My cat died :(?

Question

Just 5 days ago, my cat died of age, and everyone is telling me to get a new one but i don't want to because it wouldn't feel the same around my house without him :(. Anyone know what to do?

Answer 1

I'm sorry to hear that your kitty died. It can be hard to lose an animal, and it sounds like you are grieving the loss of your kitty, something that can be pretty painful and is also very normal and healthy.
Everyone grieves after a loss in different ways, and from an outsider's perspective it often seems that getting over a loss requires replacing what you lost, in your case your kitty.
It sounds like you don't want to get a new cat, at least not right now. And that's fine. 5 days is not a lot of time to grieve, and very likely you need more space before it seems possible to actually consider getting a new cat if that is the right decision for you.
As far as what to do, taking care of yourself is very important. If you can, surround yourself with people who will be supportive of you while you're grieving. If you need to talk about the nice experiences you had while your kitty was alive then do so. If you need to share the sad feelings you're having, or the fact that you miss your kitty, do that too. It's completely healthy and normal to want to talk about your feelings, to verabalize your grief, and if you are able to, try and share around safe and supportive people.
Also, it's good for you to engage in activities that allow you to feel good...whether it be exercise, yoga, reading, eating ice cream, whatever. Grieving doesn't require you to be sad all the time.
Whatever you do, I hope you are able to find a safe place to express yourself and your feelings. And once again, I am sorry for your loss.

Answer 2

First, I'm very sorry for your loss. No, it wouldn't be wise to get another cat right away, you are still mourning the loss of your kitty. In a while, maybe a month or so, go to a shelter. Look at the cats there. You don't have to get one, and it may be hard to see them there, but someday one will catch your eye, and it will melt your heart. Then you will know you are ready. Be sure to tell your new kitten all about his "brother" that was with you before, and all the good times you had with him. Let your new kitten know that you will love him and take care of him and hopefully he'll fill some of that empty void in your heart. Keep thinking of all the good times with your cat, it'll help with some of the pain.

Answer 3

I'm truly sorry about you're losing your cat.

In 1990 our cat that we had had for 18 years died of old age. I did not want to get another cat right away. I think it is perfectly natural not to want to get another cat right away. No cat will ever replace your previous cat.

In the future you may want to get a cat or you may not. You can be the only one to know when and if you are ready.

Answer 4

I have two kittens and if I had lose them, I would've felt the same way. Try to think about the good times. He/she is in a better place. He/she would be happy if you get a new cat. It'll make you happier. Try to get a new cat with no similarities to your old cat so then you wouldn't have to think of your old cat.

But first, get over the cat. It's OK to be sad for a while but don't let it take over your life. OK?

Take care.....

Answer 5

That's such a hard thing to go through. It's painful and the house always has so many reminders. You can "see" your old friend everywhere. I see the places where my Spookie would take his afternoon nap in the garden, I remember the feel of his soft, furry body on my lap and in my arms.

Everyone resolves their grief in their own way and time. Someday you will be ready to take another cat into your life and have all that love and beautiful presence in your life again. There is a cat out there who needs you and wants you. He will come into your life in due time.

You have my condolences. Many people have had your experience of loss and they understand how you feel.

Answer 6

Even though you are feelling the loss of your beloved cat , if you get another one you will see how quickly you will get to love him or her . The memory of your cat that passed will be easier for you to deal with because you now have a new purpose to replace your love you felt for your former cat. If you truly love cats, or animals this transition will be a simple one. You need to transfer your love and affection to a new member, and think about it , you are now welcoming a little one that needs your love and affection. It's good all around ! Good Luck,

Answer 7

i am sorry to hear about you cat and i know that it will be hard for you to replace the cat that you lost. i don't think that everyone should be pushing another cat on you if you are not ready. take you time and when you are ready go ahead and get another cat. it won't replace your dead cat but it will be the type of pet that will be there for you when you get home or when you are lonely.

Answer 8

Sorry about that. I don't know how I would feel if I lost one of our cats. Anyway you need to do your own thing and take the time you need to deceide if you want another cat. No one should force you to make a decision you have to do this yourself

Answer 9

Sorry to hear about your cat. I had a cat for 16 years, when she died it took me a long time to get over her. Dont get a new one for awhile cause it just wont be the same..good luck

Answer 10

I don't have an answer. But I used to have a cat that died when he was still young, i was very sad then. Now, I have a new one of three years a stray cat who came to us himself. He is very special and clever ^_^