I'm afraid my parents are gonna find out that I had sex.. how do I hide/tell them without hurting them? We are a very close family and I feel weird not telling them... but again, I don't wanna hurt them...
2006-08-17 04:38:23 · 19 answers · asked by ~~$Em-J$~~ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
So you and your parents are so close? Well, I wouldn't be surprised if your parents already know.
2006-08-17 04:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by Emi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would ask for a private talk with the parent who is most calm, most of the time and just tell them, "I don't want to hurt you, but I have something to tell you , it's eating me up inside that I have been trying not to tell you." Then just tell that parent. Better they know, you may be grounded though. Just remind them that you can't be grounded forever and you came to them to share this with them, and possibly get some advice in the interim about safe sex and so forth. That parent would most likely then tell the other so that takes care of the situation of telling them together or separetly. Good luck.
2006-08-17 11:58:22 · answer #2 · answered by avalm@sbcglobal.net 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family is close, then sit them down and tell them that you need to speak to them about something important. It feels weird and nervous, but you will feel better in the end. They should understand and be helpful, even if they are upset at first, they have to accept that things will change as you grow up.
Honestly, for your sake, I hope you're not too young. It's sad how young some people are leaping into that aspect of life lately.
2006-08-17 11:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by steele_feher 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your family is as close and supportive as you say they are and you feel weird not telling them, then you should start off by telling your mom. Sit down with her alone and tell her (no details) about what happened. Tell her that it was never your intention to hurt or disappoint her. You must be prepared for her to be upset, but she will at least appreciate your honesty. Together you can decide when and if you tell your father. I think it's awesome you want to be truthful with your parents and I can only hope my children feel that they can approach me with their problems like that one day. Good luck!
2006-08-17 12:14:26 · answer #4 · answered by Brea1243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sex life is something private. If you are worried about telling your parents, you may be too young for a sexual relationship. If you are going to be sexually active you need to do something about birth control and protection from STDs. Depending the laws in your area you may need help from a parent to get birth control. Check into this before you have sex again, please.
Good luck to you.
2006-08-21 11:28:35 · answer #5 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one can look at you now and tell that you have had sex. you may feel different, but you dont look different. Sex is a special thing between two people and your parents understand that, they were in your shoes at one point. If you tell them they may be disapointed, but for not what you are thinking. They are looking out for you and sex can lead to lots of problems in today's world. you dont have to tell them, just remember they want you to be safe, and they are not looking to be grandparents, not yet anyway.
2006-08-17 11:44:48 · answer #6 · answered by rayce92 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Your mom probably already knows, or at least suspects something. If you are so close, you should just find a good time to talk to your mom and say, "Mom, can I talk to you about something?" Don't be afraid. You need to be open and honest. Even though kids hate to hear it, parents really do know best. They just want to help you and keep you safe.
2006-08-17 11:54:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your family is very close, you should tell them. It will hurt them more if you wait, because they WILL find out eventually. They will feel betrayed or lied to if they don't find out from you, and soon.
2006-08-17 11:47:05 · answer #8 · answered by jadenn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your parents are close then they will love you no matter what you've done. They might be upset with what you have done, but they will still love you.
Think how they would feel if you didn't tell them. . .
2006-08-17 11:58:06 · answer #9 · answered by soccerdude89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell the whole family just talk to your mom she can help with any questions you might have. then together you can decide weather or not to tell dad
2006-08-17 11:47:48 · answer #10 · answered by pighunter1999 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋