what to if my family doesnt aprove of my boyfriend cause he is 18 but im 15 and will be 16 next month on the 10th and my mom says he seems nice and has a good head on his shoulders and she would let him come over but now she doesnt. what should i do.
2006-08-17 04:50:02 · 15 answers · asked by pretty gurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she might be afraid that you guys will be in sexual relationship, which i hope it havent happen "yet" try to keep it as clean as possible and make your parents trust you, if you dont have their trust then they wont let him come over
2006-08-22 19:54:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, if you're only 15 going on 16 don't worry about it. He's 18 and I know from experience (I was 17, he was 19) if you not of legal age your parents are probably going to flip. At 15, they really should. I know you think they're being awful and smothering you and not letting you do anything you want to do when they tell you that, but the best way to deal with your parents is to listen to them. I know that's probably what you don't want to hear right now, but there it is. Lots of girls your age have their older boyfriends break their hearts. It's not worth it. If your parents say no do not go behind their backs. It will cause more problems down the road (not to mention lead you to take risks you wouldn't normally) for you and everyone else involved.
My best advice to you would be to do everything you can (whining not included) to prove to your parents how responsible you are and how mature you are for your age. Ask if he can hang out at your house in the living room on a school night, come over for dinner... little concessions that pose no harm and can't lead to mistrust. If you go to church have him come with your family. If nothing else, you'll forge a strong friendship that could turn into something more when you're both ready for it.
2006-08-25 10:58:58 · answer #2 · answered by Cassiopeia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give your Mom time to get to know him and in the mean time, BE HONEST and level headed yourself. This will prove to her that you are smart, honest, and ready for a relationship with a guy this age.
I hate to add it, but if he truly likes you, he will agree with you and do the same things by respecting your Mom and being kind to her when he sees her, or calls you. Ask your Mom is occassional calls will be okay.
Once again, HONESTY is so important. It gives your Mom trust in you and in him.
Good luck!
2006-08-24 23:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by GOUTVOLS 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think your parents are probably worried about him taking advantage of you. most guys that age are pretty pushy and they're worried about it. try introducing him on a safer level before asking if he can come hang out. maybe ask if you can join your family for dinner or go out to eat. if he's brave enough tell him to ask your dad out to do something - or your mom, whoever really has the say over things. they are just being protective of you. probably nothing really against him. if he really cares about you he will be eager to help you prove them wrong with the image they have of 18 year old guys. good luck!!
2006-08-17 12:00:20 · answer #4 · answered by kirkskitti 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When can you date him? When you are 16? If so, I would just wait until them. It may seem like forever but it isn't that long.
Can you not date him at all because of the age difference? If that is the case there isn't much you can do about it.
The age difference is not too much in my opinion but I think your parents' opinion is the only one that counts here.
2006-08-25 08:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as crazy as it might seem your parents may be having a problem seeing their little girl grow up and are feeling a little protective at this point in time. give them a little time. and like someone else had said can't remember what the exact words were its not that they don't trust you but may have issues with you being with an older guy who may have other things on his mind. give it some time!!! hang in there!!!
2006-08-25 03:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
grow up first, you are way to young. he is legally an adult & you are a minor child. you need to finish school & get a good education,before you get pregnant & try to raise a child. you need to talk to your mom & discuss birth control & condom use to protect you from pregnancy & std's. pls dont ruin your, his & a new baby's life,by not be ready or old enough to take on responsibility
2006-08-24 14:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just listen to her about him not going over ur house. but dont stop seeing him. let her know that he is a good guy and that 2 years apart isnt that bad. and tell her that u wont do anythign bad and he wont distract you from school or w/e is important to you.
2006-08-17 12:01:03 · answer #8 · answered by Beca <3 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think that you should definitely try and convince you mom that its not really a big age difference( because really it's not) ask your mom what the age difference is between her and you dad it might be a much bigger age gap. ask her what she would've done if she was in your shoes and it might just help you out a little bit.
2006-08-17 12:12:23 · answer #9 · answered by forgottendream49 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
DO whatever your mom says
2006-08-25 07:32:48 · answer #10 · answered by prince 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋