I´ve come to know what I look for in a partner, I could easily say from a moment if a guy is interesting and that I could/couldn´t be interested of him for a loooong time. It clicks or it doesn´t. What my problem now seems to be is that how can you tell if a guy is Really interested of you, not your looks, or pleasent behaviour etc. What I´m trying to tell is that it seems for men it´s much harder to define their most suitable partner.It seems they go for the first one who is available/ has the looks/ is smart....etc. They seem to have no real idea what they really want in a partner for a long term relationship. Is this a law of nature (men must have many parners) or are men just acting stupidly and haven´t learn to be a little more pickier..though women have?
2006-08-17 04:02:46 · 15 answers · asked by Kitt 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I believe you are wrong. I've met so many completely lost girls who would fit your definition of a male behavior. On the other hand some of my (male)friends are most pickiest and have very deep understanding of what they want from their relationships.
Believe it or not, but our hearts can and have been bruised. It's just not a "privilege" of women. When it all comes crashing down you learn, hopefully. You become more aware of what and who you are, what you want. Never seen a man cry?
So, what have I learned? There's no way knowing for sure what the other person is thinking. You can only trust your intuition. That's scary, I know, but what else can you really do. At the end only those who had the courage reached happiness. You'll crash and burn on your way, but that's life?
I know I sound idealistic, but what are the other options? Cynicism? No thanks.
PS. After having my fair share of living dead relationships, I've made an oath to my self that I will never again find myself in a relationship were I cannot be 100% committed. Picky enough for you, huh?
2006-08-17 21:28:19 · answer #1 · answered by BonAqua Identity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe it or not, all men are shallow in that they look at looks first before deciding what else they like about a woman. It's human nature to be attracted to beauty. I have a feeling you haven't been looking in the right places if all the men you've met so far are only interested in short term sex relationships. Try dating older men who have been around long enough to actually know what they want, because the majority of men below around the age of thirty-five aren't interested in settling down yet.
Even though I know exactly what you mean by saying that you can tell right off when you meet someone whether you're interested in them like that or not, I still feel obligated to point out that I know you do judge them on their looks to some degree too. So what I'm saying is that you'll turn a lot of the guys that would be perfect for you off if you go around with a mindset of thinking that all men are stupid.
2006-08-17 11:06:52 · answer #2 · answered by Axel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that is necessarily true. I have my idea of my perfect mate, but yet that doesn't mean that I shoo away a man just cause he don't fit in that box. I think it goes the same for men, they have in their head what the like in women, yet if something different and interesting comes along that lacks some of the qualities that doesn't mean that they aren't worth the time. By being the way you have generalized women, you could miss out on something way better then you could have thought of, and he may be the one you didn't know you couldn't live without!
2006-08-17 11:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by str8tequila80 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what I want...and I would list it here but I think there maybe be a character count on here. I think some men are just afraid of being alone so they grab what comes up first. I continue to roll the dice and gamble until I meet my dream woman. I am comfortable with myself to be single, where many of my friends NEED to be in a relationship.. And they aren't even happy. Go figure.
2006-08-17 11:07:59 · answer #4 · answered by President25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's great that you're able to do this. But I honestly think that women do compromise as much as men. You see women that deserve better with losers all the time. If for some reason, they get rid of him, they find another loser.
2006-08-17 11:09:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bcuz a woman is more beautiful and men cant afford to lose women1
lol. altho things r going t ochange when the male to female ratio in the world wld be 1:50..men will bcom rare!!
2006-08-17 11:08:33 · answer #6 · answered by after9miles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes they do but they play the odds... 1st has to have the loooks... 2nd doesn't have to be smart, but ahs to be not dumb... 3rd and optional rich, come on this is like a critria sheet and the girls available fit the part, and then we give it a shot, girls are picky as F, and dont really give people a shot, the person you wont expect is the one you'll find, trust me
2006-08-17 11:10:37 · answer #7 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because, even if we do know what we want, women have control of the relationship before it starts, and even if most men won't admit it, we're basically insecure and have an innate fear of rejection.
2006-08-17 11:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by grizzly_r 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you are right. Men like to stalk their prey and have side dishes. Just stop worrying. Worrying make you look needy.
2006-08-17 11:08:01 · answer #9 · answered by jercha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is kind of ' law of nature'. even in animals poor male has to seek the female for procreation.accept this as a fact of life and enjoy life, babe!!
2006-08-17 11:08:28 · answer #10 · answered by DEAR T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋