Well im 15 and I cant help but cheat i have 5 boyfriends all at the same school ,i just started dating and im just so excited that i wanna just date every cute guy in sight im a huge flirt and I know that its wrong I dont know how to stop and some of these guy actually love me i dont know i say i love them to but it cant be true if im cheating on them all the girls think im a goddess to be getting all these guys now everyone wants to be my friend and all the jocks for some reason always want to talk to me, when last year i was just the cute funny freshman i hope im not sounding concieted I dont mean to come across as that.... but how do i stop being trifiling and what do i do about the five guys
2006-08-17 03:48:59 · 47 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are already on the way to overcoming your inability to control yourself. The first step to finding a solution is know the problem and since you admit that you have a problem and that what you are doing is wrong, you are on your way to stopping it. Now first thing first, you must agree that you want to have just one date and that you must openly tell others that you have a date. It's no use decieving the guys as the truth will one day be know and you will look like a thing of ridicule. Decide now to stop it and ask God to give you the ability to control your emotions and desires and in a week or two, you will come over it. Remember, you must decide and stand on your decision - nothing more can help you. Good Luck.
2006-08-17 03:57:21 · answer #1 · answered by www.TerrySoft.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are only 15, you have your whole life ahead of you. I know this seems like a fuddy answer, but concentrate more on school than boys. Trust me, you will be better off in the long run. Flirtting is fine, as long as it stays at that level. Boys (and girls) will take everything out of context anyway - why should you give them reason to talk bad about you? Highschool boys (okay so are men, women, and everyone in-between) are users. They will say things to make you "love" them. Take it easy and slow down. Guys are a dime a dozen. You are better than that or you would not be writing. :)
2006-08-17 03:56:51 · answer #2 · answered by Cindi M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... just STOP. Gain some control over yourself, and actually influence the people who like you in a GOOD way, instead of making everyone think cheating is fine. Personally, I don't really get influenced by 'popular' people, but others who look up too you are watching what your doing, and its not right. Theres nothing else I can tell you. You just need to WANT to have one person, and you need to be faithful. If not, you may start getting a bad name if any of your 'boy toys' find out that there are 4 other guys, like the word W*ore, I'm not trying to be mean, but its the truth. Good luck.
2006-08-17 03:55:56 · answer #3 · answered by PeachyFixation 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i had to go through the kinda same phase at 15, i am 18 now and still a big flirt but I have only 1 bf whom I love & I juss flirt wid all the other guys, cheating is not a good thing, once when everybody finds out everyone will hate u, dats why u should get 1 bf only & juss flirt wid the rest of them, in dat case u r not cheating & flirting at the same time
2006-08-17 03:55:33 · answer #4 · answered by Preeya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with dating lots of guys when your young
at 15, you are too young to date at all, but if you choose to do so, it is smart to date lots of guys and not get stuck in a serious relationship
that can wait a few years
when dating lots of guys you should be honest with them, let them know you are not ready for a steady relationship with one person, but want to meet lots of guys
I'm not talking about promiscuity, dating does not mean sex, it means dating. Dating is also not courting, again these should come later in your life if you want to have a fun and healthy adolescance and set the stage for a joyful life.
Be smart. Be careful. Be honest. Date every decent boy in the school if you want and you can.
2006-08-17 03:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by enginerd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont tell them you love them If you honestly dont mean it. That will hurt them so bad, trust me.. I just went threw it the other day when i THOUGHT i loved a guy and he really did love me and He started talking bout our future and i freaked and i realized it was just lust and i hurt him, and its not a good feeling at all. and If you honestly keep doing that your gonna have a repuation as a "****" and guys will only get with you to have sex. and i think that you should break up with the five guys and just flirt and have fun till your ready to have acommitment and a long term relationship..
2006-08-17 03:57:28 · answer #6 · answered by STFUbeezy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with the guys you date. Tell them that you're young and you don't want a serious relationship but you want to meet and have fun with many different guys before you decide you're ready to settle down with just one boyfriend. There's nothing wrong with flirting with lots of guys or going on dates with lots of guys. Just don't mislead them about your intentions. That's not cheating.
Honesty is always the best policy.
2006-08-17 03:55:59 · answer #7 · answered by Steven S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever seen a girl dog in heat? All the boy dogs follow her around with their noses up her butt. They know she's putting out and want their share. People are no different. Guys tell. And when a girl is putting out, everybody knows. Girls that are very popular. Usually are for a reason.
2006-08-17 04:03:23 · answer #8 · answered by Cal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to stop it right now! If you continue down this road...you will not have a single friend. Nobody likes to be cheated on and nobody likes people who abuse other people. That is exactly what you are doing. It is just wrong to treat people like this. You get back what you give in this life. You are destroying your own life.
2006-08-17 03:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by Dominika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick the one you like most and hang onto him. Get rid of the rest. Popularity is engaging at first but you must always be careful. Boys have a habit of saying intimate things happen even if they don't. Your reputation in the school could go downhill if those type of rumours spread. Finally, if you are or are considering sexual activity be sure to speak to your parents or a school counsellor to ensure you protect yourself. I personally do not advocate underage sex but if you are going to do it be sure you are safe.
2006-08-17 03:56:49 · answer #10 · answered by M M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋