OK so hes got a list of very few nutty ex's and hes still sore over the last one (1.5 years ago) and he seems stuck in the past, he says hes "cautious about the future." We've been dating since May. Ahem. Also having sex. Good sex by the way!
The basic outline of our little relationship per him anyway: No expectations such as appointed date nights, can sleep with/date other ppl (tho he gets a lil jealous) and boasts that hes seen no one else. He said a month or so ago that we're both on the same highway feelings wise but it may take him a little longer than me to get there. UGH but hes says things like "no expectations" that makes me feel like we're mostly just having sex! Alot of cases thats what we end up doing. We go out lots (with friends, family, alone.) (oh he doesnt pay for me often which my mom finds appauling but Im not so distressed. I have money of my own lol.) I dont know.. there are too many complications to this dating my best friend stuff! Someone please help!
2006-08-17 04:54:23 · 6 answers · asked by oojenitalsoo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is he using you? Yes, because you are making is sooo easy for him to do so. He's getting everything he wants his way and you are a doormat allowing it to happen. Having sex on his terms? Even though it's great sex, it's all you really have. You are afraid if you tell him NO to any of his ridiculous behavior, you will lose him. Let me say this, if you were GOOD friends before the sex got in the way, cut it out and return to being friends. You are a comfort zone to him, you will never get him for yourself though. Listen to him when he tells you this, he's not kidding. You will not be able to love him enough to change in mind in time by seeing how wonderful you are to him. You are not what he wants.
I don't want to seem brash, but I have a GOOD friend that I've been involved with off and on for 30 years. We stopped sleeping together 20 years ago, but I still care. These relationships are draining to us and be very hurtful. Let him go and get a man that is more deserving of you. Oh by the way, when you do this, he will seem more interested. Don't fall for it though, it's just to cause you to loose a boyfriend and continue to be available to him.
2006-08-17 05:08:24 · answer #1 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is your best friend he wouldnt be using u just for sex unless he is a complete dick in which case y r u dating him and y is he ur best friend. u have know him since sixth grade so u should know his emotions and what his intentions r by the way he acts if not well give it time and dont keep on contiplating on the fact that u have been best friends just think of him as ur boy friend alot of relationships and friendships get ruined because ppl cant get past that little fact that they were friends good luck
2006-08-17 05:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by icedemon151 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's your best friend? so you're suppose to know him better than almost anyone? I'm in almost the exact same situation with my new guy and i'm just as confused. the only expectation is the "no exceptions" part. it does sound like maybe you are just for sex, at least for now.
2006-08-17 05:04:54 · answer #3 · answered by T.G. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run with the complications and end the sexual part of your relationship and see how things go from there. You both are probably better off "just friends"
2006-08-17 05:18:38 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since you guys have a history together, he may feel comfortable with you. i don't think anything romantic's going to form between you but i think the whole "friends w/ benefits" bit with you guys is great because of your bestfriend status w/ each other
2006-08-17 05:09:20 · answer #5 · answered by c3dr1c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wel he should pay for you, god what has happened to chivalry eh ?
2006-08-17 05:04:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋