I been living with my boyfriend for 4 yrs and have a 2 yr old baby boy he ask me to merry him 3 months ago but i feel that it still to early because am still young am 18 yr and we live with my mom we dont have a house for our selfs and we fight here in there what i do. Do i say yes or no ,i do love him.
2006-08-17 03:45:54 · 15 answers · asked by chaparra 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
In the end, only you can truly make that decision for yourself. Keep in mind, however, all couples fight. That is nothing new or out of the ordinary, especially in a stressful environment (like living with your parents).
You may feel that you are too young to be married, but really, you're also too young to be having children. Please don't take that in a bad way. I just mean, that things happen even if you don't plan for them to happen and the child should have his father around.
You just need to follow your heart. Your heart will tell you when things are right and when they are not. Perhaps you should have a serious talk with your boyfriend about the whole situation. You will need to communicate well if you wish to maintain a marriage over the long term and a home with poor communication is a poor place to bring up a child.
Good luck! I wish the best for you!
2006-08-17 03:58:00 · answer #1 · answered by steele_feher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I've never been in a situation like this. I would say, wait a while find a well paying job. With that money you could buy an apartment. Then once two or three years have pasted, say I do. By then you will have a good job that pays the rent and takes care of your family and two loving people in your life. And may I leave you with a small suggestion... Don't buy a pet! They cost way to much money that at least for the time being should be focused on your family.
2006-08-17 11:17:13 · answer #2 · answered by sodamngood 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although I think that living with your bf at the age of 14 is really really weird and would not recommend it, I will tell you to ask your bf for some time and think about your future. Can you imagine with him, in your own house, raising a kid, only the 2 of you. If that thought makes you happy, go for it and start planning how are you gonna afford a house. If not, stay with your mom, tell her you're not ready yet and rethink your whole concept of relationship
2006-08-17 10:56:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone fights here and there. You have a two year old child. If you love him, marry him. If you don't love him, don't marry him. Your child needs two loving parents. You should get jobs and save up to get your own place. But marry the guy if you love him. I've been married since I was 18 (over 30 years now). Having a child makes you grow up faster, that's all. You have responsibilities.
2006-08-17 11:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry Him and Move Out!!! Your relationship is not going to mature until you are on your own. Anyways you did not tought you were young when you decide to have a baby.. Open your eyes, you are a grown up now and have a big responsability..
2006-08-17 10:54:42 · answer #5 · answered by Kelly,TX 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i do believe ur young. and i think that u should wait. it's still early for u. u should wait till u guys have ur own home and enough money to raise the familyl\. if u have that then u would be ready sweety..so i mean u should say yes but be engaged for a while..
2006-08-17 10:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by •°iiFia1125°• 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Though all the arguments,all the fights,all the dis agreements do u still love him?There's your answer. say yes.u have a family already.my grandmother was married at 16.
2006-08-17 10:51:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been living with him since you were 14 in your mom's house???? First of all I'd go back to school and study grammar.
2006-08-17 10:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by Wurm™ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl, listen to ur instinct. but it's no doubt kind of early. and normally u will face lots of problems for early marrieages because both of u havent really mature up and know much bout outside world. but listen to ur heart sis...
2006-08-17 10:57:26 · answer #9 · answered by Autumn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does he have a job? does he have plans for the future like getting your own house? you have to consider lots of things first
2006-08-17 10:53:08 · answer #10 · answered by dede 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋