are you wearing?
5) What's your job?
6) Who is your favourite movie star? (Hint: Bad answer = Porn star. Good answer = Actor who has won at least 1 Oscar and 1 Golden Globe. Best answer = Actor who did lots of romantic movies and has died in a tragic way). If you don't know your answer ... then it is time to find out. At the bar, there are no Internet Terminals to Google or IMDB for that answer.
7) What's your favourite recreation? Hint: Bad answer = Cruisin' for ho's. Good answer = Any hobby that shows you are creative. Best answer = Foot massage (I haven't yet met a woman wearing heels that doesn't melt at that answer). Just be ready to answer exactly who you practice on! Better yet, get your own best answer.
You know your whole aim by the end of the conversation is to make her feel even better than she felt when she plucked up the courage to buy you the beer. Keep your mind's eye on that aim instead of mentally plucking her naked, or mentally dressing her up in whatever fetish costume(s) you prefer. Mirroring her body language helps a lot also.
Final move .... and be ready for it. Have a business card, but scribble your personal cell/mobile on the back of it. If you don't have a personal cell/mobile, then get one. It signals to her that you're letting her into your inner circle, and you're trusting her to make the next move.
Now put that bottle back into the fridge, do your research, get dressed and get back out to the bars.
2006-08-22 23:49:09 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would we know. The most it could mean is that she felt you would be worth getting to know, or maybe she thought you couldn't afford a beer and she felt sorry for you, or she have been buying everybody a beer. Maybe you should have walked over, said thank you and than asked, "So what made you want to buy me a beer." I think she out of anybody would have known the aswer to that. And If she didn't know, you probably could have got some that night!
2006-08-17 16:45:16 · answer #3 · answered by Game lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I am a woman and I have bought people drinks in a bar before I would say she was being nice or just down right flirting with you or thought you were attractive there is many reasons for someone to buy you a drink in a bar maybe she thought you were enjoying yourself and wanted to make it better for you either way hey free beer!
2006-08-17 05:06:11 · answer #4 · answered by poohbear27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is your in....I think you blew it dude.
When she buys you the beer, you NEED to find out why she did it. Here is what I would do...
Me: "What did I do to deserve this?!" Use a joking tone here.
Her: whatever....it doesn't matter what she says.
Me: "Well at least let me get the next round..."
Her: "Great."
Me: "So what's your name?"
End of story...you're money. I have NEVER had a girl randomly buy me a drink. You should kind of feel bad for not parlaying that into a wild night with a stranger.
2006-08-17 05:08:44 · answer #5 · answered by Morty 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means the same thing as when a guy buys a girl a drink. You probably should have gotten up, walked over to her, introduced yourself, and had a conversation, hopefully.
2006-08-17 05:05:58 · answer #6 · answered by curious 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that means she is interested in you. i know this may not happen to guys very often, so i guess i see why you didnt know how to react, but if it happens again, you should at least go up to her and introduce yourself and start a conversation w/ her. if she buys you a drink at least you know she is interested so that makes your job a lot easier. just loosen up and don't take it too serious next time. good luck !
2006-08-17 05:08:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh for the love of HADES!
What's wrong with you man - go up to her and pull out your very worst pickup line. Mine's "HEY, Aren't you Pamela Anderson?"
I got slapped a few times, but usually it broke ice all over the place.
2006-08-17 05:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by corpuscollossus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it means you are an idiot for not going over to her and thanking her for the beer and having a nice decent conversation with her you might just like to be alone I guess.
2006-08-17 05:06:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You all know the story of the curiosity kills the cat?
Well there you go...
... for $3.50 she find out is you are worthy of her time...
Good luck next time Smile and say thanks and look at her on her eyes and start a nice conversation, do not forget to be your self, after all is all you are,,,
2006-08-17 05:07:18 · answer #10 · answered by ilnono 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank her and offer to buy her one next. Chit-chat a little then nail her. Everytime a goodlooking girl bought me a drink, I always ended up nailing them. They are already turned on, you just have to tweak them a little.
2006-08-17 05:05:30 · answer #11 · answered by raiderking69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋