Am I a crybaby:(?

Question

Okay so I am a mother of two my youngest is almost 4 weeks old. The day I came home from the hospital I walked into the kitchen and washed the dishes, Then after my sons father complained of not having clean work clothes I washed all the clothing that was dirty. I stay up with our son at night then at 6 I get my oldest (4) up for pre-k, drive him to school come home clean the house and so on.....My sons father is a fast food manager, as was I for 3 years. It's not that hard of a job. So my question is, is it wronge for me to be pissed when he complains of having no sleep (which he gets every damn night). I'm going crazy and hes whining is ridiculous. Should I continue biting my tongue for the sake of an argument or tell him thats life suck it up and shut up..........

Answer 1

when did it become YOUR job to do everything? Just because he's working doesn't mean he should have the right to whine. My ex did that when I had our Daughter. He sat around on his duff while I did it all. He said because he was working it was his right cuz he was paying the bills. You need help with babies, and I would remind him that he helped make them, he can help now.

Answer 2

I would tell him to suck it up. When I came home from the hospital with a new baby and already had 2- three year olds at home, and my husband told me to do the dishes (we didn't have a dish washer - or any money for that matter) I called Best Buy and had them deliver a dishwashing machine and told him he could do them.

When you first have a baby your hormones are all screwy and you are exhausted.

I would fight for the point of it. I have also been a fast food store manager and he isn't working as hard as he says.

You both need to take turns.. and he should be picking up about 5 notches...

My girls are all now 12 and 15, and we survived.. but I didn't back down.

Terri

Answer 3

Your baby is only 4 weeks old, well that is still a newborn. Most women go through this. My husband worked full time, so I got up for th 2 am feedings. Sometimes the laundry falls behind and so does housework this is just temporary, things will straighten out eventually. He is just going to have to understand, having a baby is the hardest job I have ever had, I got zero help from family. And no you are not a crybaby. By the way, when my husband didn't help with laundry while I was working full time, I quit doing his, and it worked.

Answer 4

I think that you and your husband should sit and CALMLY have a talk. Tell him how you feel, and allow him to tell you how he feels. The two of you should work out an arrangement so that all responsibilities are balanced.

Whining Adults are Immature Adults. Whining is for babies or people who developmentally do not or are not capable of expressing themselves in some sort of language or gestures.

Biting your tongue is not helping the situation, but keep in mind, flying off the handle would not help either, neither does using swear words.

So, get a piece of paper, write down what you'd like to discuss, suggest he do the same thing, and the both of you sit and talk.

Blessings To You & Yours

Answer 5

No you're not a cry baby and the fact that you came home from the hospital after giving birth to his child and had to clean, that makes me so mad. You refer to him as your son's father so I am assuming you're not even married to this jack_ss. When did you sell yourself into slavery honey? One of three things is going to happen, you leave and let him live in the pigstye alone, you discuss this with him and convince him you need his help, or the post-partum kicks in and you beat him to death with a breast pump. Give him those options darlin, and tell him what happens next is up to him. Keep going like this and you'll end up in the mental ward and your baby needs you. The newborn, not the adult baby. If he wants a mother, let him screw his own.

Answer 6

Oh, Lordy.

You are not a crybaby, which you already knew.

I have, however, some prime adjectives for your husband...which you ALSO know, I suspect.

The real problem here is how do you go from being the Family Slave to being a wife & mother?

I think you know the answer to that one, too. The problem is the confrontation that must occur.

I sure wish you the best; you're clearly intelligent, you just need encouragement to do what you know you must.

Good luck!

Answer 7

look girl am not saying that you are but you always have to think that there other people out there that have it worse. I am single momof 4 (boys) I get up at five to get ready I take about 40minutes to get dressed those 40 minutes is all the time I have to my self after that its all over. Yes your husben should help out but your the mom its on you to run the house. I think both of yall need to sit down and talk that the only way to make things work

Answer 8

It's time for you to employ the backhanded pimp slap on your husband. When he wakes up off the floor, tell him he can sweep, mop and wax it, and while he's at it, he can do some other housework so you can rest. You didn't make that baby by yourself. Any real man would help his wife. This guy is a BOY.

Answer 9

MEN. They love the sex but not the results. They are all big babies and they hate the excus that you had to take care of the baby becuase they want you to take care of them. TELL him life sucks and show him how to use a washer and how to iron a shirt and if he doesn't like that explain that he is in this with you and that you need his support

Answer 10

No, not a crybaby! My husband is the same freaking way, and we have five kids. I work all day, as does he, but I am supposed to cook, clean, supervise homework, etc. while he lays on the couch! Good Luck, honey! I tried to get my man to be more helpful, and all he ever says, is that his mom did it all.......MEN!