Do children need a mom to see how women should be and a Dad to see how men should be....read below?

Question

I have no doubt in my mind a Gay couple can love thier children. I have no doubt they can raise them. So with that said, just answer my question, no hateful remarks just educated answers with a lil back up.

My father showed me what a man is supposed to be, my mother did her best to show me what a woman is supposed to be, this effected my life more as a Teenager and a young adult. As a young child I just needed love and a lil direction, but we all know parenting gets a lil tougher when we hit those teenage/young adult years this is what I'm reffering to.

Now please answer this in the context of a child not being raised in an abusive home, becasue all of us were not abused, all of us did not have dead beat parents. I don't think we admit it enough but there are some good parents out thier that love thier children.

A simple yes or no and why will suffice

Mind you this question is inspired from my own expierence, not to discredit or anything of that nature. Just trying to step outside my realm a little. Hopefully you can see where I'm coming from.

This argument can work for you, I feel like as a man I am the one who will teach my son to be a man, the woman I choose will be the one to show my daughter how a woman should be. I shouldn't impose my views on others

Answer 1

I think yes.

My sons were abused, before they came into my custody. They very much have learned that a Mom and Dad should act just like the abusive ones they no longer live with. They struggle to avoid following the example their first father gave them, and they date girls that tend to be exactly like their first mother. They have trouble understanding that their new father is involved and interested in their lives, and it's even uncomfortable to them because they've never experienced it before. They think that when they become fathers, their job is to ignore the kids, hit the kids, yell at the kids... and on and on. They very much have learned how to be a man from abusers, absent parents, and it's going to take a long time to teach them any different.

My parents divorced when my sister was a year old. She does believe that a father should live in another house and send money, but never talk or do anything with his kids. She honestly believes this is the way they are supposed to act, like it's wrong if your parents are married and live together. She and her boyfriend fight about this often, because she thinks it's wrong for kids to have a father, and he thinks it's wrong to divorce and leave your wife and kids, and he won't marry her until she changes her mind.

I know you asked about children NOT raised in abusive or screwed-up homes, but I think these children illustrate perfectly well that kids do learn how men and women should be, through their mother and father. This is why girls often marry men who are a lot like their fathers, and boys often are looking for a wife who acts more like their mother. And, this is why psychologists make the money off people who pick a mate like this, only they're looking for screwed-up relationships because that's the model they were given.

I have no idea how gay couples as parents will manage to raise kids with healthy concepts of how to choose a marriage partner. That is an experiment on which the data is still being generated and collected. But I do know that your parents, or lack thereof, obviously have a huge impact on how you expect your adult relationships to be.

Answer 2

The totality of your experience in life creates the man or the woman that you become in life. While parents are the most influential role models, other adults play major parts in the development of a child as well. You learn from teachers, church members, coaches, aunts, uncles, other relatives, family friends, etc. If we all only drew from the examples set by our parents, then we would become our parents. For some, that might be a great outcome. For others, that would make for a tragic outcome. Gay couples provide stable home environments for children and those children grow into productive members of society. To think that gay couples can only raise children that will become gay is oxymoronic when you consider that straight parents raise gay children. There exist many criteria for what constitutes a “man” or a “woman.” The sexuality of the parental figures may play a role to some extent, but the greatest influence comes from the character of those parental figures combined with the many other role models in the life of a child.


I hope that helps!

Will D
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Answer 3

I just don't believe it is as simple as that. Even if a person has two good parents of the opposite sex it still makes a difference from family to family. Some mothers work, some stay home, some do both. The same as men some do actually stay home. And nowadays there are no real specific roles, usually cooking and cleaning is shared. Unless people are saying that a child needs to be taught other roles such as they are only supposed to do certain things pertaining to one sex. I see no problem with same sex parents, and most of the children raised by them turn into great people just like any other family. It doesn't mean they will turn out homosexual like their parents, infact the parents encourage to only find love no matter who it is with.

Answer 4

I agree that children need 2 loving, devoted parents to show them how adults should act. My mother taught me about being a woman, and my father taught me what a man was supposto be. In the right situation, with the right parents.. 2 parents are best. I would wish nothing more for my sons ( 3 and 1 ) to take from their childhood into adulthood.. than to have their father have been the role model of a good man, and for them to have seen what a good woman is.

Answer 5

No I don't think there is a text book standards on that. There are as amny single parent households now days as there is full family ones. It all depends on how the parent raising the child does the raising. Sure its ideal to have both parents but sometimes for whatever circumstance that isn't possible.

Answer 6

Yes they do need a Mom and Dad. Sometimes single parents have to raise their kids and and do a great job. You are basically asking if gay parents are OK, well not to me. If somebody wants to be gay go ahead, don't bring kids in on it. If my parents would have been gay people, I would have been so ashamed.
You cannot get a simple yes or no answer from that question.

Answer 7

I belive that gay couples can raise terrific children, because they are aware of the importance of role models, they'll emphasize on this matter even more than regular couples ( who in lot of families just take it for granted). I'm sure gay parent make sure their kids are exposed to both male and female influencies regardles who their parents are.

Answer 8

I believe each parent brings vital attributes to the upbringing of their child, (opposites attract) I believe two parents provide for a more well rounded child with a broader spectrum of mentors, also the family unit with a man and a woman as parents allow for children to learn of the two sexes, to get different view points and to foster the family unit.

Answer 9

yea if in that house hold there is a loving family then the mother and father should be showing how a relationship goes and they should teach you the values of life. and hopefully the kids will grow up and rasie their kids the way they were raised.

Answer 10

yes. in a loving home MOM AND DAD are an example of how a relationship works, of love and sacrifice, of how to deal with folk that think differently from ourselves.
We learn about trust, fidelity, stability, even how to compromise and and not get burned by watching loving parents interact.