Hi,I know this guy a couple of months been out on lots of dates-nothing physical has happened anyhow i confronted him as wanted to know where i stood ,naturally.But he says he doesnt want a relationship at the mo even though he is v single.says he likes me,beautiful ,interestingyou know the rest.Maybe he just doesnt fancy me?but the part i find confusing is at weekends he wants to know what im doing and if i out with friends he askes how its going where i am & tries to see me some weekend nites .What do you reckon is going on in his head.Sounds like he is confused too?
2006-08-17 04:48:08 · 23 answers · asked by daisychain 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For those of you who thought he may be gay -he is defineltely not and not married either v single infact also i confronted him in a very friendly manner not a scary one.
2006-08-17 05:07:30 · update #1
He's probably a pleasure delayer.
He want's the reationship on his terms so is holding out for what he wants.
2006-08-17 04:55:22 · answer #1 · answered by 'Dr Greene' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too had a bf like this - gay seems to be the obvious answer - but I knew for a fact that the man involved with me wasn't.......see we did used to have a physical relationship and then we split up......we're now not together "properly" but I see this man every day.....we do lots of things that a couple would do......I agree it gets very very confusing. We're actually going to live together "as friends" very soon.....seperate rooms etc....He does sound confused but all you can do is either get rid once and for all or do what I do and just be friends (without benefits!!). I've even given up on the fact that we will ever be more than mates now - and to be honest I feel like a weights been lifted off my head - rejections awful - your worth more - find someone else! :) good luck!!! anything else you want an opinion on just e-mail me.......P x
2006-08-17 04:59:10 · answer #2 · answered by Pauline B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am confused also.
I think he may like you... but maybe struggles with you to pass that phase where you become boyfriend/girlfriend.
Maybe he like you, but just isnt ready to start another relasionship. Did he has a bad ex or something?
And he may not want to loose you either so he might check up on you to make sure you dont find someone else.
... if any of this makes sense.
Your just gonna have to say it straight to him: -
"Do you like me?"
If you like him... tell him "I like you a lot, do you like me"
If he pauses or doesnt say anything at all just tell him
"Look if you like me, now is your chance to say it otherwise I'll say goodbye to you now"
Again, this is a guide girl... and I hope all goes well for you... you may do better to see what your friends say, as they know the situation better than us.
Good luck girl!!!!
2006-08-17 05:52:15 · answer #3 · answered by The Avenger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i hope you didn't "confront" him in a very aggressive way as i couldn't blame him then for backing off. i certainly don't like to be confronted about my personal feelings, he might have thought you were acting a little desperate (sorry, i don't mean that in a nasty way) you sometimes need to be subtle and just gently tell him you like him and would like to know what he would like to gain from this friendship, he then doesn't feel pressure from you and has time to think clearly about what he wants from you. maybe call him and say that you didn't mean to pressure him and ask him out for a drink as friends and let him take the lead a bit. good luck.
2006-08-17 04:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by Summer Rain 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes men are like women,and they want to hold out for a while until they do anything physical,which is pretty normal.it shows he respects you and your body,just be thankful that hes not trying to jump into bed with you straight away!he sounds nice to me.me and my boyfriend didnt do anything apart from kiss for about 3 months!!mind you,i was young.and we are still together a few years on.i think he does like you,hes obviously interested so just give him time.maybe hes been hurt in the past?
2006-08-17 05:00:50 · answer #5 · answered by ibiza_shandy_pink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
der r 3 posibility
1,he want u to court u longer" bcoz oder guy likes courting a girl rather being a GF,, bcoz courting has exitement and it is challenging"
2,he likes u but he cant 4get his exgirl" it means hes not ready,, u have 2 give him a time,,
3,hes not sure in his feelings" hes not sure if he really like u or its just 4 meen time,,
2006-08-17 05:28:26 · answer #6 · answered by zheo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he wants you but isnt ready for a relationship but at the same time is trying to keep hold on to you. point out the fact that you are thankful for being his friend (hint hint) and start getting flirty! if you like him then im sure hes worth the wait....goodluck
2006-08-17 04:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just dosent want to be tied down in a serious relationship at this moment in his life,he want to have fun spread his wings and enjoy his life with women who are of like minded attitude,
2006-08-21 03:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by ralphthemouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even as females settle for the single nighttime stand adult men purely anticipate a one nighttime stand yet after sex females anticipate they are the purely love and the only mate of the guy , so except females do not settle for the single nighttime stand difficulty on the first position this may by no ability be solved .
2016-11-05 00:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by jenniffer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not ready for a relationship yet , give him time. He likes you but maybe he wants to be with his mates more at this stage. Are you frightening him off by being too pushy???. Cool it a bit.
2006-08-17 04:59:22 · answer #10 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋