ok so0o theres this guy nd i think he likes me i mean hes always opening the do0or for me nd he asked his mom if he could take me to london nd once i walked in the room and she told me i looked at him and he smiled and he also asked my mom if he cod take me out one day if that wss ok with her! and online when he has to go he tells me it was nice talkign ot me and that he wishes he could stay! so does he like me or not i mean or is he just being nice?
and yes i do love him,but i only see him twice a year but were always talking online wut do i do to make sure his attention is alwasy on me until we see eacother again??
2006-08-17 04:07:44 · 19 answers · asked by x_brunett4life_x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he likes you a lot. Keep talking to him online and maybe on the phone. Be yourself, it won't help you to be fake. Maybe you two could make it possible to meet each other more often? You could meet in the middle. You also could send him a postcard as a surprise or a letter. Keep showing that you are interested in his life. Good luck to you!
2006-08-17 04:21:54 · answer #1 · answered by heart_angela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all he might just be well mannered, and you could be reading more into it since the men today aren't that way. Second, there is obviously some distance btw the 2 of you and that doesn't work 98% of the time. However, with that being said, you still can remain friends and perhaps one day the distance won't be an issue and he may come out and tell you how he feels. If I were you I would let it be for now. You wouldn't want to pass up another guy for one that has all of the but only ifs.
2006-08-17 04:18:17 · answer #2 · answered by str8tequila80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he really does like you more than just friends. I understand why you worry about keeping this budding relationship in his mind when you only get to actually be together at the same local twice yearly. That is a tough one, especially with the younger crowd. Not that older people don't have some of the same troubles when seperated by time and space, but the younger the involved people are the less maturity and the more prone to instant gratification. It is not an indictment of the young, it is just simple fact.
I can't tell you this will develop into a much more serious relationship. I have to be honest and say the odds are against you two making this stick. It is difficult to stay alone when one needs an emotional attachment. I know of several relationships which were fully established, then they both went off to seperate colleges, and it broke apart. Either one or both found it too difficult to maintain a long distance relationship when there are so many in the same local who are much more immediantly available. Sometimes a person will cheat and this gets back to the other member of the relationship. Often this is a guy. I am not kcocking guys, it is just guys have a bit of a harder time not engaging in sex on a regular basis. They will make the mistake that their girlfreinds will not find out as they are so far apart. The truth always comes out though. Usually the girl who is seeing the guy at college actually calls the regular girlfriend to inform her of "their" relationship, in the hopes this will gain her the exclusive rights to claim girlfriendship relationship, rather than a casual sexual one. Some women are capable of having purely sexual relationships, but the majority are really looking for more, even when they at first say they are Ok with a casual one.
I am sorry to say the odds really are not in your favor on this one. I would make a decision to give it a certain period of time and if it does not develop into a formal relationship to them allow yourself to grieve lost dreams and then move on to somebody who will be able to give you what you need. What this period of time is would be completely up to you. How much time are you willing to wait for this to grow into something deeper, something which may abide and survive the distance until you can be together all the time. Once he commits to a relationship with you and there is still this distance, you are still in a high risk situation. Again, if it develops into a more serious relationship, make a determination if you are able to withstand the time left you two will be seperated. If it is only a short period then you have a good chance of having a really lasting relationship. If it is a long period of time, there is every possibility he may turn to another woman while seperated from you.
I am sorry to tell you all this, but you deserve an honest answer, and not just some false hope that this will be an easy thing to accomplish. Each individual deserves to search for and find that which makes them happy in life. It is not fair to ask a person to put his/her life on hold for too long of a period when you are not married. There are many marriages which survive long periods of seperation, like the soldiers who go over seas to fight in wars. This is a hard life for the spouses, but they know what they are getting into when they sign up for the relationship.
So, it does sound like this young man is interested in you romantically. He may be withholding a committment due to his distance from you. He may think it would not be fair to ask you to enter a relationship where you only see your guy twice a year. It is possible he has given out these signals to let you know he is interested, and then hopes if you are still available when he gets back full time you will be willing to go out with him and explore a more serious relationship. It sounds like he is a very nice and considerate young man, putting your needs ahead of his desires.
With all the signals he has given out, it may be your turn to signal back you are very interested in pursueing a relationship even before he gets back. I suggest you gather up your courage and break the issue with him. Bring it up and directly let him know you want to enter a relationship now, rather than wait to a later time. He may be resistant due to the distance but if you are convincing enough he may agree to give it a shot. It will take a lot of courage and self confidence in yourself. Just know and remember he has already shown his interest in you. So, you are not going out on too long of a limb here. You just need to let him know exactly how interested you are too, and you are willing to wait for him to come back. I think he is coming back, right? If not, then this is another matter all together. Because if he isn't, how do you propose to have a relationship that actually has a future? You need time together as a couple to bind the two of you together.
Anyway, I encourage you to look into what you think you can deal with and then act accordanly. Talk with him about your interest and feelings. Then go from there. Be prepared for him to say he wants to wait until he is back and then see if you are still free. He does sound like a mature and considerate fellow. I think you would be lucky to have such a fine young man in your life.
Good luck and much happiness always. Blessed Be.
2006-08-17 04:51:00 · answer #3 · answered by Serenity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him. Just say I was wondering just how do you feel about me? And he should tell you. There is no way to know for sure what he is doing the rest of the time that you are not together. But if he didn't care about you he wouldn't be on line with you and he wouldn't be asking to take you to London. Honey, just ask him.
2006-08-17 04:17:39 · answer #4 · answered by angeldolls4u 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ask him how he feels about you all relationship. I going threw the same thing and we are open to one another if something is wrong Im the first to always know. If something is on his mind he feel comfortable enough to tell me no matter what it is. THR remember trust, honest, and respect is what you both need in your relationship.
2006-08-17 04:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's romantic to have someone in your life that shares everything to you... a distance relationship is a risk if you don't know what's on the other side of the world. some men are chick magnet, if you know what im saying... go and ask him if he likes you... it would not hurt anyways...
2006-08-17 04:18:31 · answer #6 · answered by basti213 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He really likes you. He wouldn't be paying you so much attention when you are together if he was just being nice.
2006-08-17 04:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by Magina 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't MAKE his attention be on you. It sounds like he likes you but it also sounds like you to have a long distance relationship. If he does like you then he would find a way to see you more often.
2006-08-17 04:14:56 · answer #8 · answered by Terra T 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i dont think he loves you, men usually start the movement and tell girls that they love her, may be he woudl tell yo some thing like, he care or, i dotn know, it is soem thing you can feel it, just try to be wise
wish you all da best
2006-08-17 05:05:02 · answer #9 · answered by tours 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good god woman u r retarded and i wont qualify this with a response cause its obvious that he likes u LOTS
2006-08-17 04:14:26 · answer #10 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋