2006-08-17 04:58:11 · 13 answers · asked by vincoolin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It hurts so bad because you love them.. otherwise you probably would not care. As far as someone not caring for you when you care for them, that is just the way the world seems to work sometimes. It all happens for a reason though, and you have to remember that. I don't think that someone who loves you would hurt you intentionally, if they did, then they likely don't care as much as they say they do, or you think they do. Think through your situation carefully, and remember that you don't deserve to be hurt by anyone. I know a song that says " It's not really love if it tears you apart.Love never broke anyone's heart." Those words ring very true.. You can find someone that cares as much about you as you do about them, and it is better this way.... Good Luck
2006-08-17 05:12:18 · answer #1 · answered by OnE GiRL 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
An age old question which will probably never be able to be answered.......realistically it makes no sense at all....I'm going through it right now (actually for the past 5 yrs.) hes' a great guy, we are "best friends", see eachother every day, dated for 3 1/2 yrs. and are still attracted to eachother BUT he's not "in love" with me.....he falls for married women, women who use him, I could go on and on.....I would lay down my life for him and I say that in all honesty.....but I guess he has a different idea of what "being in love" should be....I think it should be about being friends first and foremost, attraction, passion, a lot of common interests.....he thinks it should be romantic 24/7......this kind of thinking leads him to "crushes" in my book....not lasting love....the sad thing is that we're not talking about a young guy here....he's 45....some people will never learn and in all actuality there are more people out there that are like this....
It does make some sense that the the people that we love a lot and are around a lot will be the people that hurt us more often...only because we are around them constantly and see all sides of them but I can't grasp why when you truly and honestly love a person and give your all to someone, open yourself up wholeheartedly that these people stomp on us, treat us badly (sometimes worse than animals) and then go on to another relationship where they almost "adore" the person even when that very same person is very obviously in the relationship for different reasons....etc....It's a sad thing to have to endure and I wouldn't wish this type of torment on anyone.....unfortunately when you truly love someone, it's easier said than done to just turn feelings on and off. Sometimes they never go away, they may fade a bit or turn a little yellow around the edges but they remain inside of us, along with the memories of special times and places shared with this special someone.....after awhile you find yourself hardening your heart little by little and you don't even have the strength to try and move on...nothing takes the place of your "love" and you know that deep down....you may try to lie to yourself by saying it's not so bad....but you know that it is and that you'll always be "trapped" in another time....when things really made sense and everything seemed a little brighter, smelled a little sweeter and the word "love" meant so much more....
2006-08-17 05:43:50 · answer #2 · answered by Blue_Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a good question and its not easy to answer. the people we love feel that they are doing things for our benefit and they say that it is done out of love but they are so involved that they don't realize that they are hurting us more than helping us. They mean well but it can still be hurtful just the same. You are your own person and their advice maybe helpful but in the end you have to decide what is best for you.
2006-08-17 05:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by sharethalove 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love people an care about them soooo much a littlething from them you will feel its the most hurting thing that has ever happened to you
2006-08-17 05:04:50 · answer #4 · answered by missing u2323 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they know the way we feel about them and some of them don't really feel the same way we feel about them so they hurt us and some of them just don't know how to show there feelings so they hurt us and act as they don't care
2006-08-17 05:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by ♥*♥Bahamian Gal♥*♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they do not hurt u.they just wanna need some privacy.they do care for u but always hides their innermost feelings.
2006-08-17 05:04:56 · answer #6 · answered by gautham_happy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because this is what we call love, in love u will have to face all these things.
2006-08-18 18:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by i am alive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because we are all different and they have their own personality not yours , so quit thinkin they must feel the same way we are all individuals
2006-08-17 05:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by transplanted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love = pain
2006-08-17 05:06:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
because we expevt much from them,they take our help as granted,so all result
2006-08-17 05:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by doctor asho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋