What would you have done diffrently...?

Question

If you could go back when your child was still under the age of one...would you have done anything differently about the parenting technique you had? Why or why not? What worked for you and how has it effected your toddler today?

Answer 1

To be honest- nothing. We all do the best we can at the time we are training and raising our children. My children are very enjoyable to be around. I did read, and breast feed, and am at home with them, but those things are not essential, and can't think of anything I'd change. Just be the best mommy you can be. Sometimes we feel inadaquete to be their mommies, but the way they look at us,and love us is priceless. If they could talk at age 1, and if they could understand what you were saying, they would respond with: "I wouldn't want my mommy to change a thing this past year- she was the best mommy she knew how to be."

The thing that worked for me? consistency. It's the word you will hear over and over, but also don't worship your child. They are starting to express their will around 7 or 8 months. It's not cute, and it will continue into age 2 if you don't do something about it. I teach sign-language to my babies. I start at 7 months doing the sign for "please" or "all done" or "more", and by about 9 months they can do 2 out of the 3 signs, and pick up the other one in about 2 more months or so. Keep at it. Communication is key too.

Answer 2

I would have breastfed my daughter. I was pumping breastmilk at the hospital but because she was in the NICU for a week, she got used to the bottle. But I think it would've prevented her from having all these ear infections.

Also, she cried a lot so I would've probably tried this new bed called the "Amby". It helps the baby sit semi-upright and moves with the babies movement like the womb. I think it would've helped her.

I would've invested in a video camera earlier. She was so adorable. I would love to have videotaped her sleeping. She was/is so precious when asleep. It totally backs up the expression that children are gifts from God.

Answer 3

If i could go back i would have breastfed my dauaghter, and tried to spend more time with her. I was younger when i had her (16) and breastfeeding to me was ackward. If i had a baby now i would. Also i would of spent as much time as possible with her, i was still in highschool when i had my daughter, so she went to daycare, i was with her every moment before and after but they grow up so fast that i would of wanted to be with her every waking moment. What worked for me to have my awesome little girl was no to treat her like a baby. When she was learning to walk and she'd fall we'd all laugh, so now when she falls and gets hurt she wont cry. She laughs and then puts a bandaide on. Also, we always talked to her normal, so she learned to talk before she was 1. Now she's 3yrs old and in a 4yr old preschool class. And they want her to go to kindergarten.

Answer 4

I would of read out loud to them,played classical music and breastfed longer then the 2months I did....I did read to them but I wasn't consistent and today they would never pick up a good novel though they read fine.....they both play guitar but are self taught I wonder if I had instilled a greater love for music what would have happened

Answer 5

I would've held him more. I held him, but not as much as I probably could've. Everyone was in my ear about not spoiling him and blah blah blah, so I made sure he could comfortably entertain himself on the floor or in the playpen. I don't think a lil more holding him would've changed him that much.

Answer 6

I would have taken more time to enjoy him. I was a lot younger and I was more wrapped up in the issues my husband (now ex) was having. I just wish that I had taken more time to watch him and take pictures of him.

Answer 7

I would start and stick with potty training at that time, My daughter was potty trained by 2, but I know it would have been possible even earlier.