when im out with my very good friend that likes me and i like him back he keeps on pointing at other girls and saying things like oh that girls hott. but he did admit that hes just doing it to push my buttons but i dont think so.
2006-08-17 04:44:58 · 44 answers · asked by worried 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
People are beautiful and we look. Just looking is OK as long as he is not staring or doing double takes. If he is, then he is disrespectful and rude and you need to consider whether or not that is something you want to deal with if he becomes your boyfriend. The other part of that is you said he is your "almost" boyfriend? Does he consider you to be his "almost" girlfriend? If you are not in a relationship then he has no reason to give you his undevided attention and he is free to look or stare even.
2006-08-17 04:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could truly be doing it for that reason. Guys harrass each other kind of like girls compliment each other. He may have a hard time crossing over to a more female way of flirting and thinks that by harrassing you, he's really flirting.
Guys tend to look no matter how long they've been together with someone. I say this because I'm a guy and all of my guy friends, associates, and coworkers say the same. It is just guy behavior. If a straight guy didn't, on some level, notice and appreciate the attractiveness of a girl in their vacinity, then there is something wrong. Most guys just learn to be more subtle about it or lie about it to please the woman they're with. The important thing is that most of us are true to the one we have chosen and has chosen us in return. Cheaters just give us a bad rap.
2006-08-17 04:53:55 · answer #2 · answered by steele_feher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men find women very attractive and can admire many in a non-erotic non-personal way. I am not sure, however, if it is all right for a man to pronounce someone else "hot" not only in the company of his girl-friend but to her. Is that to make you jealous? If so, that does not seem right. I think you have to work out an attitude you are both comfortable with, not just one of you. Men and women sometimes test each other out until they find a balance. It is not a good idea to sweep issues under the carpet, however, especially if you are thinking of marriage as a possibility.
2006-08-17 05:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by tirumalai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a men and we all do it, and im sure you've done it too but its part of life and we all have to live with it but if it is bugging you that much you need to approach him and tell him that it bugs you.But just because we look at other girls doesn't mean that we want them more than you, its just our nature and we all look at our opposites weather its on the net, or magazines or even tv. Best thing for you to do is do the same thing but to guys and make him feel bad and if he gets angry explain to him that when he says other women are hot that it bugs you
2006-08-17 04:55:32 · answer #4 · answered by gerry d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may have answered your own question. Almost b/f suggests there is no commitment. He is probably waiting for the topic of dating exclusively to come up. So bring it up and see what his reaction is. If you become 'steady' then complain when he's looking at other women and commenting. Or you could agree with him when he says 'she's hot' and add, but she's not me.
Have a great day and good luck!!!
2006-08-17 04:53:01 · answer #5 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh come ON now...don't do this to yourself!!! You are being USED for his attention and playtime. He's messing with you, there is no such thing as an "almost boyfriend!" GET OUT NOW! He's defrauding you. Whether he is doing it purposely to push your buttons, or just being his scummy self, this is no way to allow yourself to be treated. Tell him so and if he overreacts, argues, defends his actions, etc., get the heck away from him.
2006-08-17 04:50:12 · answer #6 · answered by LisaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to be rude but this is something woman have got to get over my B/f looks all the time i have gotten to the point where i look at the same girl and so no did you see her nose or what was that growing on her lip if he thinks it doesnt bother you then he will stop doing it if that doesnt work see how he likes you looking and makeing comments about men
2006-08-17 04:50:51 · answer #7 · answered by the ole ball and chain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not like that either. The next time he does it just say to him..well I tell you what she is all yours and walk away and don't look back. That is cruel. He will either stop doing it or he will not bother you again which if he doesn't he was all that anyway. My ex husband came home from our gift shop one night and told me he looks at an employee of ours and wondered what it would be like to have sex with her. You see where he is. MY EX.
2006-08-17 04:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by angeldolls4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because guys are visually wired . Here's the deal: A man will look however a REAL man will look and not make it obvious to the woman he is with nor the woman he is looking at.
You are obviously dating a boy and not a man.
Why would you want to be with someone so immature?
2006-08-17 04:51:15 · answer #9 · answered by pamspraises 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what... Guys will look. Get over it. His mind does not revolve around you 24/7 once you realize that is a fact... you wont worry about small pathetic things like him checking out other girls. My husband still does that. Can you honestly tell me that if you saw a really hot guy you wouldnt check him out... NO- Cuz its human nature.
2006-08-17 04:50:48 · answer #10 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋