I have been seeing this woman for 8 weeks and we really go to know one another and fall in love. Now every chase she gets she runs away from me for the smallest things. I love this woman with all of my heart but I am not a door mat either. Should I let her go and let her realize the mistake she made or just end it completely.
2006-08-17 04:48:39 · 26 answers · asked by Deshean W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We don't mean to D. It's just a defense thing we have. Men have it too. I'm so sorry that you have to feel this way. But you can talk to her, try to understand her feelings, and give her the time and space she needs to heal. She'll see that you are a good man and will love and appreciate you more for understanding her. If she doesn't, don't take her issues into yourself. If you've done all you can, that's all any woman can ask for. She's lucky to have you.
2006-08-17 04:56:47 · answer #1 · answered by lovelee1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is still not sure where the relationship with you is headed or that she is not completely rebounded from her last.
It's not only a matter of you paying for the other guy, but she is going to be a lot more cautious in giving her love and commitment especially if she was the wronged one in the last relationship.
Don't fight her, just be patient and understanding. Two months is not so long that you can't be patient. Talk to her, and if you have already tried that or it doesn't go anywhere, let her know that yuo are giving her space to decide what she wants and just be a friend. Don't give up on her completely yet, you may lose the chance at love or at the worse a friend.
2006-08-17 04:57:47 · answer #2 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is going to have to realize what kind of man you are on her own. You have to understand that to her, there probably hasnt been a good guy, and they have all you can rest assured, acted like they were. However, you're right. You cant let her walk all over you, or have to be afraid shes gonna leave when you sneeze wrong. You should sit down, and agree not to yell or accuse each other and really tell her everything. Maybe take a week or two off and see if she comes back. But make sure she knows things have to change. Innocent until proven guilty, right? And good luck, Ive had the same problem, and I know it hurts.
2006-08-17 04:54:57 · answer #3 · answered by Jasmine R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES very good mentality you have, let her go she will realize her mistake and once she does let her come back with a different attitude ... girls sometimes need time to recognize and realize theres a good man next to us...specially where she's coming from. i think you need to give her space. good luck! oh, by the way just a hint, about 2 days after you havent talked call her and tell her 'just wanted to say i love you' and hang up.. either by phone email or text...but keep it that simple and she will keep you in her mind.! take my advice good luck! also, once in a while do the same but only say 'i miss you' or 'your on my mind' but keep it very simple and thats all you'll say and only do it once a day! lates
2006-08-17 05:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by CALI GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sort of in the same situation, I was really crazy about someone who had been hurt before, and he just would run whenever we started getting closer. And this was someone he had loved 7 years earlier! One thing I said to him that helped was to point out that he was still letting her control his life. But it takes time, and he agreed that he has to see a therapist and get this worked out - for himself! Even if the two of us don't make it.
2006-08-17 04:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by aggie babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think shes doing it unconsiously. in her previous relationship, the guy must of had her very well controlled. shes at a stage that anything you do, she you feels she is being controlled and therefore desides to run away.
just give her some time and if you are treating her right, im sure she will realize that your not the same as the previous one. you shoulnt end it because maybe she is a good person and you'll never if you leave her.
2006-08-17 04:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by doubtful 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer you got first is a good one so I will only add that I know how she feels. It is hard to trust after you have been hurt especially if it was several times. It will take her time to see that you do not want to hurt her. I know it is hard on you but give her a little time and a lot of love.
2006-08-17 04:56:20 · answer #7 · answered by angeldolls4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know (not angrily though!) that if she doesn't want to make things work you're not going to wait around for her all your life dude! ;-) Get her a chance sure, but if she keepsrunning away of getting upset over the smallest things (AND you are trying to make them right) then don't just wait around for her. Try to work things out, and give her a chance, but after that, end it if she doesn't respond. Good luck bro!
2006-08-17 04:54:25 · answer #8 · answered by Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a woman or even a man gets hurt by a previous realtionship they get this idea, that all men or women are the same, and they are not going to let anyone else hurt them, if you really care about this girl, give her some time, let her see that you are not that person and you wont hurt her, eventually she will realize it.
2006-08-17 04:53:26 · answer #9 · answered by SHE HATE ME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her how you feel...after all, you aren't any of her ex boyfriends. She isn't giving you a fair shot by pre-judging you. If she isn't going to try to make an effort on her side and just keep running away from every little thing, then you need to find someone else.
2006-08-17 04:59:38 · answer #10 · answered by Veryconfused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋